Does this ever put you down?

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Grisha
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12 Mar 2011, 9:48 pm

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Oh okay so do you behave crazy and ecentricly around women and that kinda thing? :D

You look like a very down to earth guy judging by your picture.


Nothing crazy, just the usual Aspie quiet, awkward, poor eye contact thing - and I have a real problem sustaining a conversation that's outside my special interests.

I eat too fast, I rarely smile, my posture is poor, I have odds mannerisms, I walk funny, and my legs are freakishly thin.

In other words, I'm definitely better off single - but it's really not the huge deal that everyone makes it out to be...



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12 Mar 2011, 9:59 pm

THe problem is though i really want to be in a relationship and to find love.

i walk a bit funny but can i get taught how to walk more normally etc......?



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12 Mar 2011, 10:07 pm

Jamesy wrote:
THe problem is though i really want to be in a relationship and to find love.

i walk a bit funny but can i get taught how to walk more normally etc......?


If I were interested in a relationship, I would try something like the program at the following link.

http://michaeluram.com/2011/01/13/adult ... aspergers/

This is in my area, but I'm sure there must be one in your area too...

Hopefully someone else will chime in with advice, I don't want to discourage you with my cynicism... :wink:



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12 Mar 2011, 10:13 pm

Oh thanks



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12 Mar 2011, 10:14 pm

Oh thanks for the link.

i have been meaning to ask though is there anyway to work on the odd manerrisims like the way i walk etc..... eye contact is something i am working on improving.



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13 Mar 2011, 11:58 pm

Jamesy wrote:
But does it ever bother you or make you feel depressed that relationships will be harder for you because you have AS?


I consider relationships a vague possibility for the future, and tell myself romantic relationships aren't that important anyway. But yeah, it depresses me to think I might never have a relationship, and that if I do it will be harder.

On a side note, I'm starting to think my shyness and anxiety are bigger problems.


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