Bars/Clubbing/Parties Rules and Etiquette

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For me personally going to a bar brought out every negative or what was perceived as negative attribute that I had.

I agree, I don't think nightclubs or bars are the best place for people on the spectrum in general

Also I don't drink or smoke so there would be a conflict of interests because I don't go out to clubs, I don't think I could go out with someone who drinks or goes to clubs or bars on a regular basis.

There are also other issues for people on the spectrum when it comes to clubs such as sensory overload or not being able to process everything, perhaps some people on spectrum can tolerate clubs or even enjoy it after they have lowered their inhibitions but it's not something I would reccomend for everyone on the spectrum, if it works for some, that's good but personally I'm not into the clubbing scene.

One thing I dislike is that some clubs you have to pay extra to go outside for a smoke (I don't smoke but like to go outside for fresh air) and you only have a time limit to spend outside.

I do find pubs better places to be, normally because you can sit down and relax in a pub

I've heard of so many stories of nightclubs treating their punters like crap in that sense - like cattle and not like people - that I really have to wonder why a lot of people bother with them. There are better places to spend one's money.

I'm convinced no one actually likes clubs. It's a conspiracy. We've been told they're cool and fun; that only "saddoes" dislike them. And no one in our pathetic little pre-apocalyptic timebubble wants to be labelled "sad" - it's like being officially declared worthless by the state. So we muster a grin and go out on the town in our millions.

Clubs are despicable. Cramped, overpriced furnaces with sticky walls and the latest idiot theme tunes thumping through the humid air so loud you can't hold a conversation, just bellow inanities at megaphone-level. And since the smoking ban, the masking aroma of cigarette smoke has been replaced by the overbearing stench of crotch sweat and hair wax.

Clubs are such insufferable dungeons of misery, the inmates have to take mood-altering substances to make their ordeal seem halfway tolerable. This leads them to believe they "enjoy" clubbing. They don't. No one does. They just enjoy drugs.

Drugs render location meaningless. Neck enough ketamine and you could have the best night of your life squatting in a shed rolling corks across the floor. And no one's going to search you on the way in. Why bother with clubs?

"Because you might get a shag," is the usual response. Really? If that's the only way you can find a partner - preening and jigging about like a desperate animal - you shouldn't be attempting to breed in the first place. What's your next trick? Inventing fire? People like you are going to spin civilisation into reverse. You're a moron, and so is that haircut you're trying to impress. Any offspring you eventually blast out should be drowned in a pan before they can do any harm. Or open any more nightclubs.

Even if you somehow avoid reproducing, isn't it a lot of hard work for very little reward? Seven hours hopping about in a hellish, reverberating bunker in exchange for sharing 64 febrile, panting pelvic thrusts with someone who'll snore and dribble into your pillow till 11 o'clock in the morning, before waking up beside you with their hair in a mess, blinking like a dizzy cat and smelling vaguely like a ham baguette? Really, why bother? Why not just stay at home punching yourself in the face? Invite a few friends round and make a night of it. It'll be more fun than a club.

If you are carrying around a glass of coke with ice in it, nobody is going to know it's just a coke and not a bourbon and coke, or rum and coke.

Here are my opinions and observations. Other members of this community are encouraged to post their rules, tips, advice, opinions, etc about how to correctly go to clubs and bars to meet people from the opposite sex.

I am a guy, so I cannot speak for women, so I will speak from a male perspective.

1. Dress well, depending on the place. Wear something that is mature, but not preppy or overdoing it. Ideally, a button-down casual shirt (perhaps plaid, with undershirt and/or no "popped collars", jeans, clean casual shoes, combed hair, groomed, wearing a little bit of cologne, and perhaps a good watch. No outerwear, things will get too sweaty.

I agree, overpriced, waste of money and cramped, based on presentation and dancing, the last place for someone like me. I can't dance, I can't read body language well at all, I don't enjoy drinking, I don't have a good fashion sense and I hate crowds. Perhaps nightclubs are alright for some people on the spectrum but I personally don't find them appealing.

Dress well at a bar, club or party?..........i thought those where occasions to dress more extreme lol. Then again I probably cannot afford to go to any bars/clubs that would require nice dress and I don't really know any upper class people who would invite me to a party so I think my typical attire or whatever I feel like wearing would suffice.

Depends on what part of the world you're in, in the United Kingdom, the apparel tends to be shirt, shoes and trousers and most places will turn you down if you aren't wearing shoes.

Well that is rather vauge that sounds like typical attire of most people in the U.S as well.