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have you ever experienced Stendahl's Syndrome [extreme and hard-to-control emotions/psychosomatic reactions when exposed to things of great beauty or nobility or sentimentality]?

Fascinating (I had to look it up)...
but no, I can't say I've felt that. Is it something you've experienced?

yes, for better or worse. i've had to go run and hide when i saw something, while in the presence of other folks, that excited the syndrome. last time i remember, it was a mandarin er hu artist playing some mournful chinese folk song on tv, i was in the employee breakroom, i suddenly flushed, got hot, very sad, hyperventilated, hadda go hide and weep in the utility room.

Single and unless something really weird happens that's not changing s**t

Always have been single

36 years old

Long term unemployed
Autism
Gender identity Disorder

Six personality disorders officially diagnosed

And I thought I was emotional for crying at the movies

it was like exposure flipped some general emotion switch in my brain on to 100%, combination of happy/sad/afraid/angry/nervous etc. all at once.

That's tough.
Are you able to access therapy? I've heard 'acceptance and commitment therapy' can help with some of the personality disorders (though I've never done it myself, just heard from others).

Mrs peel


Last year the counselor told me that the insurance usually rejects applications for the third year of counseling. But she thought it would take my application because "neurodiverse" and "chronic" depression



Last week the insurance told me the phone number of a counselor


Have not called the counselor yet


But it's the fortieth counselor.

Cognitive behavioral therapy

One year

One hour, every other week


Finding a romantic relationship is low on priority


Job, hobby, goal, friend

Whatever s**t



Don't particularly want a relationship

Yes, a romantic relationship is not for everyone. And can create its own difficulties, sometimes.
I was just thinking 6 personality disorders seems a lot to be dealing with...
I hope they let you do more therapy, anyway, or you get a chance at a job. Sometimes it just takes one opportunity to turn things around.

Hoping for something doesn't make it happen

You have no authority over whether the insurance gives me a counselor

Neither do I

Counselor Jamie Adair correctly told me that "counseling can help"

Which counselor and which client at what time





Counseling can "help", "hurt", both or neither


You can't guarantee just the first one

"Actions speak louder than words"

"Loose lips sink ships"




A job is the same way


Ass holes keep firing me

39

Currently single, but have been in relationships before.

Thanks, Tim.

Update: Currently sitting at 62% single, 22% separated/divorced, 32% married and expect to remain so, with 37 votes.

I'm interested to know, out of those who are separated or divorced, if you don't mind my asking, who initiated the split?

In my case, although I initiated, it took me 20 years to do it and things had got pretty bad, I was copping verbal and emotional abuse and probably should have left long before.
So there was a huge amount if inertia on my part, and I wonder if this is an AS thing, that once we are in a relationship we don't want things to change? "Resistance to Change" is considered a trait, after all.
Discuss...

^^^to answer your most recent question, was dumped after about a year.

True, but hope can help us stay positive, and I find people react better to positivity.
Not meaning to be naive or insensitive, I know it can be tough if no-one ever gives you a break. Please don't take offense.
Just seems to me that if the past is not to be repeated in the future, one has to believe that the pattern can be broken.
So I'll continue to hope on your behalf

Ouch.