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Nightwing82
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06 Nov 2024, 11:16 pm

I never felt like I'm not a male, and never objected to the pronouns he/him. I'm only sensually attracted to women. But I was never comfortable with my assigned gender roles or conforming to what is generally expected from a boy or man. And for some reason, identifying as a man does feel entirely right.



Nightwing82
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07 Nov 2024, 5:19 pm

Edited for correction.

I accidently left off a very crucial "not", which changed the intended meaning. Apologies for the confusion.

Nightwing82 wrote:
I never felt like I'm not a male, and never objected to the pronouns he/him. I'm only sensually attracted to women. But I was never comfortable with my assigned gender roles or conforming to what is generally expected from a boy or man. And for some reason, identifying as a man does feel not entirely right.



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07 Nov 2024, 5:35 pm

dunno maybe try it out



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14 Nov 2024, 1:18 am

seconding the advice to try it out : )

personally, I felt similarly to you when I started questioning my gender. After some agonizing, I took some of the pressure off myself by not treating it as binding/permanent. If you try identifying as non-binary for a while, but then come to realize that's not a good fit for you, you can always go back to identifying with your assigned gender. No matter what the outcome is, I think just letting yourself explore and question is healthy.

I'll also add that personally, once I gave myself "permission" to identify as non-binary, I felt a huge sense of relief and realized pretty quickly that I didn't want to go back. Your experience might be very different, but I hope it might bring you some clarity either way.

Good luck!!



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14 Nov 2024, 2:44 am

Nightwing82 wrote:
I never felt like I'm not a male, and never objected to the pronouns he/him. I'm only sensually attracted to women. But I was never comfortable with my assigned gender roles or conforming to what is generally expected from a boy or man. And for some reason, identifying as a man does feel entirely right.


I had the notion at 13 that I might like to be a girl for a change. But then I thought about my body and how it is changing and how I definitely was moving away from a girl's body. I was growing taller, my voice was deepening and so on. It seemed rather impractical and of limited benefit and certain disadvantage.

Perhaps in the future, we can download our individuality to a computer, then upload into a new body whenever the old one is used up or unsatisfactory in some way. Or perhaps we can upload into a body with both genders. I am all for it.

I do think that organic bodies are the way to go, because they are more efficient and self-sustaining than metallic robot bodies. Nothing is better than cells that can repair and replace.


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14 Nov 2024, 6:33 am

Nightwing82 wrote:
I never felt like I'm not a male, and never objected to the pronouns he/him. I'm only sensually attracted to women. But I was never comfortable with my assigned gender roles or conforming to what is generally expected from a boy or man. And for some reason, identifying as a man does feel entirely right.


Did you mean to put sexually attracted to women, rather than "sensually"? :chin:

Do whatever you feel comfortable with. Being non-binary is less stigmatized than it used to be, at least, in the current day, in a lot of places anyway.



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21 Nov 2024, 6:22 pm

Only you can answer this, and it is okay for you to question yourself and change your mind unless you find the right fit. Maybe gender-fluid?