Does anyone here identify as nonbinary?

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01 Mar 2021, 4:20 pm

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I was accepted into one on Facebook by just saying my identity and wanting to understand more. Maybe they just did not get around to it yet.


Yeah, that must be it. It's only been four days.


The group I joined is called Non-Binary Gender Pride, I do remember the group requiring to submit why they want to join it. Are you able to say what you wrote?


That's the one that never acknowledged my request to join. There is an associated "social space" group, and I noticed in that one they request you join the social space before the gender pride one, so that's what I did.

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As is, I only rarely go on, I am far too shy for a lot of social networking, mostly a way to feel some affirmation by seeing other people.


I posted pictures and my story and got hundreds of reactions and comments. That's pretty affirming, too.



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07 Mar 2021, 6:55 am

I'd say I do. I'm really not sure what "flavor" of nonbinary I am, but I fall somewhere under that umbrella. I don't mind blending in as a garden variety bisexual guy, but it doesn't really tell the whole story.

It'd be nice if WP let us change and customize the listed gender in our profiles.

Also, this is my 7000th post!


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08 Mar 2021, 6:58 am

I've been thinking I might be non-binary or something like that for years now, and the more I think about it, the more right it seems. I'm not really good at articulating it, but I just... don't feel male or female. I cringe when people talk about masculinity, and I'm not exactly feminine either. I've actually fantasised quite a lot about looking really androgynous.

However, I'm really hesitant to talk about this with people I know IRL. I just... don't think most of the people I know would understand.



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09 Mar 2021, 8:55 am

Not exactly but then I'm also not sure what else I would rationally say about me.


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01 Apr 2021, 9:25 am

Another enby here. :)

I don't usually add sublabels to my nonbinary-ness, but I think the closest description would be "androgyne"; my gender definitely has both feminine and masculine elements to it, and I'm comfortable being perceived as either a woman or a man (...though I almost never get perceived as the latter because I'm small with soft features, I have a love of florals, and I have, uh, certain assets), but I'm not exactly a woman or a man, and I'd prefer to be seen as androgynous (though I know that most people have the natural tendency to put people in one box or the other).


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02 Apr 2021, 1:23 pm

A bit of relevant history: The main founder of the autistic rights movement, Jim Sinclair, was intersex, hence also nonbinary.


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02 Apr 2021, 1:45 pm

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A bit of relevant history: The main founder of the autistic rights movement, Jim Sinclair, was intersex, hence also nonbinary.


Lots of intersex people are binary, the two don't always follow.


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30 Apr 2021, 8:15 pm

How do you feel about cis people using they as a pronoun for themselves? I go by she / her but I'm also fine with they. However, I don't usually say that because it tends to open up a bunch of questions. I feel like how much my gender is a part of my identity varies. How I felt about my chest really varied a lot during puberty. Some days I wanted it to be flat, other days I wanted my chest to be bigger. Now I'm comfortable with my chest and no longer desire for them to be detachable. I think I feel most comfortable in semi-fitted T-shirts and unbuttoned baggy shirts over them. Baggy shirts downplay my shoulders, which I've been made to feel insecure about, and semi-fitted T-shirts give me some shape. I like my hair the most when it's in a bob.

Sometimes I wish I could be feminine in the way men are, as a form of self-expression rather than fulfilling an expectation. I do like men's fashion that is described as feminine but it's still fairly androgynous. A part of me wants to buy men's shirts and wear black nail polish. My identity is female yet I'm also just a brain in a vessel that happens to be female and if you wanna call me they that's fine.


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30 Apr 2021, 9:00 pm

My understanding is that pronouns don't have to be a one to one to gender identity, especially with gender being complicated it can be better to just trust someone to know what feels right. Although I would honestly be a bit jealous that a cis person can say they might like "they", since I don't really correct anyone over my own because being chicken.


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01 May 2021, 6:10 am

Lost_dragon wrote:
How do you feel about cis people using they as a pronoun for themselves? I go by she / her but I'm also fine with they. However, I don't usually say that because it tends to open up a bunch of questions. I feel like how much my gender is a part of my identity varies. How I felt about my chest really varied a lot during puberty. Some days I wanted it to be flat, other days I wanted my chest to be bigger. Now I'm comfortable with my chest and no longer desire for them to be detachable. I think I feel most comfortable in semi-fitted T-shirts and unbuttoned baggy shirts over them. Baggy shirts downplay my shoulders, which I've been made to feel insecure about, and semi-fitted T-shirts give me some shape. I like my hair the most when it's in a bob.

Sometimes I wish I could be feminine in the way men are, as a form of self-expression rather than fulfilling an expectation. I do like men's fashion that is described as feminine but it's still fairly androgynous. A part of me wants to buy men's shirts and wear black nail polish. My identity is female yet I'm also just a brain in a vessel that happens to be female and if you wanna call me they that's fine.

Are you me? 8O

Other than a problem with shoulders and wanting hair in a bob that's exactly how I feel. I wouldn't be bothered by cis people using "they" for themselves. I could never decide if I was female or non-binary, now I'm wondering about agender. Sometimes it seems important, sometimes completely irrelevant.


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02 May 2021, 11:57 am

I think cis people using they is fine. Pronouns do not equal gender after all.


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