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KenM
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29 Sep 2008, 4:40 am

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However, remember Rorschach's fate at the end of the story? Do you really want to end up like that?

P.S. Everyone should read The Watchmen, it truly is the best graphic novel ever printed.



I agree about the graphic novel and as a side note i'm looking foward to the movie, looks like they are doing it right.

I remember his fate very well. I do want to end up like that because in the end of the story, when you found out what was really going on, Rorschach was the only one that stuck to his values and did not cave in. He was the only one with any balls that said "this is wrong and people have to know"

But if you want to get down to it, we are all going to end up like that anyway.


As far as what women are looking for, EVERY time its the same story with me. We met talk, i',m attractted to them. I tell them how I feel and they say the same thing. "you are a nice guy but i just want to be friends"
I have no idea what i'm doing to be such a turn off. I treat them good, ect.. Maybe i'll start treating them like crap and taking what I want.



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29 Sep 2008, 3:47 pm

are you playful and sexy? maybe work on being playful and sexy...

don't wanna say that you aren't that already man, but most of your posts are a bit of a downer to read, if you do that in conversation with girls its gonna make people feel awkward.x



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29 Sep 2008, 4:42 pm

I do vent alot on here. But when i'm out with someone i'm interested in I do my best to stay confedent, ubeat, funny, ect..



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29 Sep 2008, 4:44 pm

good, just keep at it, and you know, don't give up on humanity man, we're not all bad ^.^



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30 Sep 2008, 2:47 am

Yea maybe concentrate on the sexy rather than the friendly. Girls just wanna have fun. That's all they really want.



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30 Sep 2008, 1:29 pm

Pobodys_Nerfect wrote:
Yea maybe concentrate on the sexy rather than the friendly. Girls just wanna have fun. That's all they really want.


Gross generalization... all people are different.


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30 Sep 2008, 2:41 pm

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I'm 22 years old now and I've never been in any sort of relationship really. In high school it didn't bother me as much(I wasn't very interested in being in a relationship back then), but it's been getting worse as I get older.

The worst part is that a couple months ago I realized something. Most of the times that I have liked girls, they've just been shallow crushes on girls who would probably be "out of my league". There's only one girl who I feel I've ever been truly attracted to, and she's one of my closer friends. I talk to her quite often online, but she lives pretty far away from me and I rarely see her in real life(only 4 times since I met her 5 years ago.) Some of the time I just think of her as a friend, but when I see her IRL I tend to feel attracted to her.

This bothers me a lot. The fact that my chances with her are quite low makes it worse. Will I ever feel attracted to anyone else?


Yes you will and you will also find people who are attracted to you. But Id like to ask you Dennis, do you feel (external)social pressure to have a gf? Like its something that society expects you to have and you feel insecure because others have it and you dont?I often feel that way....



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30 Sep 2008, 3:34 pm

yeah, society really f***s up males with that......you have to get a girl, or you're a loser...oh, and the sheer DREAD of feeling inadequate that comes with that.

meh.



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30 Sep 2008, 4:38 pm

Xanderbeanz wrote:
yeah, society really f**** up males with that......you have to get a girl, or you're a loser...oh, and the sheer DREAD of feeling inadequate that comes with that.

meh.


Except I've been largely unaffected by peer pressure my entire life and I feel that, only from within though... I would rather have a girlfriend that nobody ever saw than none at all...



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30 Sep 2008, 4:39 pm

it might also be the whole, having what someone else wants...thing...."everybody else has a gf...why can't i have one? what's wrong with me? AGHHHH AGHHHH" in an endless cycle forever and ever...unless you break it that is..x



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30 Sep 2008, 5:56 pm

Haliphron wrote:
Yes you will and you will also find people who are attracted to you. But Id like to ask you Dennis, do you feel (external)social pressure to have a gf? Like its something that society expects you to have and you feel insecure because others have it and you dont? I often feel that way....


I guess I do feel that to some extent, but that isn't the only reason. I would really like to at least experience being in a relationship at some point, and I'm not usually influenced by social pressure.

Thanks KenM, you pretty much got me into The Watchmen.



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30 Sep 2008, 7:05 pm

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ToadOfSteel wrote:
Josie wrote:
Hey dont give up.


Can you tell me if there's going to be a paradigm shift in the next 5 years, where women will actually seek such qualities such as loyalty, honesty, and integrity, rather than false confidence?


I seek those things too.
I knew a guy who did, and he emailed me last week.
I told him to get lost.
Was I being careless?


Get lost, loser!

Why this identity-stealer guy isn't banned yet?



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01 Oct 2008, 9:12 am

???????? theres an identity stealer?????
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02 Oct 2008, 7:39 am

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[Loyalty, honesty, and integrity] are the qualities that I look for, along with intelligence and a sense of humour and good work ethic. I found those qualities in my husband, who has AS.

Yeah, well you're already taken - as are any other women who (genuinely) appreciate those qualities. How does that help the males on this forum?



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02 Oct 2008, 1:37 pm

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[Loyalty, honesty, and integrity] are the qualities that I look for, along with intelligence and a sense of humour and good work ethic. I found those qualities in my husband, who has AS.

Yeah, well you're already taken - as are any other women who (genuinely) appreciate those qualities. How does that help the males on this forum?


I am pretty sure that not all women who feel this way are " taken " .. it was to illustrate a point, that those attitudes do exist in the general population.



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03 Oct 2008, 1:59 am

But if that were true of the general population, there wouldn't be a whole lot of Aspie guys (on this forum and elsewhere) forced to stay single. So I'd say that women who value the same things you do are few and far between, and have their pick of who to pair up with (if at all).