Wondering if anyone can help? Sexuality?!

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I am so confused, I have been for so long. How would I find out my sexuality? I was told to go out and be with both sexes, yet I am nervous. Because usually when your younger you see if you like and what sex. But I have only dated guys but I have some attraction to girls, and have dreams. Yet, I have no idea what to do and how to find out or anything like that. So I thought to ask see if anyone has any advice?

Thanks for the advice in advance. Thank you!

Just remember that feeling you have when you have chemistry, if you ever have that with a woman flirt and see where it goes. Its surprising how many women are bi or bi curious.

Meet people (I know, I know, this is not easy!), and see for yourself. The idea of giving your sexuality a label is meaningless. As mushroom said, the magic word is "chemistry". And don't feel obliged to stick to one gender if you don't want to. Your happiness is the most important thing in life.

Disclaimer: I am in a same-sex relationship.

Chemistry is definitely the magic word. Which I basically only had with guys, but everyone is different. If something happens it's meant to happen.

Thanks for the help!

Carefully ask around and try to find a bisexual woman who is willing to answer your questions.

Vanilla_Slice

Maybe you are bisexual, you don't have to be equally attracted to both sexes to be bi.
I'm bisexual and I like woman 80 % and men 20%

Ask around where? And what do you ask?

Agree.

If you've been more comfortable with guys and have a longer history with them, it's okay to continue that way. But you can simply remain open to the idea that you might come across a woman who you click with too. It doesn't mean you have to go out and actively look for "Miss Right" just to see if you're bi or not. But you don't have to label yourself as one way or another and shut yourself off to other possibilities.

Find the right someone, for their personality.

Would watching a variety of porn help?

My experience of porn didn't help at all. It must meant that when I was with someone I loved I had all these intrusive thoughts about other people in my head, and I couldn't enjoy myself the way I wanted to with the person I actually loved and had chosen. Same thing with the advice to try it and see... my advice is don't try it with anyone unless they are a) a very good friend, someone you care deeply for, and b)someone you are genuinely attracted to. Sexual experimentation isn't at all what it's cracked up to be. It messed with my enjoyment of sex for decades.

I like what you said. I will let it remain open of the idea for the fact if I come across a woman I click with. I will just continue this way for now. Thank you very much! I do I basically only search for personality because that's what matters.

Oh and try plentyoffish.com I have met women there in realife, no bad experiences so far, I would gladly go on a date with you if you were on my coast , you are adorable!

I been on plentyoffish for so long since 2008 but I rarely went on for a year just started again. I met 3 people from there.

And wait did you say I was adorable. I believe so if so, thank you very much!

Flirt and see what happens. If you're bi-curious, go flirt with a woman and see what happens. You may discover she wants to flirt with you as well.

Agreed. And of course, know that whatever you are, it's OK.