Shygrrrl wrote:
Long story short i met this guy who told me he is high functioning autistic. He also told me he has a girlfriend that he's dated for 6 years. He's told me he's not interested in her romantically and they fight all the time and that he's been "dating around" for 2 years. He really likes me and wants me to move in with him but can't because she lives with him(he feels bad for her and she pays nothing). I can very much relate to his current situation my issue is... I'm not sure if i can trust him? I have told him my fears (like being dumped in two months for his ex((6 years is a long time)))and he says nothing. So I'm not sure how to comprehend that. I genuinely like him but ive been hurt pretty bad in the past I'm also diagnosed with ptsd and bi polar. I don't want to be a home wrecker either. Would anybody like to share their opinions?
Are you asking us if you should trust a man who cheats on his current girlfriend not to cheat on you?
No. Of course not. Why would you think you should?
Cheating has nothing to do with the person being cheated on and everything to do with the person who is doing the cheating. So there will not be something special about you that changes his behavior.
Are you asking if you can trust him not to dump you? You can't trust anyone not to ever dump you. Relationships are conditional and there are instances where people should be dumped. If, when you first meet someone, you will only date them on the condition that they promise to never dump you, you are essentially demanding a life commitment from day 1. That is unreasonable unless this is an arranged contract marriage such as the type many religious communities and certain cultures have.
21 Sep 2018, 1:26 am
