67 and never had a gf

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Why do you sound like you only sympathize with men in that position and only care about the problem because you believe it happens more frequently to men?

I do sympathize with women who end up in situations like that, its just i don't hear of women ending up in situations like that so much, more frequently i hear of them happening to men.

Enough women on here and in other autistic spaces comment on it, they just seem to get drowned out by men complaining that it's a male problem and not listening to any evidence or anecdotes that run contrary to that narrative.

even though i have said this before, i am open to believing it though, that is, women likely just choose to not disclose that info publicly as much as men do.

I remember i saw another guy make a rant about that, on how it seems far more men than women end up staying chronically alone and single later than normal, or a virgin later than normal, how it seems cruel and unjust, one guy made a rude comment to him by saying "get over the comparison", and then he says "what are you gonna do, try to become president and enact a law that women have to approach men?".

That comment was very enraging to read.

That could be a factor. Straight men might just be the cohort most likely to feel entitled to complain about struggles in this regard.

Differences in how the cohorts define having a partner/being in a relationship might contribute too.

It would be interesting to see what the trends are like beyond heterosexual partnerings as well, like if people who are attracted to women and struggle share trends that people who are attracted to men and struggle deviate from.

If it's way more common for straight men it's worth understanding why that is or what factors add up to make that the case, and that ultimately means having to understand it more broadly. It probably will also involve looking into people who resemble these cases but had different outcomes.

an example, there is this woman TikTok user, who goes by the username Madmnc, she claims she never had a boyfriend until 42.

yeah, unfortuneately i know of 2 men i've spoken to online that are in their 50s who claim they have never had a GF before, and another guy in his late 40s, cases like that just depress me and irritate me, fill me with lots of resentment, its a reminder of how cruel nature and reality can be

Guessing those 2 guys are under average height

Well I’m only 30 but I can easily see myself living at 67 and never having a GF either. It’s just one of those things that I don’t think we’ll ever happen for various reasons

why do i get the feeling you are a normal looking guy

I seem to think that is one of the reasons why started to feel panic into my 30s and feeling this ridiculous self imposed pressure to "hurry and find a partner" because I still seem to think most 50+ and 60+ year olds are married or were married in the past and have several children and grandchildren. I work with a colleague who is 60 and as far as I'm aware he's not married or got children and nor has another colleague possibly in his 50s. I do get quite irritated by this notion that an older person is viewed as "strange" by other people because they have had little luck with relationships in life or got married and I mean why make assumptions when we clearly don't know when they might have tried and really struggled and also might have a condition possibly which made trying these experiences harder to maintain through no fault or their own.

Cause I’m not. Not even average either. I’m very below. Like 1-2/10 on the looks scale.

My lack of a gf will always be a big piece of my life that is missing

Survival of the species does kind of need us to reproduce and primes our firmware accordingly

thats because being the male gender, what that means is, just existing means you by default won't have women just be interested in you just existing, obviously not the other way around

He is still young. He could find love at age 80 and enjoy happiness for the last two years of his life.