cure for heartbreak

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i don't allow myself to be distracted. i gather all of my sad thoughts and memories together and hold them close in my mind, reviewing them again and again and exposing them for the pain they bring.

i rail and rant and rage and weep.

i get angry that life is NOT FAIR and get irate that i have to suffer while people laugh and play and love.

i write intensely emotional poetry, allowing my sharp pen tip to cut deeply into the page, letting my writing both speak and show my feelings.

i lie in bed and stare at the ceiling and wallow in the sadness that things will never be the way i wanted them to be.

i talk to as many people as possible, as it allows me to compartmentalise my experience into a manageable package. they expose my fallacies and my insecurities and my ridiculous conclusions. in time, it sinks in.



eventually life gets back to normal, but i don't force that normalcy onto myself. i slowly reintegrate myself. i come to accept that thing are really over and that my best days are ahead and not behind. when the feelings come back again, i allow myself to work through it again. but each time i am tripped up it gets a little easier.

the heartbreak is never completely gone, but it fades to a certain wistfulness.

Wish I could offer advice. Happened almost a year ago (on the 28th) and still nowhere near over it. Maybe a little better in that I'm able to feel a little anger now at the situation instead of pure self-loathing. But I'm still obsessing all the time. Then again, I take so freaking abnormally long to get over things like this that I'm the last person that has any business offering advice. The only thing that ever helps me is distraction.

~Kate

time and distractions

Thank you, I have read all your answers and they are very helpful and I appreciate your support immensely. Hopefully I'll get around to thanking you individually but if not, thank you each of you!

This may sound odd but whenever I have any sort of relationship problems wether it is a friendship or a love interest I start listening to emo songs about how hard relationships are(ie first cd by My chemical romance)and somehow it does the trick for me.
For example last time it happened I grabbed my mp3 and I went to the gym while I was listening to it and I thought about the bad things the relationship had. By the time I was in the middle of the cd it was like there are other people out there that are probably better suited for a relationship of this kind with you.
Im aware that this may can make people even more depressed but I think that a small dose of this songs can be quie helpfull.

Cant remember how many times Ive listened to honey this mirror isnt big enough for the two of us and I dont like listening to it while things are fine(somehow it doesnt make any sense)

To tell the turth I spit up with my parnter this week, am trying new things out to deal with the hearbreak.
Am going to keep tried lipped about what am doing right now as I have a suitution with my ex parnter's jealous husband.
So am in the middle of healing my heartbreak and countering his silly stupid mind games.

Shopping for a new heart

deviation page —> http://fatal-noogie.deviantart.com/art/ ... -244311939
I'll do the background later.

hmmm. the narrative is unclear right now.
Once shelves full of hearts fill the background,
that will clarify that the dark figure is a vendor,
and that she's buying a heart, not selling hers.

If purchase wants this piece to be finished, I'll do that.
Otherwise I'll get back to my other paintings.

Fatal-Noogie, this is ABSOLUTELY f*****g AMAZING! I am so so so so so so so SO happy that you did this! No extra artistry required, this is a masterpiece! No one's ever painted a p[icture of me before! I feel so sspecial! And no I'm not just saying this cause it's of me but you are an amazing and one-of-a-kind artist! Did you make this its own thread cause if not I wantto make one! Or do you have a thread of your work on herealready? You are a genius! This has cheered me up like nothing I could have imagined! This is inspiring!

Oh wait I see your deviantart page! Okay!