Is it a myth or not that women dislike us?

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09 Oct 2019, 3:32 pm

Boo is fine, as are you Raphael, and you're probably totally sloshed just now. You are positive and open, it's really nice reading your posts. Not everyone here is sensitive to others but a good crowd in the main. I bet you were an awesome teacher.


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09 Oct 2019, 3:41 pm

Jeez, 100 miles? Do I smell that bad.

**sniffs underarm***


Like how my ladyfriend said , "too much sexercise tonight".



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09 Oct 2019, 3:43 pm

Teach51 wrote:
Boo is fine, as are you Raphael, and you're probably totally sloshed just now. You are positive and open, it's really nice reading your posts.


He writes quite well as 'sloshed' though.

Btw, you're probably living within 100 miles of me :lol:.



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09 Oct 2019, 3:48 pm

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
Teach51 wrote:
Boo is fine, as are you Raphael, and you're probably totally sloshed just now. You are positive and open, it's really nice reading your posts.


He writes quite well as 'sloshed' though.

Btw, you're probably living within 100 miles of me :lol:.


Yes, neighbours. Can't smell you yet though, not much wind tonight :D I agree, Raphael is very articulate when intoxicated.


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09 Oct 2019, 4:53 pm

Maybe it's because I have schizoid personality disorder as well ah Asperger's, but the way everyone else seems to think not having a love interest is completely wrong and horrible is lost on me.



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09 Oct 2019, 5:04 pm

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I seriously cannot believe we're entertaining the fairytale notion that people appreciate ASD.
I am sincerely sorry if you have not yet experienced it, but I absolutely promise you it can happen. I don't mean there is widespread general appreciation (far from it...!).


Cberg, if I am reading his posts correctly, is simply stating this has not happened to him and based on his experience he doesn't think it ever will. We can't deny his experience of his life. It can be a rational decision to quit looking.

When I was very much younger, I was quite infatuated by people seemingly like cberg. But I was not smart enough to get their attention.

Different generations.


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09 Oct 2019, 7:40 pm

Well at this point I feel I've been stereotyped so frequently for long enough to decide not to trust anyone until they give me some valid reasons for it. It's not strictly about women at all, gender seems to make no difference, most people just ditch me without saying anything.

I'm not happy with the idea of constantly building new things for people who will never appreciate any of it. I'm out of touch with the rest of the human race & to be honest, that's how I'd rather be for the moment. I'm happier being invisible because frankly, guys emotions are 100% taboo & it's f*****g boring. I'm only ever shamed or ostracized for saying how I feel. It's practically criminalized.


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09 Oct 2019, 7:47 pm

I am not criticizing you, although it may be common. I think your position is rational and I don't have a problem with it. It su*ks you do good work and are not appreciated for it.


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09 Oct 2019, 7:52 pm

The attritbutes that young women are pushed towards finding attractive are rarely ones we possess.

But who wants one of those women?


Joking aside, at a recent family barbecue I overheard the drifting chat of a female relative telling someone that she taught her daughter to look at a man's hair,nails and shoes to judge them.

It disturbed me greatly, what were they looking for?



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09 Oct 2019, 8:49 pm

MYTH i seen it. And wish them the best. NT woman got the guy i liked .


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10 Oct 2019, 1:56 am

cberg wrote:
Well at this point I feel I've been stereotyped so frequently for long enough to decide not to trust anyone until they give me some valid reasons for it. It's not strictly about women at all, gender seems to make no difference, most people just ditch me without saying anything.

I'm not happy with the idea of constantly building new things for people who will never appreciate any of it. I'm out of touch with the rest of the human race & to be honest, that's how I'd rather be for the moment. I'm happier being invisible because frankly, guys emotions are 100% taboo & it's f*****g boring. I'm only ever shamed or ostracized for saying how I feel. It's practically criminalized.

Cberg, you want to make this thread all about you? OK then.

As the saying goes, "if you've met one Aspie, you've met one Aspie", yet you wade right in at the start of the thread and condemn us all to eternal ostracism and symutaniosly stereotype every female NT.

You don't have a diagnoses, so how can you make gross generalisations about either group?

Yes, when you dump all your negativity some people will always rush in to pat your arse, but don't mistake that for a free pass to wallow, if you can't help it then try not to make a habit of talking down to people as you do so.



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10 Oct 2019, 4:26 am

WalkerTR wrote:
Thanks teach51 for that summary. It seems to be a very honest assesment of what is going on.
I am used to either reading stuff that is overly optimistic and simple (which is just not compatible with what I've experienced in the real world,although usually written by well meaning people) or the overly negative stuff on the anti-aspie sites.
Its nice to get a candid view from someone who doesn't have either motivation.


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10 Oct 2019, 4:36 am

domineekee wrote:
As the saying goes, "if you've met one Aspie, you've met one Aspie", yet you wade right in at the start of the thread and condemn us all to eternal ostracism and symutaniosly stereotype every female NT.

You don't have a diagnoses, so how can you make gross generalisations about either group?


So many problems with this argumentation.

1. Dating difficulties are not covered by ASD diagnosis which means the diagnosis could not predict how you work with dating, and so having an ASD diagnosis doesn't make you understand these issues any better.

2. Just because some authority claims that all Aspies are different doesn't mean its true.

So, it's actually YOUR generalizations that are problematic.



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10 Oct 2019, 4:40 am

I think the original question is a bit malformed. I think it is true that a large majority of NT women dislike neurodiverse men, but I also think quite a lot of neurodiverse women actually dislike NT men. And given that neurodiverse men and women exist at similar rates, this shouldn't be a problem if they can find each other.



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10 Oct 2019, 4:41 am

If all aspies are so different then the diagnosis itself wouldn't have been observed nor existed.