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19 Nov 2010, 3:00 am

I don't have 10-15 requirements. There are actually very few that I am non-negotiable on.

Anyway, I am not so desperate that I would date someone just for the sake of dating. Honestly, if I do not care to be friends with him, and I am not attracted to him, then he is just stressing me and I would like him to go away.

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19 Nov 2010, 3:12 am

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I'm not disagreeing with you. And I'm not suggesting to date for the sake of dating. I'm suggesting for some people (not you specifically) to lower their standards and all-or-nothing thinking. We're dealing with people, not robots who are designed to suit the person's every want.

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19 Nov 2010, 3:46 am

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someone who doesn't repulse you

I don't think people should disregard their standards and simply settle for someone. It usually ends in disaster, and people shouldn't feel they have to settle so some guy can have a gf.

I would never settle for a guy again, and I would expect no guy to feel he should settle for me.

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19 Nov 2010, 8:58 am

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Why would I date someone I'm not attracted to?

I wouldn't dream of asking women to date people they're not attracted to... the problem is however that I don't seem to be attractive to anyone...

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19 Nov 2010, 9:06 am

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19 Nov 2010, 12:18 pm

Sallamandrina wrote:

I can do you one better!

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Edit; darn it. Well that didn't work. Oh well...

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19 Nov 2010, 12:20 pm

LOL awesome!

What about this one?

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19 Nov 2010, 12:26 pm

ToadOfSteel wrote:

Chronos wrote:

Why would I date someone I'm not attracted to?

I wouldn't dream of asking women to date people they're not attracted to... the problem is however that I don't seem to be attractive to anyone...

gosh I didnt know you had met every woman in existance.

I think you should really really invest in a session of confidence hypnotism, it would do you the world of good.

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19 Nov 2010, 2:10 pm

lotusblossom wrote:

ToadOfSteel wrote:

Chronos wrote:

Why would I date someone I'm not attracted to?

I wouldn't dream of asking women to date people they're not attracted to... the problem is however that I don't seem to be attractive to anyone...

gosh I didnt know you had met every woman in existance.

I think you should really really invest in a session of confidence hypnotism, it would do you the world of good.

I wouldn't date a man who was hypnotized into being attracted to me, just like I wouldn't date a man who "used to be" gay.

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19 Nov 2010, 2:42 pm

Chronos wrote:

lotusblossom wrote:

ToadOfSteel wrote:

Chronos wrote:

Why would I date someone I'm not attracted to?

I wouldn't dream of asking women to date people they're not attracted to... the problem is however that I don't seem to be attractive to anyone...

gosh I didnt know you had met every woman in existance.

I think you should really really invest in a session of confidence hypnotism, it would do you the world of good.

I wouldn't date a man who was hypnotized into being attracted to me, just like I wouldn't date a man who "used to be" gay.

haveing confidence hypnotism is not the same as being hypnotised into finding someone attractive. Whats your opinon on hypnotism for giving up smoking, if you dont think it applies to confidence?

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19 Nov 2010, 2:51 pm

You don't hypnotise the cigarettes into not going in your mouth. :lol:

I think a misunderstanding was made.

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21 Nov 2010, 1:17 am

I want to clarify something. I'm in no way saying to settle or drop your standards completely. Just focus in on things you won't budge on no matter what instead of extraneous things like must watch South Park, or in my case, I refused to date a woman that drinks or a woman that didn't physically turn me on to the point of amazement. I realized was what important was that there was sufficient attraction, not ideal, and that she's an introvert or a deep-thinking extrovert that doesn't make a living out of partying in her free time.

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21 Nov 2010, 2:45 pm

I think what often happens is that people create a list of ideal traits in a partner before they have ever met any potential partner, and they are usually trivial standards that don't actually matter once you meet someone you like. The only things that matter in a partner are that they genuinely care about you, are kind, attractive (to you, not according to some arbitrary standard) and have a similar intelligence and similar values and beliefs. Nothing else matters very much.

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21 Nov 2010, 3:35 pm

I smell dead horses here.....

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