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i've always been told to act different. why do i have to act different. its so stupid.

basically I have to change my personality to talk attract women....

He aspie gusy if you want to get a woman got get Brain surgery because autism aint workin for ya. same for me.....I'm getting brain surgery, if i end up mentally handicap, then I already am handicap.

actually guys hate bad heigene too.
I have amazing heigene, and look amazing too.
someone told me the only thing that holds me back is my personality.....im a weirdo. and girls have liked me at first but when they see that im a weirdo they run the other way.

All my life it has been about me acting a different way to be accepted as a male in society.

ACT ACT ACT

f**k IT i might as well take the ACTs.........

the i try going for older women, assertive women, openminded women, ugly women.

It never works or im never happy.

all i want is a cute girl who accepts me. But her standards are I have to be this and that. well she can kiss my black a---------

I hate double posting. Sorry

Last edited by Witch on 24 May 2009, 7:01 pm, edited 1 time in total.

Jemir, this may sound a little off, but it seems to me that you're trying too hard to find someone to date.

Frindship and dating and romance isn't something to be rushed, but something to nurture. Trust me, rushing into a relatonship can end up being a bad thing.

I remember seing kids in high school getting with each other, go out on a date or two, have sex, then break up. Usually this happens within a few weeks, and the rest of the school year is frought with angry kids looking for revenge or sympathy. This is not good for ones psyche.

I realize it may be difficult to do, because you're probably seeing couples around you, but relax, it'll come. The tension is probably diong more harm than good, and the NT's might be picking up on that, creating aprehension about being around you. Frustraton is not an icebreaker.

Jemir, I can't offer advice, but I can understand what you're experiencing. I had no friends in school, Air Force, college, work... I didn't start having a relationship until I was 32. Fifteen years later, I'm married. Go figure.

It'll come young jedi. Be patient.

did people get on your back about being a loner?

Im a loner, i have no friends either. i have some acquaintances and they are pretty damn cool. They are mostly white guys who understand what i go through and have similar views as me.

This is an excellent point. Now that I am on the 'other side' of high school and just recently, college, I know the people I was sooooo intimidated by were just as effed up and confused as I was. In some ways, more so. I've heard some of them talk about it since. Hang in there, dude. The Aspie guy I like is what most people would consider pretty average, but there is just something about him. Don't give up.

Aw hell yeah. When I was younger,my mom would tell me to get out of the house and find someone to play with. Often I'd just wander off until I felt like going home. Anybody I'd speak to would just turn around and walk away. I might be able to play with my brothers friends, but after a while theyd not want me around. In school, I'd get beat up and teased. After school I'd lock myself in my room and watch Gilligan's Island in a 12" black and white tv. I had a crush on a few girls, but they saw me as a freak and stayed away.

I thought things might be different in high school. But was I wrong. Same crap, same people, same result. I got into photography for some stupid reason-influenced by a tv character. I did make a friend that also got into photography, and some of the agony of attending high school lessend. Dave and I were photographing games and events, and spent a lot of time talking in the darkroom about stuff-mostly about how the jocks were buttheads. That was a really nice darkroom too. One time I wanted to blow up one small part on a negative and had the enlarger on one side of the room and the paper on the opposite wall, about 15 feet away. the exposure was about a half hour, and the photo was grainy as heck, but you could see the object.

Anyhow, one summer Dave and I went to a yearbook workshop in McMinville for a week. I did meet a girl there and we talked almost all night one night. Her name was Shawna, and she was from Oregon City. She was someone I felt was comfortable to be near. She'd tell me about not fitting in at school because she was a loner and liked to write about stuff. She told me about her bunny and how she'd watch the river with the eddy currents. She probably told me her life story, and it was nice-comfortable. I wrote her a note but never heard from her again.

But Dave and I lost track of each other after high school, I went onto more adventurous things, met a few people, met my wife, and the rest...

I really can't tell you that things will get better. They may, they may not. The best thing I think you might be able to do is be yourself. Be good to yourself. Treat yourself with love and dignity. Most of all, accept yourself for the great person you are. Things will happen, and you can make things happen. Don't worry about what others do or think, do what you think is best for you.

Another thought; if you're able, adopt an animal. They don't care what sort of person you are, they just care about you. Give them affection-and food-and they'll like you just for being you. But you also need to let them go when they want, but they'll return.

I was out bucking some wood in the neighbors yard. He appreciated the help. Sometimes friends are made that way too.

Take care young'un

Addendum:

I got to thinking about your aquaintances. There you go, you have similar views about things. These guys may become good friends. Who knows? Maybe sitting in a diner drinking coffee at two in the morning while talking about analog people in the digital world will bring fruitful results.

Egads, this was a long post.

Take care