Who else listens to sad songs when they feel lonely?

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25 Jan 2020, 12:01 am

I listen to sad songs when I'm feeling lonely. I guess I do it because it gives me some catharsis in sorrow. Some songs I listen to:

Love Hurts - Nazareth
Nights in White Satin - Moody Blues
Talkshow Host - Radiohead
Epiphany - Staind

Maybe some of you would like to share what songs you listen to when you just want to get your pain out of your system.



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25 Jan 2020, 3:24 am

i used to to do it a lot, until i realized it only soothed bad feelings and did nothing to help me in reality




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26 Jan 2020, 7:01 am

I listened to EMO alot when I was lonely & hurt over my 1st relationship ending.


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26 Jan 2020, 12:53 pm

Kiprobalhato wrote:
i used to to do it a lot, until i realized it only soothed bad feelings and did nothing to help me in reality




What's the point of being human if you don't know if you feel anything? I honestly think the pain that accompanies rejection is pretty cathartic.



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26 Jan 2020, 7:16 pm

My go to music when I am depressed.....

1) Ben Folds the unauthorized biography of rehold messner

2) modest mouse we were dead before the ship even sank

These two albums never fail to make me feel better :heart:

I also listened to Sara bareilles a lot when I was going through a bad breakup



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14 Feb 2020, 7:30 am

I listen to sad music when I'm sad. I don't usually feel lonely because I enjoy being by myself.


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14 Feb 2020, 11:32 am

Not me.

I don't listen to sad music when I'm sad. It only makes me more sad.

I don't tend to like Christmas music; it makes me too sad.



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14 Feb 2020, 12:12 pm

I used to, but when I hit my lowest crisis point in 2008-10 I found them too much to bear.

Since then I still listen to the some of the same songs, but when I’m having a nostalgia night, not when I’m at a low ebb.

The soundtrack to my lonely & out-of-sorts moods these days is mostly solo pieces for classical guitar, with the occasional minor key string quartet.



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15 Feb 2020, 2:50 pm

Karamazov wrote:
occasional minor key string quartet.


What are some of your favorites?



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15 Feb 2020, 2:57 pm

Shostakovich's 8th got quite a few repeats last time I was low.
Bach’s first three cello suites got quite a look in too. (I know not really quartets but still bowed string chamber music)
I had a big phase on Beethoven’s 4 or 5 years ago: I found a YouTube channel with videos of all of them from a festival and just playlisted the lot for a few days!
I also have some Mozart and Haydn on my PC, but can’t remember the numbers off the top of my head (sorry :oops: )

Edit:
Haydn: Op42
Mozart: K406 & 516
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15 Feb 2020, 3:06 pm

I don't ever feel lonely, or sad even. My alexithymia is so strong that I feel "overwhelm" when things are rough, but the emotion presents as an onslaught of different feelings rather than sadness on its own. In that regard, I feel confused or angry or tired or cynical as much as I feel sad. I just get a big mashup of negative feelings, so I play music that purges negative emotion in general. Usually something loud does the trick.