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SpiderElla
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30 Aug 2015, 6:38 pm

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That's 100% YOUR issue.


No, it's partly my problem for not having total unassailable confidence in myself or in a relationship, which is unrealistic to expect of any human being. Partly the guy's problem for being aloof or withdrawn, or not being more open with me about his feelings, or just flat out lying to other people about his feelings.

And partly it is other people having a problem where they want to make assumptions and judgments and butt in with unwelcome opinions, like you're doing right now. You might as well just "zip it" because I'm not remotely interested in hearing what you have to say. Let's see if you really have the ability to do that, lol.


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Only if you let it.


This is a stock phrase used by people when they want to deny responsibility for their own behavior, and push it all over to someone else. *yawn*


Making yourself miserable because dates you like don't live up to other people's standards (despite meeting your own) seems like an excellent way to make yourself miserable.



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30 Aug 2015, 7:42 pm

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Making yourself miserable because dates you like don't live up to other people's standards (despite meeting your own) seems like an excellent way to make yourself miserable.


Getting yourself banned over and over again so you have to keep creating new accounts to troll the board, seems like an excellent way to waste your own time!



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30 Aug 2015, 7:48 pm

Why do some of these aspie girls keep trolling this bored? I never understand why some women get off on putting men down and making them miserable with their words.



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30 Aug 2015, 8:12 pm

I don't think that she was trolling this time.



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30 Aug 2015, 8:15 pm

Hopefully soon a mod will ban their IP so they can't create any more accounts.



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30 Aug 2015, 8:37 pm

dianthus wrote:
SpiderElla wrote:
Making yourself miserable because dates you like don't live up to other people's standards (despite meeting your own) seems like an excellent way to make yourself miserable.


Getting yourself banned over and over again so you have to keep creating new accounts to troll the board, seems like an excellent way to waste your own time!


she seems to have made 3 new ones all at once today. thats a new tactic.

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Why do some of these aspie girls keep trolling this bored? I never understand why some women get off on putting men down and making them miserable with their words.


shes a NT woman who hates aspie men.


Peacesells wrote:
I don't think that she was trolling this time.


no she usually starts of trying to pretend shes not her, so she is nice but she can't hid it for long as she just wants so much to reach out and attack us.



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30 Aug 2015, 8:53 pm

sly279 wrote:
dianthus wrote:
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Making yourself miserable because dates you like don't live up to other people's standards (despite meeting your own) seems like an excellent way to make yourself miserable.


Getting yourself banned over and over again so you have to keep creating new accounts to troll the board, seems like an excellent way to waste your own time!


she seems to have made 3 new ones all at once today. thats a new tactic.

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Why do some of these aspie girls keep trolling this bored? I never understand why some women get off on putting men down and making them miserable with their words.


shes a NT woman who hates aspie men.


Peacesells wrote:
I don't think that she was trolling this time.


no she usually starts of trying to pretend shes not her, so she is nice but she can't hid it for long as she just wants so much to reach out and attack us.


Who else will point out that you're sufficiently repulsive that pretty much all women avoid you? That spending 99% of your time alone in a room is probably causing your problems?



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30 Aug 2015, 9:00 pm

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Who else will point out that you're sufficiently repulsive that pretty much all women avoid you? That spending 99% of your time alone in a room is probably causing your problems?

Ladies and gentlemen, I am just gonna state the obvious: we have a doppelganger in our midst. As a WP member who respects creative integrity and intellectual property, I am disgusted at how much you have copied a troll. From the flamebaiting, to the creation of multiple accounts. Do you not have any value or respect for originality? It's cheesy, it's disgusting. I personally find it absolutely atrocious. I am embarassed to be sitting here in front of my computer even dignifying you with an answer of my opinion.



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30 Aug 2015, 9:05 pm

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no she usually starts of trying to pretend shes not her, so she is nice but she can't hid it for long as she just wants so much to reach out and attack us.

Well yes, but I don't really care about her, just about things she says. When she says wrong things I don't have a problem telling her. It's not that since she often trolls people everything she says is automatically wrong. If a friend tries to sabotage a girl's crush for his/her own selfish interest or slutshames her for actively pursuing a guy, they are not good friends and if the girl listens to them it's her fault.
I bet you agree with her too in this case.



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30 Aug 2015, 9:12 pm

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Who else will point out that you're sufficiently repulsive that pretty much all women avoid you? That spending 99% of your time alone in a room is probably causing your problems?

Perhaps it's more that he avoids women, than the other way around. He needs to go out more and to make friends and stuff. I think that by telling him that he's so repulsive you will accomplish nothing but making him stay in his room even more.



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30 Aug 2015, 9:17 pm

SpiderElla wrote:
you're sufficiently repulsive


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31 Aug 2015, 5:16 am

SpiderElla wrote:

Who else will point out that you're sufficiently repulsive that pretty much all women avoid you? That spending 99% of your time alone in a room is probably causing your problems?


Who will point out how repulsive you are....you really think any respectable man would want to get with an immature little girl who spends her time trying to hurt peoples feelings by trolling an autism forum?


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31 Aug 2015, 1:34 pm

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Hopefully soon a mod will ban their IP so they can't create any more accounts.


I'm sure that they've tried that already. And, speaking as an administrator of a different website, I could tell you how useless that is. But I won't. Almost every troll knows their way around IP blocks already, but no sense alerting those who don't. :wink:


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31 Aug 2015, 3:26 pm

Peacesells wrote:
If a friend tries to sabotage a girl's crush for his/her own selfish interest or slutshames her for actively pursuing a guy, they are not good friends and if the girl listens to them it's her fault.


That's so clever how you're trying to distill an adult relationship you know nothing about, into the plotline of a teenage sitcom, so you can automatically blame the female. It's like the book of Genesis meets Saved by the Bell.



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26 Mar 2016, 4:06 pm

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Let's not be superstitious. There's no reason to believe that you'll find love if you avoid looking for it.
For NTs, looking for love increases the chances of finding it. On the other hand, Aspies have 0% chances of finding love, regardless if we search for it or not.
https://www.google.ro/search?q=google+p ... el6lXJM%3A



I am sorry, but this is absolutely not true. Just because a person has Asperger's not make them unlovable. Do not let a diagnosis define who you are. Yes, having Asperger's presents challenges that are not seen by the Neurotypical in the area of social interaction, but that does not mean that finding a special person to love and who loves you is impossible, just more difficult.

I have always found that this quote helps me in times like that: "The circumstances of one's birth are irrelevant; it's what you do with the gift of life that determines who you are"


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26 Mar 2016, 4:47 pm

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All I can say is screw the game. 'The game' was what always worked against me, as every time I had to play it.

By 'the game' I mean traditional social/dating rules to pursue another person.

Funny enough I found the most success once I finally rejected it.

This is another point to bring up:

What have your experiences been with playing 'the game'?

You can still 'look for love' without playing the game, or is it really better to just take the conformist route.

If you're going to look for love should you really just play the game still?

In the past I might have been looking for love but didn't obey the game's rules but certainly bent them.


The game does not actually exist anymore, in my experience and through my observations I have determined that it is only enforced by people who want something other than the actual person (social status, reputation, money, a person to buy them drinks or things, sex, or a boyfriend/girlfriend of the sake of having one)


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