Your thoughts on this person

Post Reply New Topic

What exactly would constitute a quirk?

"quirks" in this context probably means "oddities". As examples, some of my known ones:

- I'm described as "twitchy" - if I don't concentrate very carefully, there's always a part of my body that's moving in a way that's visible: wiggling toes, tapping a finger, eye movements that don't quite coordinate, unexpected changes of posture when speaking. When I concentrate carefully I'm unnaturally still. I generally don't look relaxed even when I feel I am.
- My native language these days is English, but I didn't speak a word until I was five. I've already had social situations where I'm tired and by reflex I'm counting things (cards, spaces on a board game, etc.) in another language. For whatever reason this occasionally spooks people.
- I mumble when speaking English, except when I'm drinking. Evidently I enunciate clearly but my voice doesn't seem to carry.

Each of these traits, quirks if you will, handicap me in social situations.

blah blah blah carpe diem I'm a douche in a suit.

blah blah blah carpe diem I'm a douche in a suit.

There is nothing wrong with your description, but chemistry between two people is something that cannot be summed up in words. Even with all the "best" (or all the "worst"!) qualities, some women will be attracted to you, and some won't.

Its a good thing I am a registered independent I do have a crush on a registered republican though and she likes me back

I was simply describing myself, looking for feedback.

And I have no problem being with someone who isn't conservative.

I am curious how you would present yourself.

What's so special about you?

A quirk is a deviation from the norm that makes you stand out. In this case of course you'll want to choose an endearing quirk. Being a sci-fi geek for example, will endear you to girls who like geeky guys. Admitting that you're old- fashioned and a bit shy around women will make you attractive to timid women.
Nearly every dating profile I've ever seen was a sequence of cliches about being physically fit, going to the gym, "working hard and playing harder," blah blah blah carpe diem I'm a douche in a suit. Show some heart and some personality and not only will you stand out, but you'll stand out to the right women.

I am wanting to know if there are any other things I need to improve about myself in order to be an excellent partner.

Well, what I do to keep fashion-hip is to rely on the fitted classic black tee with jeans or dark grey heather fitted shirt or tee with jeans, and basic black or brown shoes (comfy loafers or mules).

To get current jeans stylin', just go to your nearest good department store and look around the young men's department (the mature men's departments often don't stock the modern fits, sometimes you have to go to an actuals men's store. In a higher-end sotre, such as Nordstroms or Dillard's Men's, usually the people that work there are genuinely happy to help someone update their style, and are knowledgeable. You can always have a look at GQ or Esquire too, which are fashion-forward.

It's the style AND the fit that matter. No good wearing a style that doesn't cover you right, or doesn't move with you (a small bit of spandex is now found in most current menswear, which makes jeans much more comfy).

Boys with bellies need to wear looser fitting shirts, to emphasize shoulders and not accent the preggers look, but they can still wear non-westernwear jeans.

Slim leg trousers are back in style... sort of a 60s look (you can always rent videos of the 1964 TV show "The Mod Squad" for great style education, along with a stellar jazz soundtrack). Warm tan trousers look great with a burgundy/dark red shirt (especially tucked in with a dark belt), and warm brown or dark red pants look great with dark grey shirts (again, tucked in with a dark belt). Good style in America is no longer relegated only to some gay males, but it doesn't men you have to change your whole warddrobe. Just a few pieces will get you on track.

If in doubt, just wear some good blue jeans with grey or black or navy shirt for starters.

For a stylin' modern jacket, go for understated, classic, and modern cut. You can find some nice corduroy sports jackets and euro-style sweaters at the Blairs website (along with some horrifying bad 1980s fashion remnants) or just opt for a basic euro-messenger sort of black jacket that goes with everything (more Kenneth Cole).

Have fun with it, Tim Tex, Rome wasn't built in a day.

I am wanting to know if there are any other things I need to improve about myself in order to be an excellent partner.