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So my friend's been crushing on this girl for a while. He manages to hang out with her a couple of times or so and then makes plans for a third time. On the third time, she cancelled at the last minute. I think we all know what this means. So anyways, he was pondering how to tell her he wasn't going to tolerate being dicked around again.

I said, "Just whisper it in her ear all romantic like."

Is that cool or what?

Pow! Right in the kisser!

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what does it mean?

That carries an implied "or else" threat to it. He'd be better of just acting like it doesn't matter to him.

Some girls "test" a guy by backing out on a date at the last minute, just to see how it affects him. If he can feign indifference, and especially if she sees him with another girl, then it will likely inspire her to make contact with him again.

It's a game. It's only a game.

I've yet to hear a good reason as to why women play this game, though...

It's not cool.

Find it rather telling that there is instant presumption of what occurred. Really sad.


M.

Sure man, and you can go on bedumbing yourself about the way the world works, I have open f*****g eyes myself.

Did he bother to ask why? Did he shrug it off as if it didn't matter that much (as if there were more girls to chase, regardless of their existence)

Or did he say, "Oh... okay...."

*shakes head* You have your presumptions, and you're welcome to them. That you resort to insulting someone who disagrees with you when you ask the question says much more about you - something to consider. As a third party, you have no idea what is going on. Have a nice day, a Coke, and a smile.


M.

I dunno...I'd give her one chance. Sometimes things just don't line up for dates. If she does it twice, however...

*mouths, "what a big baby"* That wasn't an insult, it was just a suggestion on how to go about things. You're right, I don't have any idea what's going on, but that don't mean I can't ring in an opinion when asked.

I agree. She couldn't gotten a huge zit or realized at the last minute that she had a previous engagement, etc. It happens.

To suggest that another's beliefs are "bedumbing" as you put it - that's an insult. When you're ready to converse without relying on primary school methodology, I'd be glad to continue the discussion.


M.

Ad Hominems is somewhat of a childish way to debate. They carry no conception of any real logic nor reasoning. Only words used in a dictation of how "wrong" their supposed opponent is.

Just my suggestion.

Gawd, alright I'm sorry I did an ad hominem attack. I know Bill O'Reilly doesn't stand for them either, and you know where HE stands.

Really, though, I don't care who you are, if you don't know when you're being dicked around by a chick then you deserve to be walked all over. It's gaming, pure and simple. Anyways, it don't really matter what I said anyways since he's figured he might've overwhelmed her and is backing off until January... although I've never recovered from an overwhelm and I've talked to other guys who've gotten into similar "scrapes" and I've never seen or heard of a recovery from that type of s**t. And I don't even know why he's caring in the first place since he thought it was "too easy" when he first went out with her.

All I know is I remember this one chick who would keep "forgetting" our arrangements, so I returned her the favor and decided to "forget" too, and she goes all apeshit about it telling me, "Oh my god, do you think I don't care? Because I do care."

We have different philosophies, and different sets of expectations when interacting with others. I'm not discounting the possibility that you're right, but I'm not willing to assume that is the case... and the method of responding is not something I think is appropriate or mature. Some people like playing games; I don't, so I'm looking for something different I suppose.


M.