Does my past define my future?

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It is possible to start again.

You'll only succeed, though, if you don't let your past "failures" intrude upon your incipient successes.

Yes, I see you frustration; I've felt the same frustration. A 5 foot 5, 17-year-old kid is not an especially hot commodity in high school.

The worst thing you can do in trying to obtain dates is to give off an air of "inevitable failure." I did that in my early 20s. I got the "creep" treatment frequently then.

It helps to act like you're hot s**t because, even if you can't back it up, who else will look out for you anyway? Best to cut people out who will never like you, makes it easier to find anyone decent.

Q: Does my past define my future?
A: It defines the point from which you enter your future.
After that, it all depends.

I know it's a cliché but if you struggle to attract women in your early-mid 20's at the latest, things won't get better unless your and incredible late bloomer like f.e. Ralph Macchio, Alan Ruck, Johnny Depp.

I am 40 this year and never had a GF about from a casual hook up at age 27. My only other encounters are with escorts but it gets expensive, like I can only afford 2x visits a year and I haven't been in years. It's agonizing being deprived of a S.O, like I'm leading to death and I feel ostracised even further than I did at age 25. I too, was mistreated, shunned and treated as 'unfit' and alien during that crucial stage of life when relationships - I believe -- are crucial for your future mental state. That is the 16-24 range. My psychologist said I didn't deserve to be treated the way I was by my peers during college and early adulthood. It was uncalled for and I'm sick of having the blame shifted onto me whenever people hear about my struggles. I was educated and in the same boat as the guys who were deemed 'fit' for relationships, even when these guys turn out to be often total jerks and you see that girl who ignored you crying after her boyfriend cheated on her.

I bought my apartment at 34. I work out. I put myself out there, but it's all just a big cope. I'm balding and getting uglier, and I'm really struggling to embrace that my genes are not desired by any female I'm attracted too, and I don't have ridiculous standards outside of overlooking chavs and big obese females.

I have had one girlfriend and I am not a virgin but I don't want my only taste of love to be with my ex.