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aeroz
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21 Aug 2008, 4:07 pm

I have been told that my only real undesirable trait is my like of confidence. That if I had that I'd have no problem getting women. I acknowledge this as a possibility but in truth I do not believe it. I definitely do lack confidence but I personally feel its justified. That I am simply unappealing to the opposite sex. However as I said I am not ignoring the possiblity that the only reason I am not found attractive is I lack confidence, and I do know that is a trait women often find appealing.

Even just to confirm this I would like to find out, but I do not have confidence in that reguard, so is it possible to fake it, or am I just doomed to this paradoz and should just get used to being alone



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21 Aug 2008, 4:13 pm

I can fake it. Can't really give you instructions though, but yes it's possible.



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21 Aug 2008, 4:15 pm

Confidence cannot be faked. Either you have it or you don't.



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21 Aug 2008, 4:16 pm

Luckily, this was a popular song when I was young. I took the lyrics literally (naturally!)
It's From a Musical called "The King and I"

Whenever I feel afraid
I hold my head erect
And whistle a happy tune
So no one will suspect
I'm Afraid.

While shivering in my shoes
I strike a careless pose
And whistle a happy tune
And no one ever knows I'm afraid.

The result of this deception
Is very strange to tell
For when I fool the people
I fear I fool myself as well!

I whistle a happy tune
And ev'ry single time
The happiness in the tune
Convinces me that I'm not afraid.

Make believe you're brave
And the trick will take you far.
You may be as brave
As you make believe you are!


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21 Aug 2008, 4:28 pm

The fakery of confidence is made apparent as soon as it is put to the test. :idea:



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21 Aug 2008, 4:50 pm

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I have been told that my only real undesirable trait is my like of confidence. That if I had that I'd have no problem getting women.


That's a lie , confidence is overrated.



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21 Aug 2008, 4:58 pm

Confidence may be underrated, actually.



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21 Aug 2008, 5:00 pm

Funny thing is, when under almost any form of physical or mental pressure (other than social pressure), my confidence actually increases, mostly because if I'm dedicated towards resolving whatever is at hand, I don't have time to think about women...



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21 Aug 2008, 5:01 pm

I'm afraid that once again I will have to disagree with LePetitPrince, confidence is KEY, just take a look at how the world works.



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21 Aug 2008, 5:02 pm

ToadOfSteel wrote:
Funny thing is, when under almost any form of physical or mental pressure (other than social pressure), my confidence actually increases, mostly because if I'm dedicated towards resolving whatever is at hand, I don't have time to think about women...


Bull.

Unless you are gay or asexual, you think about women.



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21 Aug 2008, 5:04 pm

Sometimes one has to dedicate 100% of his concentration to the task at hand...

Yes I do think about women, but not ALL the time, otherwise I would be driven insane for being so lonely...



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21 Aug 2008, 5:04 pm

slowmutant wrote:
ToadOfSteel wrote:
Funny thing is, when under almost any form of physical or mental pressure (other than social pressure), my confidence actually increases, mostly because if I'm dedicated towards resolving whatever is at hand, I don't have time to think about women...


Bull.

Unless you are gay or asexual, you think about women.


I am not gay or asexual and I don't think about women, slowmutant. Or is everyone male in your universe?

Merle


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21 Aug 2008, 5:09 pm

http://www.wrongplanet.net/postt71545.html

most women look for social straightforwardness, they perceive this as 'self-confidence', a nerd guy can be VERY self-confident in programming yet he's socially awkward which doesn't help him in attracting women.

Anyways, looks and money always come first.



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21 Aug 2008, 5:09 pm

sinsboldly wrote:
slowmutant wrote:
ToadOfSteel wrote:
Funny thing is, when under almost any form of physical or mental pressure (other than social pressure), my confidence actually increases, mostly because if I'm dedicated towards resolving whatever is at hand, I don't have time to think about women...


Bull.

Unless you are gay or asexual, you think about women.


I am not gay or asexual and I don't think about women, slowmutant. Or is everyone male in your universe?

Merle


Certainly not. An all-male universe would make very little sense.



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21 Aug 2008, 5:13 pm

LePetitPrince wrote:
most women look for social straightforwardness, they perceive this as 'self-confidence', a nerd guy can be VERY self-confident in programming yet he's socially awkward which doesn't help him in attracting women


The fact that self-confidence is domain specifc is OBVIOUS.



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21 Aug 2008, 5:14 pm

Then is this case 'self-confidence' is very broad , what's the OP alking about here then is 'social self-confidence '