IsabellaLinton wrote:
r00tb33r wrote:
I know they mean well, and luckily I'm a decent guy, but that puts me in a weird position.
Yeah, for real.
That's terrifying.
I'm assuming you haven't even met these children?
Even if you have, it's wrong.
I didn't tell my partner my last name or address for about two months after we met in person.
Most of that was for my kids' sake even though they were adults.
I've never posted their photos publicly or to strangers online.
Maybe females that parade their kids in front of new partners tend to think of it as being honest and giving a signal to the partner that if he wants here he also has to accept the kids.
It is technically a bad thing to do, but maybe the goal is to set expectations for the partner that he will have to deal with kids if he is to deal with her.
Or more importantly I think the female is looking for a reaction from the partner. Many guys would be gone if they see a kid, so maybe it saves time for her to just plain and simple show the kids up front, and be honest about here situation.
So maybe she just wants to see if the person is willing to accept the kids, and work on such relationship.
Concealing the fact you have kids has its rational side, but at the end of the day the partner will eventually learn you have kids and face the same dilemma like it or not.
Many females also feel like being proud of having a kid.
SO I can se rational reasons for both protecting the kids from harm, but also there is rational in having kids in relationship from get go.
After all some people might feel like you are leading them on by concealing the fact you have kids.