Truth Abiout daing #2

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I'm not surprised you don't have a girl with such an offensive attitude.

Like somebody said before, women are attracted to men's social status and men are attracted to women's sex-appeal. Men with little or no social status are left out as well as unattractive women. I'm very interested if any of the guys here that complain that women don't give them a chance and are not interested to know who they are, would be interested to date a girl that is not attractive.

Didn't the "fat Mexican guy" go through a divorce with said woman?

I've been around enough women to know that there is a little truth to what is being said here. I have heard entirely too many times conversations between women talking about their significant others. Often times there is too much importance placed on what the "man" does for a living.

Goes something like this,

"Oh hey how's it going, this is my friend XXXX, you know, from a couple blocks over. Her husband YYYY, works at CCCC doing JJJJ."

"Oh really...."

It's part of the small talk associated with dating and relationships, which could be innocent enough, but it can pile up over time into "the way things are" to the innocent bystander.

The OP is kinda young. Spend more than 10 years with the same woman and I think you will find that there are many more things that women can offer men than just sex. The problem, is that there are some women and men for that matter that can't offer anything other than sex and those are the ones to stay away from. Love is not about money and if that subject comes up, too much, too early in a relationship then it's probably not a good sign.

I thought that the girls like a Jerk. I am probably repeating myself again but we must not be fooled into believing that aspie qualities get the girl. The reason why black aspies men are such a shortage is because, is because almost all black woman do not admire aspie qualities, though they may deny it. If this dude is rude, it is merely a survival trait and not counter productive to his survival.




Probably very true

No, girls don't like jerks. Girls like men that can protect them and can provide for and protect the children. Since live is not as simple as it was in the past, when man was a hunter and woman looked after the kids and the 'house', people are a bit confused about what they want. At instinctual level, women will try to get the 'strongest' man they can, and men will try to get the most 'appealing' woman. This may get in conflict with modern days when the physical strenght is not necesarily a predictor for the capacity of the man to provide and protect his family. Then there are personal reasons why women will go for the jerk, abusive family, lack of self-esteem, etc. If a girl grows-up in a family with financial dificulties and she is taught that money will solve all the problems, than that is what she will look for. If girls grow-up without a father or with an abusive, unavailable father or step father(s), how are they suppose to know what a loving relationship is? How are they suppose to know how to start and manage a relationship based on love, acceptance and respect when they never experienced that?

Social status is important because women have to rely on men to support them when they have kids. Men that can't provide for a woman while she is looking after an infant are not on the top of the list. For a woman, being in a relationship with a man that will not provide and protect is similar to a man being in a relationship without sex. The basic, instinctive needs are not met.

haha It's Darwinism. Its blatantly right out there in front of us yet most of the world refuse to connect the dots. Women like problem solvers its been that way since the beginning of time. You have a problem with women so go and solve it . They'll come to you

There is more to a relationship than sex.

Go easy on him guys, he's only 17 and still at high school (so I don't blame him for sometimes having a negative attitude towards women, teenage girls can be the cruelest people on earth - heck I had a negative attitude towards women for a while at school and I AM one!) The important thing is that he realizes when he gets upset, and he he apologizes afterward - which is more than what many people do. I think it's a pity jemir1234 has been banned (as I can see), he might sometimes come off a bit angrily but he's a good person.

Of course it is! But sex is a very important part of the relationship. It is very uncommon for people to be involved in a relationship without sex.

Beg to differ, some Jerks are not good at this. Many expose there their partners to even more trouble, even a sheep would start a fight with them.

What they do have, that a nice-guy doesn’t have is they are opportunists; willing to acquire power and status by any means, honest or dishonest. In a sense, they are true capitalists.

A nice guy will not capitalise at the expense of others As a result, their chance of success is compromised by their integrity.

Myself, I have had opportunities to capitalise the weaknesses on UK benefit system. Also claim disability allowance of all sorts, acquire a freedom pass while driving and sell it on to someone else. Lets not talk about identity theft. As a Jerk I would easily convince myself that it is ok, because those greedy banks re-embers their money anyway. O’yes and I would be a hacker and a damn good one at that, as there are so many unprotected computers that I would have a field day steeling people’s credit card and identity, ‘had it coming being so stupid to leave their computers unprotected; someone else would do it anyway’.

Generally there are so many weird and wonderful ways to screw someone up the ass it is unbelievable. Guess what is stopping me from doing this, integrity.