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18 Feb 2013, 3:38 pm

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The differences were significant but not overwhelmingly so. As for virgins:

it was 50-50 for females and about 55-45 in favor of virgins for men. Being less appearance-oriented, aspie women, especially of the demisexual variety, may be less picky on looks than are aspie men. If aspie men had the same standard for looks as aspie women (significantly less important), then there might be little to no difference. I wouldn't be surprised if, on the whole, aspie women's partners were less attractive, more abusive, and had a lower social status than aspie men's partners. This doesn't mean it's any easier for either gender to get a date. It just means that aspie men are pickier about certain things (like looks) that work to their disadvantage.


oh, did the numbers change. when I look at it was about 63-37. so it's now 55-45, I need to check it out again.



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18 Feb 2013, 3:44 pm

billiscool wrote:
Tyri0n wrote:

The differences were significant but not overwhelmingly so. As for virgins:

it was 50-50 for females and about 55-45 in favor of virgins for men. Being less appearance-oriented, aspie women, especially of the demisexual variety, may be less picky on looks than are aspie men. If aspie men had the same standard for looks as aspie women (significantly less important), then there might be little to no difference. I wouldn't be surprised if, on the whole, aspie women's partners were less attractive, more abusive, and had a lower social status than aspie men's partners. This doesn't mean it's any easier for either gender to get a date. It just means that aspie men are pickier about certain things (like looks) that work to their disadvantage.


oh, did the numbers change. when I look at it was about 63-37. so it's now 55-45, I need to check it out again.


Actually, 62-38 percentage wise. I miscalculated the percentages trying to do it in my head. #NVLD



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18 Feb 2013, 3:53 pm

I've had 5 boyfriends in my life first one when I was like 17, and none of them exactly ended well or lasted very long. Part of it is I don't really know what I am supposed to do in a relationship or how to keep it going and such. Then with two of it seems they where mostly intrested in sex related activities and of course I am not really too crazy about that so it just ended up getting akward....one I figured was just being deceitful about it being an actual relationship after a while but at first I thought he was actually interested in me as a person. That was m.y first year of college and I was probably more naive than I am now. Then another seemed potentially intrested but then after we hung out a few times he said it probably wasn't going to work but we could still essentially be f*** buddies which I certainly was not intrested in and did not have a response for so I never texted back and he never tried contacting me again.

The others just ended up not working out for varying reasons, my own issues and theres and it just not being meant to be I suppose. So yeah sure I've had a few boyfriends but its not like it was all that wonderful. Though I certainly wouldn't see myself as an alpha female though...and there was really nothing 'easy' about any of those relationships or how they turned out.


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18 Feb 2013, 5:26 pm

billiscool wrote:
so I've been saying that aspie women do better than aspie men in dating, mostly based what I read here.
Now there has been many (mostly women who had a tons of boyfriends) who tells me that it's not true.
That many aspie women do struggle in dating, so let say that is true, so a better question is:
are the women here on wp, the ''alpha female'' of asperger. I mean seriously when you have woman
here claiming to been with 75 guys in 2 years, and other female here, talk about all their boyfriends they
have. and read I threw I alot stuff woman say here, many will claim they been with a tons of guys.

are these women on wp common for most aspie women. Do aspie women really date 75 guys.
or had 10 boyfriends. Or are wp women just a small minority of aspie women that does very well
in dating? or are they liars?

does the avg aspie women really date as much as the women on wp claim.

so are you wp ladies just very attractive and very mild, that you could pass as nt anyways.

why are you asking questions if you don't want to listen to the answers?


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18 Feb 2013, 5:40 pm

hyperlexian wrote:
billiscool wrote:
so I've been saying that aspie women do better than aspie men in dating, mostly based what I read here.
Now there has been many (mostly women who had a tons of boyfriends) who tells me that it's not true.
That many aspie women do struggle in dating, so let say that is true, so a better question is:
are the women here on wp, the ''alpha female'' of asperger. I mean seriously when you have woman
here claiming to been with 75 guys in 2 years, and other female here, talk about all their boyfriends they
have. and read I threw I alot stuff woman say here, many will claim they been with a tons of guys.

are these women on wp common for most aspie women. Do aspie women really date 75 guys.
or had 10 boyfriends. Or are wp women just a small minority of aspie women that does very well
in dating? or are they liars?

does the avg aspie women really date as much as the women on wp claim.

so are you wp ladies just very attractive and very mild, that you could pass as nt anyways.

why are you asking questions if you don't want to listen to the answers?


Because the answers don't add up to what he was thinking when he made the question.
That said I don't know what he's thinking so that's all I can help with



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18 Feb 2013, 5:41 pm

MXH wrote:
hyperlexian wrote:
billiscool wrote:
so I've been saying that aspie women do better than aspie men in dating, mostly based what I read here.
Now there has been many (mostly women who had a tons of boyfriends) who tells me that it's not true.
That many aspie women do struggle in dating, so let say that is true, so a better question is:
are the women here on wp, the ''alpha female'' of asperger. I mean seriously when you have woman
here claiming to been with 75 guys in 2 years, and other female here, talk about all their boyfriends they
have. and read I threw I alot stuff woman say here, many will claim they been with a tons of guys.

are these women on wp common for most aspie women. Do aspie women really date 75 guys.
or had 10 boyfriends. Or are wp women just a small minority of aspie women that does very well
in dating? or are they liars?

does the avg aspie women really date as much as the women on wp claim.

so are you wp ladies just very attractive and very mild, that you could pass as nt anyways.

why are you asking questions if you don't want to listen to the answers?


Because the answers don't add up to what he was thinking when he made the question.
That said I don't know what he's thinking so that's all I can help with

i don't think i asked you, thanks anyway.


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18 Feb 2013, 5:45 pm

Unnecessary rudeness is unnecessary.



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18 Feb 2013, 5:47 pm

MXH wrote:
Unnecessary rudeness is unnecessary.

i addressed him directly by quoting his post. i needed to know if the thread has a purpose, otherwise it may as well be locked. while your opinion is interesting and topical conversation is always fun, i wanted to hear from him as to why he created the thread. sorry if i was rude.


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18 Feb 2013, 5:53 pm

hyperlexian wrote:
MXH wrote:
Unnecessary rudeness is unnecessary.

i addressed him directly by quoting his post. i needed to know if the thread has a purpose, otherwise it may as well be locked. while your opinion is interesting and topical conversation is always fun, i wanted to hear from him as to why he created the thread. sorry if i was rude.


Its fine if you want to ignore my post for a direct answer, but telling me to shut up and such is something that if done to you would result in a warning for rudeness.



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18 Feb 2013, 5:58 pm

MXH wrote:
hyperlexian wrote:
MXH wrote:
Unnecessary rudeness is unnecessary.

i addressed him directly by quoting his post. i needed to know if the thread has a purpose, otherwise it may as well be locked. while your opinion is interesting and topical conversation is always fun, i wanted to hear from him as to why he created the thread. sorry if i was rude.


Its fine if you want to ignore my post for a direct answer, but telling me to shut up and such is something that if done to you would result in a warning for rudeness.

please don't put words in my mouth. i did not say for you to shut up - i told you that i didn't ask you the question. since you are not billiscool, you can't really speak for him.

feel free to report me to another moderator if you have further concerns, but do not derail this thread further. i have apologised, and have bolded it in case you missed it. i didn't intend to upset you.


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18 Feb 2013, 6:04 pm

hyperlexian wrote:
MXH wrote:
hyperlexian wrote:
MXH wrote:
Unnecessary rudeness is unnecessary.

i addressed him directly by quoting his post. i needed to know if the thread has a purpose, otherwise it may as well be locked. while your opinion is interesting and topical conversation is always fun, i wanted to hear from him as to why he created the thread. sorry if i was rude.


Its fine if you want to ignore my post for a direct answer, but telling me to shut up and such is something that if done to you would result in a warning for rudeness.

please don't put words in my mouth. i i did not say for you to shut up - i told you that i didn't ask you the question. since you are not billiscool, you can't really speak for him.

feel free to report me to another moderator if you have further concerns, but do not derail this thread further. i have apologised, and have bolded it in case you missed it. i didn't intend to upset you.

"idon't think i asked you, thanks anyway."
Sounds like shut up to me and probably does to others. I'm not here to bust anyone's balls but I expected better from you.



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18 Feb 2013, 6:08 pm

Nope, two. Both aspies. I've struggled a lot in them, especially the first.



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18 Feb 2013, 6:09 pm

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Sounds like shut up to me and probably does to others. I'm not here to bust anyone's balls but I expected better from you.

She said something, you misunderstood it, and she apologized. I personally don't think hyperlexian is in the wrong here.


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18 Feb 2013, 6:10 pm

hyperlexian wrote:
MXH wrote:
Unnecessary rudeness is unnecessary.

i addressed him directly by quoting his post. i needed to know if the thread has a purpose, otherwise it may as well be locked. while your opinion is interesting and topical conversation is always fun, i wanted to hear from him as to why he created the thread. sorry if i was rude.


why I did create this thread. well, actual you are a good example.. You've told me before, that my aspie women you know in rl, don't date
or rarely date, but from reading around here seem that alot ladies here, do pretty well in dating.

so does women on wp represent the norm of aspie women and dating, or are wp women just the so called ''alpha females'' in dating.
or are the one's who post about their relationship just above average.

so are there ton's of aspie women who never dated, or rarely that never post here or never take parts of any polls.
Im asking is wrongplanet posters not a good example for a national average.


( btw I still wish there was real random national survey on sexual behavior with people aspergers)



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18 Feb 2013, 6:26 pm

billiscool wrote:
hyperlexian wrote:
MXH wrote:
Unnecessary rudeness is unnecessary.

i addressed him directly by quoting his post. i needed to know if the thread has a purpose, otherwise it may as well be locked. while your opinion is interesting and topical conversation is always fun, i wanted to hear from him as to why he created the thread. sorry if i was rude.


why I did create this thread. well, actual you are a good example.. You've told me before, that my aspie women you know in rl, don't date
or rarely date, but from reading around here seem that alot ladies here, do pretty well in dating.

so does women on wp represent the norm of aspie women and dating, or are wp women just the so called ''alpha females'' in dating.
or are the one's who post about their relationship just above average.

so are there ton's of aspie women who never dated, or rarely that never post here or never take parts of any polls.
Im asking is wrongplanet posters not a good example for a national average.


( btw I still wish there was real random national survey on sexual behavior with people aspergers)

blue_bean started a couple of threads to get a better sample size. have you looked at the male thread? if you do, you'll see that a couple of the men so far are much more experienced than most of the women i've run across on the site. does that mean that men on here are not a good sample of aspies in the real world? hard to tell. there might be a lot of factors involved.

the problem i have with your thread (as a moderator) is where your first post didn't allow that there was much explanation besides the idea that women on the site must be lying, or else they are basically NTs, or something else that couldn't really be measured fairly. it came across as an attack on the women of the site. in the post above, where you have explained it better, you are giving a much broader idea of some more reasonable explanations. so it seems that you ARE listening to what people on the site say.

i would caution you to be careful in this subject area, because any time you are trying to explain stuff about someone else's life, it's going to rub them the wrong way. so if you try to decide that women (or aspie women, or even aspie women on the site) must have a certain kind of life, or if you try to describe their experiences FOR them, your descriptions won't be totally complete or fair. our experiences as human beings are pretty individual so it is better to ask/listen instead of telling us how it must be.


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18 Feb 2013, 6:29 pm

hyperlexian wrote:
blue_bean started a couple of threads to get a better sample size. have you looked at the male thread? if you do, you'll see that a couple of the men so far are much more experienced than most of the women i've run across on the site. does that mean that men on here are not a good sample of aspies in the real world? hard to tell. there might be a lot of factors involved.

the problem i have with your thread (as a moderator) is where your first post didn't allow that there was much explanation besides the idea that women on the site must be lying, or else they are basically NTs, or something else that couldn't really be measured fairly. it came across as an attack on the women of the site. in the post above, where you have explained it better, you are giving a much broader idea of some more reasonable explanations. so it seems that you ARE listening to what people on the site say.

i would caution you to be careful in this subject area, because any time you are trying to explain stuff about someone else's life, it's going to rub them the wrong way. so if you try to decide that women (or aspie women, or even aspie women on the site) must have a certain kind of life, or if you try to describe their experiences FOR them, your descriptions won't be totally complete or fair. our experiences as human beings are pretty individual so it is better to ask/listen instead of telling us how it must be.


yeah, some of these men are stud lol. I hear you. that's cool.