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10 May 2012, 11:33 pm

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I am very fit,I exercise daily and watch what I eat.I have always been athletic so I don't think I would be compatible with someone who was overweight.I really don't think that is being ''superficial'' but generally obese individuals seem to prefer a sedentary lifestyle which wouldn't mesh very well with my interests.

i am extremely active (i compete in hip hop dancing) but i am fat.


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10 May 2012, 11:49 pm

I don't think it would be offensive because it simply wouldn't work due to different lifestyle choices. I stick to a strict diet which doesn't consist of sugar or caffeine, it would be more difficult to live with someone that decided to indulge themselves with food that is detrimental to their health.

Also if I can spend 60-90 minutes a day training my body, I would expect the same discipline from my partner. Relationships are definitely more about discipline and mutual understanding for me.

Saying that, I don't date smokers, regular drinkers or people that are untidy in general.



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10 May 2012, 11:55 pm

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I am very fit,I exercise daily and watch what I eat.I have always been athletic so I don't think I would be compatible with someone who was overweight.I really don't think that is being ''superficial'' but generally obese individuals seem to prefer a sedentary lifestyle which wouldn't mesh very well with my interests.

i am extremely active (i compete in hip hop dancing) but i am fat.


Active doesn't mean intense, someone can still be active and have a high body fat ratio, a person can be a power walker and walk up a few hills a day for a few hours and state they are active yet they still won't have the same lung capacity or cardiovascular stamina as someone that spends 20 to 30 minutes doing uphill sprints in intervals.



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10 May 2012, 11:59 pm

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bruinsy33 wrote:
I am very fit,I exercise daily and watch what I eat.I have always been athletic so I don't think I would be compatible with someone who was overweight.I really don't think that is being ''superficial'' but generally obese individuals seem to prefer a sedentary lifestyle which wouldn't mesh very well with my interests.

i am extremely active (i compete in hip hop dancing) but i am fat.


Active doesn't mean intense, someone can still be active and have a high body fat ratio, a person can be a power walker and walk up a few hills a day for a few hours and state they are active yet they still won't have the same lung capacity or cardiovascular stamina as someone that spends 20 to 30 minutes doing uphill sprints in intervals.

did you miss the part where i mentioned hip hop dancing? :lol:

it's possible to be fat and yet be extremely fit.


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11 May 2012, 12:05 am

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I am very fit,I exercise daily and watch what I eat.I have always been athletic so I don't think I would be compatible with someone who was overweight.I really don't think that is being ''superficial'' but generally obese individuals seem to prefer a sedentary lifestyle which wouldn't mesh very well with my interests.

i am extremely active (i compete in hip hop dancing) but i am fat.


Active doesn't mean intense, someone can still be active and have a high body fat ratio, a person can be a power walker and walk up a few hills a day for a few hours and state they are active yet they still won't have the same lung capacity or cardiovascular stamina as someone that spends 20 to 30 minutes doing uphill sprints in intervals.

did you miss the part where i mentioned hip hop dancing? :lol:

it's possible to be fat and yet be extremely fit.


Fit in what aspect? Sure, they may be able to compete in sports such as power lifting or some form of dance but I think you would be hard pressed to find a sprinter or an endurance athlete that is fat.



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11 May 2012, 12:08 am

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hyperlexian wrote:
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I am very fit,I exercise daily and watch what I eat.I have always been athletic so I don't think I would be compatible with someone who was overweight.I really don't think that is being ''superficial'' but generally obese individuals seem to prefer a sedentary lifestyle which wouldn't mesh very well with my interests.

i am extremely active (i compete in hip hop dancing) but i am fat.


Active doesn't mean intense, someone can still be active and have a high body fat ratio, a person can be a power walker and walk up a few hills a day for a few hours and state they are active yet they still won't have the same lung capacity or cardiovascular stamina as someone that spends 20 to 30 minutes doing uphill sprints in intervals.

did you miss the part where i mentioned hip hop dancing? :lol:

it's possible to be fat and yet be extremely fit.


Fit in what aspect? Sure, they may be able to compete in sports such as power lifting or some form of dance but I think you would be hard pressed to find a sprinter or an endurance athlete that is fat.

not many people in general could be endurance athletes or sprinters, whether they are fat or thin. so that's not a good example. a person can be very fit and still fat, but like most of the world they will probably not enter the Olympics.

i think you are unaware of how hard it is to dance


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11 May 2012, 12:11 am

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did you miss the part where i mentioned hip hop dancing? :lol:

it's possible to be fat and yet be extremely fit.


Seen pictures of you and, while you're on the curvier part of the weight spectrum, you're also definitely smaller than what most people picture when they think of a "fat person."


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11 May 2012, 12:13 am

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did you miss the part where i mentioned hip hop dancing? :lol:

it's possible to be fat and yet be extremely fit.


Seen pictures of you and, while you're on the curvier part of the weight spectrum, you're also definitely smaller than what most people picture when they think of a "fat person."

i am actually obese. not even just overweight.


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11 May 2012, 12:17 am

hyperlexian wrote:
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did you miss the part where i mentioned hip hop dancing? :lol:

it's possible to be fat and yet be extremely fit.


Seen pictures of you and, while you're on the curvier part of the weight spectrum, you're also definitely smaller than what most people picture when they think of a "fat person."

i am actually obese. not even just overweight.


That is surprising to me. Though some people can be considered obese and not look it. I watched some show about weight loss where this one tall guy who looked rather skinny had more lipids around his organs than people who were visibly overweight. The liver can gain a lot of lipid mass for example.


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11 May 2012, 12:19 am

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hyperlexian wrote:
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I am very fit,I exercise daily and watch what I eat.I have always been athletic so I don't think I would be compatible with someone who was overweight.I really don't think that is being ''superficial'' but generally obese individuals seem to prefer a sedentary lifestyle which wouldn't mesh very well with my interests.

i am extremely active (i compete in hip hop dancing) but i am fat.


Active doesn't mean intense, someone can still be active and have a high body fat ratio, a person can be a power walker and walk up a few hills a day for a few hours and state they are active yet they still won't have the same lung capacity or cardiovascular stamina as someone that spends 20 to 30 minutes doing uphill sprints in intervals.

did you miss the part where i mentioned hip hop dancing? :lol:

it's possible to be fat and yet be extremely fit.


Fit in what aspect? Sure, they may be able to compete in sports such as power lifting or some form of dance but I think you would be hard pressed to find a sprinter or an endurance athlete that is fat.


Not being a sprinter doesn't make someone "sedentary" either.


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11 May 2012, 12:19 am

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did you miss the part where i mentioned hip hop dancing? :lol:

it's possible to be fat and yet be extremely fit.


Seen pictures of you and, while you're on the curvier part of the weight spectrum, you're also definitely smaller than what most people picture when they think of a "fat person."

i am actually obese. not even just overweight.


That is surprising to me. Though some people can be considered obese and not look it. I watched some show about weight loss where this one tall guy who looked rather skinny had more lipids around his organs than people who were visibly overweight. The liver can gain a lot of lipid mass for example.

my BMI is 32, and i wear about a size 16. i am naturally very muscular, which adds to my weight i think. but most of my pix are of my face, and i carry the weight in my hips and ass


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11 May 2012, 12:21 am

hyperlexian wrote:
mds_02 wrote:
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did you miss the part where i mentioned hip hop dancing? :lol:

it's possible to be fat and yet be extremely fit.


Seen pictures of you and, while you're on the curvier part of the weight spectrum, you're also definitely smaller than what most people picture when they think of a "fat person."

i am actually obese. not even just overweight.


Are you using the medical definition, or the average person's looks-based definition of obese?

'cause I was thinking of the looks-based version.


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11 May 2012, 12:23 am

mds_02 wrote:
hyperlexian wrote:
mds_02 wrote:
hyperlexian wrote:
did you miss the part where i mentioned hip hop dancing? :lol:

it's possible to be fat and yet be extremely fit.


Seen pictures of you and, while you're on the curvier part of the weight spectrum, you're also definitely smaller than what most people picture when they think of a "fat person."

i am actually obese. not even just overweight.


Are you using the medical definition, or the average person's looks-based definition of obese?

'cause I was thinking of the looks-based version.

medical definition


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11 May 2012, 12:27 am

hyperlexian wrote:
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Fit in what aspect? Sure, they may be able to compete in sports such as power lifting or some form of dance but I think you would be hard pressed to find a sprinter or an endurance athlete that is fat.

not many people in general could be endurance athletes or sprinters, whether they are fat or thin. so that's not a good example. a person can be very fit and still fat, but like most of the world they will probably not enter the Olympics.

i think you are unaware of how hard it is to dance


I'm not saying everyone has to train their body to a high standard to be considered healthy, for some people, a couple of low intensity sessions of running and a healthy diet may be enough. People need to find out what's right for them and if they can handle it physically, as well as mentally. Of course, not everyone has the capacity to be a world class athlete or at the level of one.

I don't think it is good to promote obesity however and I think the US and the UK definitely need to reform on this issue.

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“Take obesity: it already costs our NHS a staggering £4 billion a year. But within four years, that figure’s expected to rise to £6.3 billion.” David Cameron, 16 May 2011.

Last week David Cameron delivered a speech outlining the Government's continued commitment to the reform of the NHS, laying out some of the reasons he believed justified and necessitated the reforms

High and growing levels of obesity in the UK, and the associated health costs, was one such reason he highlighted. With the NHS facing growing costs from treating patients with obesity linked conditions, Mr Cameron said that the NHS had to focus on efficiency and reduce management costs.



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11 May 2012, 12:29 am

hyperlexian wrote:
mds_02 wrote:
hyperlexian wrote:
mds_02 wrote:
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did you miss the part where i mentioned hip hop dancing? :lol:

it's possible to be fat and yet be extremely fit.


Seen pictures of you and, while you're on the curvier part of the weight spectrum, you're also definitely smaller than what most people picture when they think of a "fat person."

i am actually obese. not even just overweight.


Are you using the medical definition, or the average person's looks-based definition of obese?

'cause I was thinking of the looks-based version.

medical definition


Fair enough. Even still, the pics I was thinking of had more than just your face. Though I don't remember them showing your hips or butt.

Still, based on those pics and your description above of how you carry the weight, I (and most guys, I think) would describe you as a girl with a big ass (which ain't necessarily a bad thing) rather than fat.


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11 May 2012, 12:29 am

She never promoted obesity. She was saying that if someone has an active life style that does not automatically make them look like they are in shape.


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