Paradoxical love

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I think you are very brave writing this on a forum where alot of people will not understand the motivating factors for your strong faith. I am guessing people are baptized into LDS church at an age where they have made a decision that this is the faith for them and are committed to it and your not saying you need someone who's parents had him baptized (i think some people have msunderstood this).

I totally understand where you are coming from feeling that you want to share your life with someone who has made the same decision to get baptized into the faith that you did. You want to share what you love with someone else.

I've only spoken to a couple of mormons, but I gather that it is a whole way of life that you would want to share with someone you love. It's not a label or just something to do on Sundays and forget about the rest of the week. It helps to have a partner who can support your decisions in a world that seems to look down on religion.

I personaly need someone who will support me. I want to go home to someone who understands these things in my heart. Who won't belittle my faith, who will stand up for me when my athiest father attacks my faith (but thats my own personal life) I guess your family is lds and you want someone to become part of the family completely. I will never have that as my whole family disagree with my religion.

I personally imagine that if i did marry a guy who didn't feel so strongly about my faith he might feel left out of part ofmy life or i might feel sad that I can't share the things that are most important to me with my partner.

But you are young. You may be surprised by how much you mature over the net few years and what coping skills you develope in how you manage your as. Use the time you have as a single person to grow and work out who you are inside. Then when the right guy comes along you will feel confident in who you are as a person.

You never know who is going to come along in your life, so don't dispair.

Sounds good that your religion is sociable, hopefully that gets you out and about and meeting new people, so lots of opportunity to find a nice guy within your church organization. You just need to be patient.

I'm sorry if i've made assumptions about your church, but I don't really know any mormons. All the best. x

When my partner has a different religious view from me I do not expect them to participate in it or I theirs. Beliefs are a personal matter and your or needing to be with someone who believes in the same religion as you sounds kinda stupid. Religion should ultimately come second to a loving relationship. If a partner of mine does not respect my beliefs and wants me to change as a person then we are not meant for each other but I'd never ask them to change or interferer with them expressing themselves. Mutual respect is my most important thing in a relationship I think your expectations are too high and you could miss out on finding a fulfilling partner.