Is it normal to look naturally older than your age?

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17 Jul 2019, 8:18 am

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I don't know about that. I'm about to turn 35 and one of my co-workers thought I was 22.

Generally, people think I'm younger than I look, and I don't do much to myself (never put on makeup, never dye my hair, things like that) to give people the impression that I look younger than I am.
I think when people guess ages they tend to factor in things in addition to looks. Us Aspies tend to be immature socially & in other ways when compared to our NT peers & those things might get factored in maybe on a subconscious level. I've read more than a few posts during my time on this forum about how us Aspies tend to get mistaken for being younger. Some think that us Aspies tend to age physically slower but I never read anything about physically aging slower or looking young for our ages being a diagnostic feature of autism or even that so-called autism experts & specialist consider it a sign/symptom of autism. Plus I read about studies that people on the autism spectrum tend to die a little younger than NTs. If us autistics were indeed aging physically slower than our NT peers, we would be living longer lives instead of shorter 1s. It makes more sense to me that when others are judging our ages things like our mannerisms, way we dress, & facial expressions are also getting factored in


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17 Jul 2019, 9:00 am

I'd expect Aspies to die younger if they have to endure constant stress all their lives, such as living in a crowded neighborhood with noisy neighbors and having to shop in stores with bright lights all the time.

Skin damage from the sun makes people look old. It is really obvious if you look at people's faces.



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18 Jul 2019, 9:53 am

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I'd expect Aspies to die younger if they have to endure constant stress all their lives, such as living in a crowded neighborhood with noisy neighbors and having to shop in stores with bright lights all the time.

Skin damage from the sun makes people look old. It is really obvious if you look at people's faces.
Stress also makes people age faster & look older.


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04 Sep 2019, 3:21 am

Why should it be normal?

I also look older because I look very aged (wrinkles, grey skin). Once at work a colleague asked me how old I am. I said 26. His mouth opened in astonishment and he said: 'you look much older!' Then he added 'not that it is a bad thing...' because he didn't want to offend me. I then asked another colleague if he also thinks I look older. He said yes, but not much, only by 1-2 years. Around that time I also found a grey hair that must have been growing since I was 25. I have forehead wrinkles and wrinkles next to my mouth. What makes it worse is that I have unclear skin and acne with wrinkles means I look like an old woman stuck in puberty. :?

It isn't normal though. Young women's faces on average aren't as wrinkled and grey as mine.



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05 Sep 2019, 5:10 pm

Some people look naturally older than their age, myself for instance. I am hirsute and can easily grow beards. Big boned too. Probably a mesomorph that has so much muscle it looks like I am an ectomorph. Bald patch early. Got pretty heavy for a while too (about 300 lb.).

Now that I went Vegan feel younger and look younger, which is satisfying. btw, soda will definitely age you. I was drinking a liter a day of both milk and soda before I quite that particular addiction.

So, pretty normal to look older. Best of Luck :)


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05 Sep 2019, 7:52 pm

Oh yeah, just realized one more thing. There are diseases that cause rapid onset of aging and death :skull: If you do feel like you are abnormally aging too fast, it is at least possible. Gotta see a doctor then 8O Not trying to give you fright, and only you can know. Progeria is the only disease I know specifically related to genes about that, but have bad feeling there could be others. Diet plays a role in epigenitic expression which can age you and lead to diseases such as: CVD, Stroke, Heart Attack, Death, etc...

Some people do look naturally older than their age. When I was 12 I looked 16. By the time I was 16 I could have passed for 21. Happens. Take Care 'Yall! :nerdy:


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05 Sep 2019, 10:31 pm

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Some people look naturally older than their age, myself for instance. I am hirsute and can easily grow beards. Big boned too. Probably a mesomorph that has so much muscle it looks like I am an ectomorph. Bald patch early. Got pretty heavy for a while too (about 300 lb.).
The hairsuit & bald patch could be related to hormones. Also some of the preteens & tweens who look older have hit puberty early which is also related to hormones. There are hormone meds that can treat that stuff. I know cuz I researched em a bit & got on some that reduce testosterone to reduce my sex drive, male-pattern baldness, & body & facial hair growth.


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19 Oct 2019, 5:53 pm

I just turned 30 and someone asked me if I went to the local high school. I don't know what makes people look older then their other other then the fact they must have had a very hard life. Life will harden you up really good o_o



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19 Oct 2019, 10:23 pm

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I just turned 30 and someone asked me if I went to the local high school. I don't know what makes people look older then their other other then the fact they must have had a very hard life. Life will harden you up really good o_o
Us Aspies do tend to have harder lives in some ways compared to NTs. The stress of living in a world that is designed & set up for people who are wired differently can cause a lot of stress & other mental problems. Us Aspies also tend to take various psych meds & some of those meds can be hard on the body.


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20 Oct 2019, 3:19 am

I'm turning 26 in less than a month and I still get carded occasionally for buying liquor when I shave my beard. I do look a fair bit older than I did a year ago, probably because I've been smoking. :x


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20 Oct 2019, 9:25 am

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I'm turning 26 in less than a month and I still get carded occasionally for buying liquor when I shave my beard. I do look a fair bit older than I did a year ago, probably because I've been smoking. :x
I don't know about where you live but here in the US, some places require people to look older than other places do when the person is buying alcohol or cigarettes. I worked at WalMart & they require you to look like your a certain age in your 30s in order not to card for cigs & they require people to look like they're in their 40s(or maybe 50) in order not to card when buying alcohol. Some places don't require people to look as old & some have a policy of always carding everyone. For example I'm almost 37 & I had to show ID whenever I bought cough-syrup at RiteAid & I've seen them card people who look to be seniors for alcohol. I never had to show ID when buying cough-syrup at WalMart thou.


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21 Oct 2019, 1:46 pm

Everyone is different. I looked older than I was until I was about 20, then things reversed and I've looked younger than I am ever since. If I shave my beard off, I look even younger still. My niece looks her age, my sister looks older, my parents look younger. Everyone ages different, and it can be affected by a number of things. As they say, your mileage may vary. And it's not always purely looks - they way someone acts, moves, dresses, or speaks can also affect how old they appear to be.



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23 Oct 2019, 4:30 am

I had a couple people in the past few days tell me they thought I was a lot younger when I told them I was turning 26. Feels good. :D


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