Autistic Functioning Level & Dating Success

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Not me. I can’t “use my autism to my advantage.”

I wouldn’t get satisfaction anyway if I did “use my autism to my advantage.”

Oh I didn't think it was manipulation if the person was honest. I thought if the guy was saying girls don't want him because he is autistic, in order to appeal to her pity. I didn't think he was lying.

I didn't think I was lying, when I encouraged a woman to take advantage of me either, and thought I was being honest about my feelings.

Oh I see. Well I guess I just thought that since a lot of people feel their autism is hindering them in the dating and sex, world, maybe it could work to turn that hindering, into something that can be used to an advantage instead.

Pity sex lowers the value system of both parties.

I hope your girlfriend doesn’t pity you, or you her. The relationship would be substandard. It wouldn’t be a satisfactory relationship.

That's true, but if an autistic guy can only get pity sex, is it best to take what one can get still?

Nope....I'd rather have no sex at all.

Even when I was having trouble getting dates, the last thing I wanted was for some girl to go out with me out of "pity."

Sex, on its own, actually doesn't mean all that much to me. It's the intimacy, caresses, and communion with a woman which "does it" for me. I actually don't mind just cuddling with a woman; I find that to sometimes be just as good as sex with her. There are times when sex is an anticlimax.

I told her how I advised on here to perhaps do what the one guy I know does and try to make a person feel sorry for them for sex. Her reaction seemed neutral but also knows about that guy, from me, and kind of laughed at his efforts before.

Well why do a lot of guys care less if a woman has autism compared to the other way around?

It just seems that more autistic guys talk about having a tougher time in dating compared to women, so I thought that might be the case therefore.

Why not? I don't want to pretend that men and women have the same difficulty in acquiring sex, in a statistical sense.

In rural China, a "handicapped" daughter can be sold/given by parents to single men who are difficult to find a wife.
But a "handicapped" son needs to be bought a wife by his parents, usually a "handicapped" woman.