yes and no but not for the more common reasons. the primary rationale would be that gay men have a well established fort in the feminine and aggressive territory and i very much relate to that. i don't do meek, or one-dimensional nurturing. i despise the color pink as shorthand for girls and women, and i like all sorts of things that "average" women define as male (geek stuff primarily). even still, i swoon for all the typical appearance trappings of femininity (makeup, impossible shoes, and lingerie), not because i have to, but because i choose to. they don't make me more feminine, they just appeal to my aesthetics.
i am a confirmed and devoted 'hag' as they say, and i accept queer people of all stripes and types, i have to say i relate best to those gay men that are intensely themselves, unapologetic, about their effeminate qualities, and fierce. i feel like i share a gender with them much more than i do with the many women that i meet.