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slowmutant
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12 Oct 2008, 7:53 am

Yes, the gender roles are binding. And society is reluctant to forgive any violation of these roles.

I take it like a man because I have to.



12 Oct 2008, 9:42 am

I want to be a better person and learn how to read body language or non verbal cues. But I guess this thread was a big mistake because a few people are offended by it.


I was told by my ex my first boyfriend did show his feeling but I just didn't pick up on it. I was never sure if my first ex was full of it or it's really true.


I was told in the other thread by two people men don't show their feelings because they were taught to not show them, they have to be strong. So it made me wonder if they show it differently and you have to read their cues or does any one not read it because they hide them so well.


I was seen inconsiderate by my last boyfriend. I should have asked back then or him how can I tell how he is feeling but luckily he told me his feelings, cried. But I think it still bothered him he had to tell me how is he feeling. He was just too needy anyway.



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12 Oct 2008, 2:46 pm

no one ever told me to hide them.



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12 Oct 2008, 2:47 pm

slowmutant wrote:
Yes, the gender roles are binding. And society is reluctant to forgive any violation of these roles.

I take it like a man because I have to.


gender is something i have, not something that has me. My society dosnt care about gender



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12 Oct 2008, 2:49 pm

LePetitPrince wrote:
You people are so sensitive about generalizations ,aren't you? You should take it easy , not all generalizations are that wrong.

Spokane is talking about men in general , and yes she's totally right ....gender roles impose on men to not freely show their emotions especially if they are negative emotions like crying and sadness. When men are sad, they usually don't vent openly to their peers like women do, this may vary from one man to man but in general they don't vent , men usually are so paranoid to be seen as sissies or weak or non-confident if they start complaining or whining around others. ....and I am not talking just about the typical macho men.

men suicide more often for that reason...

Spokane, why it's so important to you to know how he's feeling?

I guess the only know way to how he's feeling is to observe his patterns , like how he usually behaves when something upset him ...etc. Or you can try lotus' way.


she said all men, i dont care a flying rats rear what others think about me. I dont think about them



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12 Oct 2008, 3:45 pm

Look, it does no good to cry "SEXISM!" about a relatively inconsequential thing like what Spokane_Girl said (personally I didn't see anything "sexist" about it) when most of the sexism on this board tends to be directed at women.



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13 Oct 2008, 1:03 am

Cyberman wrote:
Look, it does no good to cry "SEXISM!" about a relatively inconsequential thing like what Spokane_Girl said (personally I didn't see anything "sexist" about it) when most of the sexism on this board tends to be directed at women.


It kinda is
1It says all males
2 It says they all fit a untrue sterotype
3 If it is down to females on this forum, it doesnt make it right.



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13 Oct 2008, 7:46 am

Eggman wrote:
slowmutant wrote:
Yes, the gender roles are binding. And society is reluctant to forgive any violation of these roles.

I take it like a man because I have to.


gender is something i have, not something that has me. My society dosnt care about gender


Yes it does. You can stick your head in the sand and deny it, but why?



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13 Oct 2008, 5:33 pm

No MY socity does not care. Others may care but not mine.