Didn’t come as a surprise that he was a virgin!

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01 Jul 2022, 3:31 pm

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Why is it like middle school? Because I heard these sorts of conversations in middle school.

All right....maybe the woman wasn't interested. Maybe you all should try venues other than bars or pubs.



I go to the pub once or twice a week



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01 Jul 2022, 3:41 pm

In reply to the OP, it seems like she was commenting on his 'affect' like the way he avoids eye contact and the way he speaks, displaying signs of anxiety..if he is typically autistic and displaying these signs.

You could ask her actually :D I mean it wouldnt be about you, so it shouldnt be stressful to ask her that. She might find it a funny question to answer.



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01 Jul 2022, 4:27 pm

I don't think the OP should ask her that question.

She's just one person. Maybe your cousin will find someone who doesn't mind that he's a virgin or "inexperienced." There are still people like that even these days.

As for myself, it doesn't matter to me if a woman is a virgin, or has had many lovers. It's the person that counts.



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02 Jul 2022, 1:30 am

kraftiekortie wrote:
All right....maybe the woman wasn't interested. Maybe you all should try venues other than bars or pubs.

What kinds of venues would you recommend?



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02 Jul 2022, 6:28 am

Going to lectures or events sponsored by libraries and museums, singles gatherings (which I don’t like, but might be necessary), joining something like a club, hanging out with friends (but not in a bar), volunteering if he’s not working.

This particular pub he goes to is quite toxic. He seems to be sort of a target there.



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02 Jul 2022, 3:19 pm

These women who you know sound a bit rough to me.



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02 Jul 2022, 3:38 pm

babybird wrote:
These women who you know sound a bit rough to me.


Hmm is it a local pub in a rough area?



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02 Jul 2022, 4:15 pm

I don't understand why guys who are virgins that want to have sex with a woman, feel they have to tell the woman that he is a virgin. Most women, at least in my experience, do not want to hear that.

So DON'T TELL THEM!! !



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02 Jul 2022, 5:09 pm

Right. Just don’t tell them.



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02 Jul 2022, 9:46 pm

Well another thing is, why are women turned off by guy's that are virgins? If the guy has an attractive personality, isn't the virgin thing just shallow? I asked my female friends this and they all reacted and said that having sex with a virgin guy would be a nightmare, pretty much. But if I went out with a virgin woman, I wouldn't really care hardly.



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03 Jul 2022, 8:39 am

ironpony wrote:
Well another thing is, why are women turned off by guy's that are virgins? If the guy has an attractive personality, isn't the virgin thing just shallow? I asked my female friends this and they all reacted and said that having sex with a virgin guy would be a nightmare, pretty much. But if I went out with a virgin woman, I wouldn't really care hardly.


It's mutual. Once someone gets into their late 20s onwards many people don't want to take a huge step backwards having to "train" an older virgin to be comfortable with sexual activity when many virgins that old might have intentionally avoided opportunities for sexual activity.

If someone is a virgin through lack of opportunity, then while being completely inexperienced, at least they might be enthusiastic but still have some learning to do.

If someone is an older virgin through anxiety and has turned down chances to gain sexual experience, then that's a much bigger problem and sounds like a nightmare to address. By then it might be too late.



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03 Jul 2022, 9:36 am

If two virgins dig each other, and are not encumbered by hangups, they probably will succeed in giving each other pleasure in some way.

Both have to be patient when it comes to actual sexual intercourse, though. It took me a “few times” for me to get the anatomy right.

Sex is just not the be-all, end-all for me. If I love someone deeply, being “good in bed” is not all that important to me.



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03 Jul 2022, 9:46 am

kraftiekortie wrote:
If two virgins dig each other, and are not encumbered by hangups, they probably will succeed in giving each other pleasure in some way.

Both have to be patient when it comes to actual sexual intercourse, though. It took me a “few times” for me to get the anatomy right.

Sex is just not the be-all, end-all for me. If I love someone deeply, being “good in bed” is not all that important to me.



If both are on the same wave length then it's a lot easier. I think the issue is when virgins clash with non-virgins though.

In such cases it's a big step back and will likely cause conflict. The older a virgin gets the lower their chances are of bumping into a compatible virgin to who might make a good partner too.



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04 Jul 2022, 11:57 pm

If virgin guys want to loose their virginity, but a lot of women do not want to have sex with a virgin, they should set up dating sites, that are specifically tailored to virgin fetishes, where a person would enjoy taking another person's virginity? Could there be a market for that if there are a lot of 'virgin haters', when it comes to sex?



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05 Jul 2022, 12:50 am

ironpony wrote:
If virgin guys want to loose their virginity, but a lot of women do not want to have sex with a virgin, they should set up dating sites, that are specifically tailored to virgin fetishes, where a person would enjoy taking another person's virginity? Could there be a market for that if there are a lot of 'virgin haters', when it comes to sex?


I feel like a portion of those guys might be prone to assuming it's some sort of trap, and yet I'm sure there's others who might actually find success.

I wonder if, beyond people for whom it's a fetish if it might also attract people who whom it's a partner preference (like religious people or women who also are in the same boat).


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05 Jul 2022, 1:13 am

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My cousin who is 30 has autism was telling me last night how he was talking to this girl he met for the first time. He told her that he was still a “virgin” and the woman said back to him “that does not surprise me”

What do you think the woman might be implying about my cousin when she said that it did not surprise her? By the way there was alcohol involved in social setting he was in.

Do you really need something THAT obvious explained to you? :lol:

Like most autistics he is socially inept, naive, and a dork, and those facts are obvious to any NT he meets, and were obvious to her, so much so that it was obvious ...well...his dorky attempt at charm wasnt working on her. So it ... "its not surprising that he is a virgin".

Obvious wrapped in obvious. Lol!

I imagine her chuckling when he told her that he was a virgin. Not being angry nor malicious. So I wouldnt be upset about it.

The fact he informed her (a stranger) that he is a virgin ...was part of his social ineptitude. As Krafty said you just dont go around telling folks that.