I'm not that girl... again.

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Bump.

Why the bump? It's still bothering me. Not quite as bad as before... but I have my moments - like the one I'm having right now. Listening to music seems to spark them. Every song reminds me of him.

Lame, I know.

I've fully accepted and come to terms with the fact that I don't have iceberg's chance in hell, but the feeling remains. We have a beautiful friendship, which I don't take for granted (as they're rare), and the last thing I want to do is change that... but the feeling remains. He knows I've got a crush, which is fine, as we joke about it... but it's really a little more serious than a 'crush'.

Grrr!

AND here's the best part of it all! We're now roommates.

It's a long story, but it was destined to happen. We were both pretty much stranded and too poor to get places of our own. I just hope my heart doesn't explode...

I know it'll pass. It's just taking a while.

i know, that hurts a lot when that happens

Lol I've so been there before.

Indeed

I've talked about this before, but I'll mention it again. If you really want to stop having feelings about him, give yourself a little brainwashing therapy. In the end you more than likely will always have a place in your heart for him but it just won't be bothering you in your mind anymore. Peoples minds are easily influenced, whether you consider yourself to be "strong minded" or not. So whenever you start thinking of him in that special way, or at least too often, tell yourself right away that you don't even like him like that. After a little while, it will come true. Eventually it will just be programed.

Youjust said the solution: I'm not that girl ...again.

Yes, don't be that girl again.

We humans are biological creatures ,we are vulnerable to hormones and biological needs especially when those needs are not appeased.

So when you are single and young then you are more prone to fall in such unwanted feelings toward some guy till you have your own boyfriend.

So my advice is to avoid such kind of 'casual' and "DUO" close friendships with guys as like hangning out *alones and only the both of you* to a restaurant while you are aware that this guy is taken or interested in another girl. Because as long you are single and you are doing this then you are still going to fall in such unwanted feelings, you are a human and you cannot always stop your instincts and your hunger for relationship with someone once it becomes strong.
Don't get me wrong, you still can make friendship with guys ...but not in that duo way!


Instead of these duo friendship with taken guys, focus on non-taken guys till you get a boyfriend.

He's not taken. If he were, I think I could, or at least try to kill the faint hope that maybe it could eventually turn into something...

'I'm not that girl' is reference to a song that pretty much describes how I feel about it all. 'That girl' can represent those he's attracted to - me not being one of them.

^ that's not friendship , that's a one-sided love and one-sided friendship.

don't succumb in such hopes, it would lead you nowhere.

If the two of you are living together then your in a perfect position to get things going. You can leave sexy things laying around or wear some skimpy clothes, sit close together on the couch and watch a movie. Don't give up, you've got it all right there. You could even crawl in bed with him at night (and claim sleep walking or disoriented if he freaks out). Don't give up, give it a go. Try to bake something, men love to eat.

I don't think it would take that long.

Excuse me for stating the absolute obvious here lol. If you're living together, chances are that if something's gonna happen, it's gonna happen! Just please, please make sure it's not when you're both drunk or out of your faces on whatever (not assuming anything. Just a hypothetical situation), because that's the tempting thing. Make sure that you and he are completely sober, because if not, one or both of you is bound to regret it.

I really hope this doesn't sound preachy. It's just that I was in your situation several times - I have a habit of falling in love with my male friends, it's actually quite laughable - and each time I ended up losing a fantastic person because of what happened under false circumstances.

So just hang in there even though it hurts, and in time he may very well see what a catch you are, and you will be that girl. Patience is a virtue, if a frustrating one.

If you want people to be interested in you, then you must first be interesting to them.

Find out what interests he has, and then try to cultivate those same interests in yourself. Just don't try to fake your way through it, as eventually he will find out.

I missed that part ....that changes everything.

The first thing you need to know if he might finds you sexually attractive ore if there any potential of that , if not .....then nothing further gonna happen.

Use butterflair's plan.