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18 May 2015, 3:08 am

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Why is there always a competition of who has it worse or gets treated worse? Why not listen to other people's stories without comparing?
I think there are a lot of boys and men on this forum that have suffered a lot , but also a lot of girls and women that have had many difficulties and the same is true for the world outside WP.


It's not a competition, but I am making you aware about it.

I bet that you never knew about what I said before and probably it's the first time you hear it.



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18 May 2015, 3:18 am

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It's not a competition, but I am making you aware about it.

I bet that you never knew about what I said before and probably it's the first time you hear it.


Nope I knew about it and it is sad, but I don't personally know people like that. None of the people that I know would ever go to the gym, not even if their lives depended upon it :lol:

I had problems from about 13-25, it also gives me insight in to how obsessive and distrustful certain things can become. I don't comment on peoples look, I don't tell people they should strive for a certain look. If I talk about anything than it is about being healthy, that interests me and taking steroids is something that should never be done.



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18 May 2015, 3:21 am

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It's not a competition, but I am making you aware about it.

I bet that you never knew about what I said before and probably it's the first time you hear it.


Nope I knew about it and it is sad, but I don't personally know people like that. None of the people that I know would ever go to the gym, not even if their lives depended upon it :lol:

I had problems from about 13-25, it also gives me insight in to how obsessive and distrustful certain things can become. I don't comment on peoples look, I don't tell people they should strive for a certain look. If I talk about anything than it is about being healthy, that interests me and taking steroids is something that should never be done.


But were you aware how common it was among guys? Did you know that like half of them who attend the gyms take such stuff (and a lot of guys do attend the gym)? Were you aware how huge the supplement industry is? and its harmful effects?
Were you aware how hard is to achieve the male ideal body?



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18 May 2015, 3:32 am

And katten, seriously now, how frequently you came across an article, or tv documentary/show, talking about this particular guys' issue?

Vs the frequency you came across articles/docs about the women image dieting issue?



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18 May 2015, 3:38 am

Yes it is not uncommon; maybe the general awareness about these problems is higher in Sweden than in Lebanon? I think that in Sweden we talk more about boys and girls problems.

But that is not my reality, I don't know any men like that, it's not my ideal male body.

http://www.expressen.se/nyheter/dokumen ... arkotikan/

http://www.forte.se/sv/Publicerat/Forsk ... -utseende/

http://www.forte.se/sv/Publicerat/Forsk ... -utseende/



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18 May 2015, 4:33 am

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Yes it is not uncommon; maybe the general awareness about these problems is higher in Sweden than in Lebanon? I think that in Sweden we talk more about boys and girls problems.

But that is not my reality, I don't know any men like that, it's not my ideal male body.

http://www.expressen.se/nyheter/dokumen ... arkotikan/

http://www.forte.se/sv/Publicerat/Forsk ... -utseende/

http://www.forte.se/sv/Publicerat/Forsk ... -utseende/


I am exposed to English and French, so I am not just limited to Arabic press.



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18 May 2015, 4:38 am

Google "women's body image" (exact words) and you get 93,300 results, if you skim the results they are all about awareness and body image issues, and body dissatisfaction.

Google "men's body image" (exact words) and you get only 14,800 results.



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18 May 2015, 4:41 am

Yes but not to Swedish :)
I think that if you compare Sweden to other countries it is a very gender neutral country. Sometime people from abroad are made angry by it. :lol:

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article ... logue.html



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18 May 2015, 4:44 am

You swedes think you are the center of the world.
:roll:

And yeah...right, your men probably have a common body image problem because your women are harshly picky.

That's probably why I got ZERO over 200 in Stockholm's tinder :lol:.

Seriously, I got more blonde matches in Kenya than in Sweden.



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18 May 2015, 4:51 am

Bondkatten wrote:
Yes it is not uncommon; maybe the general awareness about these problems is higher in Sweden than in Lebanon? I think that in Sweden we talk more about boys and girls problems.

But that is not my reality, I don't know any men like that, it's not my ideal male body.

http://www.expressen.se/nyheter/dokumen ... arkotikan/

http://www.forte.se/sv/Publicerat/Forsk ... -utseende/

http://www.forte.se/sv/Publicerat/Forsk ... -utseende/


Missbruk! Missbruk!

Funny how I can vaguely read some parts of it. Herman Finkers had a joke about a news reader, where he started by mumbling something vaguely Scandinavian (Harre höe heu knödde) and then said "Further foreign news..."



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18 May 2015, 4:52 am

And how many men suffer compared to women, do you know because? I have no idea. Men and boys also get raped but not as many as women and girls. Men also get breast cancer but not as many as women. Women also get heart problems but not as many as men. So if there is less literature on these matters is it because of a lack of interest or from the fact that there are less that suffer from it? Look at AS, there is a lot less information about how it affects women and girls than men and boys...
It can be part stigma, part ignorance, I think the amount of boys/ men suffering is increasing and so is the information about it.

I think all problems should be talked about in the open, and just because some have less of it does not make it less of a problem for the people that are suffering.



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18 May 2015, 4:54 am

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Missbruk! Missbruk!

Funny how I can vaguely read some parts of it. Herman Finkers had a joke about a news reader, where he started by mumbling something vaguely Scandinavian (Harre höe heu knödde) and then said "Further foreign news..."


haha Yes there are some words that are similar :)
:lol: the fake Scandinavian by foreigners always sounds like wtf to us :)



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18 May 2015, 4:55 am

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No, my experiment indicates that only whites like whites.
I get a lot of matches with blacks and Asians.

intersint as a lot of white women prefer black/dark skinned men in america.
theres also alot of mixed race couples.

your experiment is like what 200 women out of millions. its as invalid as the anti gun polls.
if anything it might be relevant for whatever area in the nations you chose if they have a small population.

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lol come on...

this for example is unhealthy skinny?

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She's not, just freaking tall.


hard to tell she might be all skin and bones under the dress. which would be unhealthy.



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18 May 2015, 4:57 am

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You swedes think you are the center of the world.
:roll:


You asked what I knew, so I answered, there is no winning with you Boo :lol:

In Swedish I would say "Du är envis som en åsna" :lol: (Stubborn as a donkey)



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18 May 2015, 4:59 am

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I prefer warts in a sense that I like to talk to a real person, not some image they'd project. That's so shallow and boring. Real people are much more interesting than any kind of persona they might invent in order to get accepted. I love it when they share things with me, i don't like those who act like theatre actors.

Women liked to bully me as well, much more than men, sorry you had to go through that as well. They'd threaten to hit me, and since I'm very tiny it usually did the trick.


ah. just a odd way to describe it. I agree mostly

yeah at least with men it was they never played with my romantic feelings women on the other had would pretend to like like me just to set me up for a trap. I never trusted women again, which might have lead to me missing out on actually interest in me, but 50/50 it was just to hurt me. I'll never know.


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I love being his "sister" :) Especially since I have no siblings. Some other people have said similar things to me and I can only feel grateful that they think of me like that.

Not sure why would that be creepy? :scratch: i'm sorry they cut you off, women move in mysterious ways. That one who cut off my friend also called me "sister" until I somehow managed to piss her off....so she cut me off as well but then changed her mind...then she changed her mind one more time and wanted to talk to me again, but I said, no thanks.

My friend is a lot of things, but would never toss and turn me like that, no man has ever been so whimsical to me like some women. They would talk to me for a while, and then cut me off without explanation, just like you say they did to you.

I think if I were a man, I'd be in a similar position as you are now - clueless and at their mercy.

As for why I'm afraid to help him - well, I tried to help him on OK cupid, but after countless rejections he became so despondent and miserable that it was almost impossible to talk to him. Then I introduced him to that girl I mentioned, and it ended up with even greater depression since she just cut him off one day. I fear it will happen again - he isn't snobbish enough for them. He doesn't care for titles, money or status, he just wants someone to care for him, but it seems it wasn't meant to be. I fear if I try to help some more it might bring even worse disaster and he might become suicidal. It's his life, I think from now on I'll keep away lest I do more damage.


well one was I have abandonment issues. I guess. that and I felt I was a burden so I de followed her on tumblr and facebook twice. I would get down and feel it better for her I do so. now I just hide people and don't delete them ever in fear.

ah thats a tough one I suppose.



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18 May 2015, 5:00 am

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No, my experiment indicates that only whites like whites.
I get a lot of matches with blacks and Asians.

intersint as a lot of white women prefer black/dark skinned men in america.
theres also alot of mixed race couples.

your experiment is like what 200 women out of millions. its as invalid as the anti gun polls.
if anything it might be relevant for whatever area in the nations you chose if they have a small population.



200 is a good representative sample, also Kenya is not the only black-dominated country I've tried, and I always get hundred of matches there, and so in Asian countries.

It's only in the white-dominated countries where I get zeros.




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hard to tell she might be all skin and bones under the dress. which would be unhealthy.


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Look at the thigh, you see the meat? there you can tell if she's unhealthy skinny or not.

This one is totally normal.

Don't look at the ankle's bone, because this is an innate bone frame type, some have it thick while others have it thin. East Africans like Ethiopians, Kenyans, Sudanese... tend to have thin bone frame, also they are tall which make it look even thinner ,this one is Kenyan. Obama's bone frame is typically Kenyan.

The pics I showed to trollcat in pm are similar to her.



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