What exactly do you talk about with girls?

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Talking to an aspie girl would be an odd change of pace. I can do the quick-witted, rapid-fire, subtext-laden flirting useful with nonautistic girls but I think I'd be lost if the game wasn't implicit.

Oddly those are all my favorite topics, too, but then I add other things like anime, and now my new, as I guess Aspie hobbies are called, special interest, is figure skating.

I think the main problem in the suggestions is, I simply don't like asking other people stuff about their lives. I don't like being prying. I think the way I expect conversations to go is, I talk about myself, then you talk about yourself, back and forth, and generally with my best male friends, all my conversations work like that. One of my friends (who was my best friend, and now he's either busy or thinks I'm a heretic and hates me and that's his reason for not talking to me anymore, probably a bit of both) said I talk too much about myself.

I think interviewing people like Conan Obrien seems to be the best most concrete advice so far. Ugh.

As previously mentioned by others, just be yourself and forget the fact you are talking to a girl. If all the time you are thinking to yourself how much you'd like to get involved with this girl, it will just get in the way. Just treat the girl like one of the guys (as far as conversation) and get to find out what her interests are and if you have any interests in common to talk about. If you hit it off nature will take its course.

"God you have beautiful eyes, can I buy you a drink?" Then after the drinks arrive and she says even one thing you can say "You have the most amazing voice, I could listen to you talk all night. Tell me about yourself" works really well. Plus, once she gets going on about herself you don't really have to listen all that closely. Just say "ahhhh!" or "i know, right" or "yep" randomly.

Although you should always notice if the words "restraining order", "mental hospital", "probation/parole officer" or "my ole mans visiting day at county" are said, and if so, make a quick exit.

To the one poster who mentioned ice skating, I couldn't do that because I don't really follow any sports. I'd turn the entire conversation around to Dorothy Hammil's wedge haircut in the 70's and not understand anything else about it. I would also probably find a way to add Nadia Comaneche's perfect 10 score in gymnastics back in the 70s too in the Olympics. Olympics would be a perfect segue to Ancient Greece and then to Europe in the Middle Ages, so I'd be happy then.

The key to talking to NT women is to let them talk about theirselves. Also compliment them. A lot. Depending on the girl, sexual innuendo's are sometimes OK.

Back when I was dating, there was never any game played on my part. I'd tell them right off the bat "I'm not sleeping with you" or "Go away, no". Or if I liked them I'd say "So, you wanna go out or what? Cut to the chase, this isn't some kind of strategy game".

It threw some guys, but other guys liked the straight forward approach.

Back in the day, that would confuse the crap out of me and I'd just tell you to get to the jist of it and if you want to ask me out, then do so. Then if you did, it would become a negotiation of where we were going and what we were going to do. I would try to find an activity that both of us enjoyed. I hated the movie and dinner type dates. I much preferred actual activities, like either going to shoot guns at the range, or driving around counting the number of volkswagons we saw. Or possibly going to a friends house who has a huge movie collection and watching movies. Or looking through each others album collection. Once I went on a date that consisted entirely of tire shopping for the guys car. I enjoyed it.

It depends on the girl.......for me personally I am not that picky, it would take far to long for me to list all the things I like talking about. But yeah I like a lot of things guys like to.

Yes talk about the music and the beer.....especially if the female is drinking a beer, I would love if I was sitting at a bar and a guy sat by me and asked me about what kind of beer I like and such.

The U.S. Army corporal rank insignia.

What kind of beer do you like?

I am attracted to ladies who drink beer. A lot of guys are. Gives us summat to talk about, long as they're not lagergirls.

For me I have found that women are usually not interested in my special interests or obsessions but nevertheless may be interested in humanitarian applications of my interests. For example I have an interest in atomic rockets which most women could care less about however when I proposed an atomic rocket mission that would rid the world of its entire arsenal of nuclear weapons...

I also have an interest in humanoid robotics which most women could care less about but when I worked at a hospital I proposed that robotic technology could be used to help disabled people...

lol well I like some lagers..........but I am more into Ales or dark beers. If you've ever heard of O'Dells brewing I think it is, I really like their beer.

Odells? Wow, I've actually had a few of those! Imported from the US.

With the few girls I do associate with in my spare time, I end up being the listener most of the time. I listen to whatever they want to talk about. I just go by what topic she decides to talk about and I'll add my comments if it's something we are both interested in or have knowledge about. Topics could vary from many things from TV shows to our jobs but in every phone conversation I've had, I've always end up doing most of the listening even if I don't plan on doing that at the beginning.

That's perfect. Girls love it when you let them babble.

This is true, but by being so passive you're likely to get stuck in the friend zone really rather quickly.

You've heard of the old joke why ladies don't break wind, right?