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14 Oct 2008, 8:57 am

Phoenix22 wrote:
Hi All -my first post. I am an aspie female whose aspie boyfriend of almost three years has a habit. when he tires of a girl, instead of breaking up with her he treats her so rotten she breaks up with him. Anyone else here do that? and why?


I don't, because I'm a nice guy, and I've never really dated, so I haven't had the luxury of doing that :lol: :P just kidding. I guess the reason why he was rotten to you to the point of breaking up with you is this: I think he didn't want to directly hurt your feelings but breaking up, so he acted like a jerk until you broke up with him. That's just my analysis



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14 Oct 2008, 10:32 pm

Phoenix22 wrote:
It seems to me that although aspie guys say they want love they don't really. they get bored and they want unattainble perfection.

(forgive me for being blunt but i'm an aspie too, so i can't help it)

Any of you aspie guys have along term relationship (more than two years) that is truly fulfilling for both of you?


This is a tough question to answer. I'm been married for 9 years. I don't want unattainable perfection but I am _horrible_ at maintanence - be it the house, the car, or the relationship. I don't get bored - but I think I take the relationship for granted at times. Relationships take a lot of work and I think a lot of people (some aspies included) don't realize it or don't put in the work necessary to keep it running smoothly.

Is it fulfilling? Definately in some ways. But it doesn't eliminate the obsessions. I tend to do best (in the relationship) when I my time at work is spent on something similar to my academic obsessions.