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Northeastern292
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10 Jun 2010, 11:23 am

hale_bopp wrote:
To me all it is is pulling some random off the street and saying "be attracted to this person".

aka

stupid.


In a way, I sort of agree. This friend of my best friend's girlfriend is pretty attractive, but I just don't feel attracted to her, not to mention that she's QUITE the party girl-I'm not quite that type.



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10 Jun 2010, 12:25 pm

I don't really mind it, in principle, as long as the friend doesn't get too involved. If he just tells me about her and introduces us, that's good. I have more than enough room to back out in case I'm not into her. Anything more than that is very awkward.



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10 Jun 2010, 1:19 pm

Hector wrote:
I don't really mind it, in principle, as long as the friend doesn't get too involved. If he just tells me about her and introduces us, that's good. I have more than enough room to back out in case I'm not into her. Anything more than that is very awkward.


I in theory don't really mind it, but in this case, I felt choked.



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10 Jun 2010, 3:03 pm

Well if I tell the friend that I'm not interested in the girl they're thinking of, I expect they'll leave the issue to rest. Otherwise I imagine it would get annoying.



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10 Jun 2010, 3:09 pm

Hector wrote:
Well if I tell the friend that I'm not interested in the girl they're thinking of, I expect they'll leave the issue to rest. Otherwise I imagine it would get annoying.


My main fear is I'm afraid to tick them off.



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18 Jun 2010, 4:59 pm

Its not an arranged marriage just "try" to be comfortable. If anything bad happens your friend will get the blame for setting you up. Are you guys going on a double? They can usually be meaningless but look at it as networking, women tell each other everything. People will ask her about her evening. Hopefully those little seeds get spread about advertising your out there and available.



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18 Jun 2010, 10:55 pm

I've never been recommended to other people's friends, nor have I had any tossed my way.



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18 Jun 2010, 10:58 pm

Sex is sex; if you turn it down, it's your loss.

Morals don't make people happy, but physical pleasure surely does.



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18 Jun 2010, 11:38 pm

I think my friends realize I'm weird enough to know it wouldn't be a good idea because ultimately, they'd end up getting chewed out by their girlfriend because her friend is upset with her for being encouraged to go out with some guy who's totally weird/boring.