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AnneOleson
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27 Dec 2016, 4:14 pm

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They were insinuating that you are homosexual partners as an insult. They sound rude as you described.



Yeah I am satisfied that I gave them rudeness back. Sick and tired of women having a downer on us aspie guys :evil:

How did the women know that either of you were aspies?




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. So you are guessing that they were guessing, based upon a bit of banter in a bar, that a new work colleague and a complete stranger were autistic? My guess would be if you were to ask them to describe characteristics of autism they wouldn't know where to start.



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27 Dec 2016, 8:13 pm

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I think a lot of women have not had experience of interacting with aspie men (that they are aware of). They may find themselves awkward or anxious about the 'correct' way to approach them and may also not be familiar with some of the traits exhibited, which can some times be perceived as rude behaviour if not familiar. All of this can create tension as well.

But just the same, there can just be some people who are not very nice/rude/ignorant by nature.


Yep. Even worse when two of that type find each other and become friends.


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28 Dec 2016, 2:24 pm

AnneOleson wrote:
Jamesy wrote:
AnneOleson wrote:
Jamesy wrote:
voidofcontext wrote:
They were insinuating that you are homosexual partners as an insult. They sound rude as you described.



Yeah I am satisfied that I gave them rudeness back. Sick and tired of women having a downer on us aspie guys :evil:

How did the women know that either of you were aspies?




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. So you are guessing that they were guessing, based upon a bit of banter in a bar, that a new work colleague and a complete stranger were autistic? My guess would be if you were to ask them to describe characteristics of autism they wouldn't know where to start.




My autistic friend and his 2 work friends work in a care home for senior people with dementia/memory loss etc......



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28 Dec 2016, 6:12 pm

Jamesy wrote:
AnneOleson wrote:
Jamesy wrote:
AnneOleson wrote:
Jamesy wrote:
voidofcontext wrote:
They were insinuating that you are homosexual partners as an insult. They sound rude as you described.



Yeah I am satisfied that I gave them rudeness back. Sick and tired of women having a downer on us aspie guys :evil:

How did the women know that either of you were aspies?




Mannerisms/appearance
. So you are guessing that they were guessing, based upon a bit of banter in a bar, that a new work colleague and a complete stranger were autistic? My guess would be if you were to ask them to describe characteristics of autism they wouldn't know where to start.




My autistic friend and his 2 work friends work in a care home for senior people with dementia/memory loss etc......


Ok! That adds a bit to the situation.



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28 Dec 2016, 6:15 pm

My personal belief:

It's a pity that these caregivers acted like such a**holes in that situation.

I'm thinking they wanted an escape, and found insulting you to be part of their "escape."

Bars are full of people who are seeking "escape." Most of the time, they are seeking victims so they can amuse themselves.

That's why I don't go into bars.