One sure way to creep someone out on a dating site

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I've heard most of them, but none of them disgust me much as being called "sweets". I don't know why. Probably because "I yearn for you" is desperate but not patronising.

"Sweets", "honey" etc are a no go. I would't care if it was a boyfriend calling me that but complete strangers and nutters? f**k off.

In regards to desperation I'll admit I was very desperate online and in person then I hit 19 (late bloomer) and realized that not only is desperation unattractive its downright creepy I had one girl I wasn't interested in online do the same things people are complaining about and it was a real eye opener. I haven't been in a position to date recently (after my last relationship 8 months ago I haven't really had the desire either) but I approach a woman now as I would a friend. I try to be myself if she doesn't like me then thats that.

As for sex its an important part of any relationship and if a girl and I aren't compatiable in that area then I'd rather end it sooner rather than have it come up under an awkward cirumstances. I consider it impolite to bring it up too early but I'm fairly open about sex in private and I'm astonished at how prudish many people are in this modern age. Too much Heinlein influence on my part I suppose.

Here's one. I notice some profiles on OKCupid have sections that say "edited by" and then someone's user name. Someone else writing your dating profile for you is creepy. That's an automatic DQ for me, unless there's a good explanation provided (like they're disabled or something) in the text. I can think of few explanations for a person not writing their own profile, and all of them are very creepy.

"I have a feeling we are going to get married and have kids" when you first meet someone.

My husband said this to me three years ago and I told him off on IM and he had to talk me into meeting him and giving him a chance. I don't even remember but he told me the incident and I just laughed. Well we had just met and we hardly knew each other and we hadn't even met yet in real life and he was already saying this? He said he almost scared me off.

I have heard of people listing "Christian" as their religion when they are obviously not, because they think it will deter people who are obsessed with sex.

One guy messaged me to ask if I fancied some bedroom acrobatics once...

The most irritating thing is when it's really obvious they haven't actually read your profile at all. They've just seen the picture and gone by that. There's nothing in the message that says they've seen your profile, and like Bethie said they're surprised when you bring up something that was actually right at the top of your profile the whole time (I had something like 'don't message me if you're just looking for sex,' which Mr Bedroom Acrobat obviously didn't see. Maybe the pixels on that part of his screen were dead?) and just ugh. Dating is NOT a numbers game!