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ASDs: Blessings, Curses, or Neutral?
Totally Blessed: I see nothing wrong with having an ASD. 9%  9%  [ 12 ]
Mostly Blessed: It has some cursedness too. 29%  29%  [ 37 ]
Neutral: It's just the way I am, for better or worse. 30%  30%  [ 38 ]
Mostly Cursed: It has some blessedness too. 17%  17%  [ 22 ]
Totally Cursed: I see no benefit to having an ASD. 7%  7%  [ 9 ]
There is no Planet-X / Ice Cream joke for this poll. 1%  1%  [ 1 ]
Other: ________________ (Please Elaborate Below). 7%  7%  [ 9 ]
Total votes : 128

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22 Apr 2013, 2:43 pm

So far, it seems that most people consider an ASD to be more of a blessing than a curse, with about 50% more in favor of "Blessing" than "Curse", and 80% more in favor of neutrality than "Curse".

It looks like the majority of people have either learned to live with their ASD or they've turned their ASD around to their advantage!



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22 Apr 2013, 3:06 pm

Fnord wrote:
So far, it seems that most people consider an ASD to be more of a blessing than a curse, with about 50% more in favor of "Blessing" than "Curse", and 80% more in favor of neutrality than "Curse".

It looks like the majority of people have either learned to live with their ASD or they've turned their ASD around to their advantage!


It only makes sense that people who have an interest in advocacy would not vote negatively about how they feel about their condition - Not everyone who visits this subforum is but I'm saying a disproportionate fraction of people. Your results might have been different if this was posted in a different subforum?



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22 Apr 2013, 3:12 pm

BraveMurderDay wrote:
Fnord wrote:
So far, it seems that most people consider an ASD to be more of a blessing than a curse, with about 50% more in favor of "Blessing" than "Curse", and 80% more in favor of neutrality than "Curse". It looks like the majority of people have either learned to live with their ASD or they've turned their ASD around to their advantage!
It only makes sense that people who have an interest in advocacy would not vote negatively about how they feel about their condition - Not everyone who visits this subforum is but I'm saying a disproportionate fraction of people. Your results might have been different if this was posted in a different subforum?

Your hypothesis seems testable; however, posting the same poll in multiple fora constitutes spamming, which is a bannable offense, and I'm not about to go there willingly.



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22 Apr 2013, 3:18 pm

BraveMurderDay wrote:
It only makes sense that people who have an interest in advocacy would not vote negatively about how they feel about their condition - Not everyone who visits this subforum is but I'm saying a disproportionate fraction of people. Your results might have been different if this was posted in a different subforum?


Eh, I'd say that the results look consistent with WP as a whole. Presumably you'd get a different outcome if you posted on Brand X's web site.


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29 Apr 2013, 3:01 pm

I am neutral about it as it is just the way i am accept it.



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29 Apr 2013, 6:48 pm

I see it as both a blessing and a curse. I enjoy my special interests, the extra insight being Autistic has given me, and my lack of the desire to conform. However, I could do without the poor social skills, anxiety, and mood swings.

As frustrating as the negative aspects can be, I see no point in dwelling on them, as many people here do. To dwell on the negative aspects of oneselfis to condemn oneself to a life of misery, self loathing, and resentment. Things will never be "perfect" but self-acceptance is the first step towards a more pleasurable existence.



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29 Apr 2013, 7:57 pm

You know, I really used to be in the neutral-to-blessing camp.

I still look in the mirror or drive down the road and think, "I like me. I love me. Just the way I am."

I have to fight really, really hard to suppress that kind of thinking.

Because it's not the condition that makes the condition a curse. The condition just is, like xerogenesis pigmentosa or astigmatism or Reynaud's phenomenon. Well, more like astigmatism or Reynaud's than XP.

It's social attitudes that make the curse.

Social attitudes aren't changing any time soon. Maybe someday. Given human nature, I really doubt it-- but maybe someday. Someday when there are a lot less people, life is a lot harder, and we can't afford to throw anyone with anything to contribute away.

Maybe someday. But not anytime soon.

It's not you, guys. It's them.

That still doesn't change the facts. I wish I had been aborted. I wish I had known I was going to see it this way fifteen years ago, instead of bringing a bunch of BAP kids into the world because I was full of idealistic positive-attitude bullshit. I love them. They are my light and my joy. Wonderful people with lots to contribute.

That doesn't change the fact that, given current societal attitudes, they are born to struggle more than average. Or the fact that, if they are not very very careful in mate selection (or heed Mommy's advice to be celibate or sterilized), they could all very realistically have kids that are born to struggle, suffer, and fail.

Attitudes are what need to change. I have no power to alter what others think; for one such as me, the attempt to change those attitudes through self-advocacy is going to be dismissed as selfish and rude, simply a condition of my disease.

Therefore I am left to accept the facts. I have struggled against this for years; finally, I gave up. It is sad, but true.


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13 Jun 2013, 10:16 pm

I see having Asperger's as a blessing for me. Sure, there are challenges, but everyone has challenges.

Now, for a few reasons why it is a blessing for me:

*I am a talent savant and have advanced skills in being able to play musical instruments I become fascinated with.
*My special intense interests have always provided me with fascinating explorations in life that are extremely fun.
*I pay attention to detail which has been a definite advantage for my family and me.


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14 Jun 2013, 12:42 am

An absolute curse when I was younger...
An absolute blessing now that I am older...

Option "b" for me...


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14 Jun 2013, 3:15 pm

Curse mostly.i think there are great things about being this way.but it hasnt done anything to make my life better.


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17 Jun 2013, 2:36 pm

A curse I'm trying to turn into a blessing.



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21 Jun 2013, 6:23 pm

I regard the truth as being both. In any case, iv e just grown into my habits as we say.
Of course I know I sound different to everyone else I meet, but sometimes the strategy for being
the way you are can sometimes pay off, if you use the right attitude instead of dividing your gifts and talents, for being whatever you are.
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22 Jun 2013, 1:49 pm

I'd say mine was sort of a blessing. Not having many friends and sometimes none at all caused me to have little influences from the outside world. I filled a lot of my time up with reading, mostly religious literature and zoology. So now I have become a pretty moral and philosophical guy with a strong interest in insects. I enjoy being different from everyone else, even if that does mean having few friends. However, all my other autistic characteristics have caused quite a few problems over the years and thus are a curse.


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23 Jun 2013, 8:21 am

I think it's allowed me to grow in different areas that if I were NT, wouldn't be the case. I've been discriminated against because of it more than praised, so I went with "it being a curse". It has positives, and negatives, I guess it depends on the perspective. I found a comfort zone where I'm able to confide with other aspies, the community itself is brilliant. Overall, maybe I'd go with neutral.



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30 Jun 2013, 11:53 pm

it used to be a blessing since I quickly learned english and got the highest honors in school. i remember thinking about graphs and probability at the age of 5 and wishing i could read "adult books"/advanced math books but my parents never had any since they dropped out after elementary school T_T. Now I have sensory issues that come and go which sucks but im still #1 in school even without accommodations