Why do we have to do all the work?

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What's the nature of the risk, exactly? That there might be another year just the same? That's entirely possible ... likely, even, I would say. I just don't see it as a risk because I wouldn't really mind being single for a couple of years or even longer. Like I say it works ok for me but in my case there's just a perfect storm of circumstances that make it ok.

holy s**t boo

It's not even that it's "wrong" to share the price or anything. it's just extremely awkward, I like alternating better too
The only exception is I don't like letting a guy pay for me in the beginning because I don't want to feel like I owe him anything.

Let's maybe not display a collection of "women are stupid/whatever" memes, it just seems bitter.

Boo never called women stupid. He's just pointing out double standards in dating. On the first date, you do not even know the other person, therefore, the bill should be split.

Bitter non-humorous queen.

The trick with dating is, it's just like buying shares of an uncertain, and highly capricious stock offering. You begin investing your hard earned capital, with no guarantee of a return on that investment. For simplicity's sake, the 'Return' can be anything, including: sex, companionship, a vessel to bear your progeny so that they may take over the world, whatever; just in case you aren't following my metaphor here.

So, you make an initial large option purchase, wait a few days and see if there's any evidence to support a return.. if there is, you continue to invest, perhaps you back off a bit and buy a smaller number of shares, or perhaps you go all in and buy a ton of shares.. all still with no guarantee of a return on your investment.

Sometimes this will blow up in your face, and sometimes will result in a face blowing you. But if you aren't willing to risk that possible conflagration, the chances are you won't see any return at all, ever.

If you don't have enough to risk it on anything except a sure thing, then you will never really be happy with what you get. Since the problem with the sure thing in the dating world, just like certified deposits and savings bonds, is that they slowly accrue tiny amounts of interest over a multi-year time span, and you will never achieve as much with them as you do with the stock market, and you have to wait dogs ages for them to show even the slightest hint of a return.

Admittedly, I don't play the stock market, lottery or gamble. I don't like games of chance, I like sure things, I would rather play a video game alone, than play cards with a group of friends. I have a savings account and a CD.. But neither of them are glamorous. My problem is I'm not willing to risk my sanity, finances or emotions in order to get that glamour.

Seems bitter? Without a doubt it's bitter. Did you read the original post? This entire thread is about how bitter some women make some men feel.

I didn't take it as Boo saying that all women fit the stereotype in those images. The stereotype exists because enough women fit it (reference: my first comment in this thread), and not all men feel bitterness by such women. The real point to be made is to stay away from such women (and men) if those kinds make you bitter.

Lol yeah. I mean, I pay for things when I can but since I'm unemployed it's hard to be able to pay for things while my bf has a well-paying job. I look so hard for a job but that doesn't mean we can't go out at all until I find a job so a lot of it is on him. When I was working, we paid 50/50 on pretty much everything. Or I'd pay for gas in his car, he'd pay for dinner (they'd be about the same, give or take). He knows I'm trying so I guess that's what counts. >.<

That's great, but most girls won't even talk to me when they find out I don't have a job. It is assumed I will pay for everything we do, and my lack of ability to do that means they aren't interested in me any longer.