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i always struggled with it. i just felt let alone in a limbo where i don't really find people who are like me.

Could you move somewhere bigger, maybe somewhere less redneck?

Well in that case its not impossible for you to ever find someone now is it. As you can see cute girls don't always go for conventionally attractive guys. Also forget what your relatives and red-neck people around you have said in regards to relationships you don't even like that mentality so what is the point in even acknowledging what they have said?

I would not bother talking to your mom about it, its not like she wants to give up the hold she has over you and she'll likely just be unreasonable.

Just call the Social Security administration and ask them if she is, they will tell you. How did you even get on SSI anyways and were you an adult yet or still a kid? I mean I kind of suspect she is not your payee because it does not seem there would have been a reason, like you don't even drink so you don't have a drug addiction problem and you don't seem to have a severe intellectual disability.

But yeah if she is your payee they could give you info on how to appeal that so they can start just paying you directly, if she is not your payee and still getting your money then they can point you in the right direction to correct that. But I think its imperative you make that call.

I mean point blank if you don't get control of your money you will never be independent, and that is what you need.

Well, I found out she is my "representative payee". I don't know if this will have barriers to overcome or not.

I was going to write more but I am suffering pains in my head. The stress and thinking about the past is just too much for me right now.

Good job! You got started on something.

It's ok to take a break now. Hope you feel better soon.

Marknis, go to disabilityrightswa.com. They tell how how to make yourself your own representative payee.

You’re have to call your local Social Security Office, and have them send the proper form for you. You will have to write down why you could manage your money. There will probably be a hearing about this maybe a few months to a year after you submit the form. Keep a copy for yourself.

It’s going to take a while. But at least you’ve started the process if you do this.

It’s a Washington State website...but SSI is a federal program, so what it says applies to you.

You have to request it and they ask you questions about bills you pay and how much etc. have to prove to them you able to be responsible. My mom was my payee until year or so ago. It was hard as I only paid my phone bill and everything besides that is in her name not mine. There’s a form you need to fill out and a doctor who deals with you haze to fill it out too and approve. Same way you got a payee is doctor said you shouldn’t get your own money. For me it was just a medical doctor not a mental specialist. He was real cool and just did it. But yours might want to see you and ask you questions.

For me it was just doctor filled out form and signed it then I took it back to social security where they asked me finical questions then processed it. Took under a week. But if there was a hearing to make her payee it may take anhearing to undo it. For me my doctor said I shouldn’t have money paid to me until I was 22 but never stopped it so at 29 I went in and was like I work and handle my work money so I should have my benifits too. He agreed.

There you go.

Now that’s a man of experience!

That’s the thing. Anecdote sometimes is much more useful than the results of research.

Sly should be taken into account as a person of experience in these matters. Just like Bea is experienced in these matters—but from a different vantage point.

According to the Social Security Website...

A representative payee is a person or an organization. We appoint a payee to receive the Social Security or SSI benefits for anyone who can’t manage or direct the management of his or her benefits. A payee’s main duties are to use the benefits to pay for the current and future needs of the beneficiary, and properly save any benefits not needed to meet current needs. A payee must also keep records of expenses. When we request a report, a payee must provide an accounting to us of how he or she used or saved the benefits.

NOTE: Being an authorized representative, having power of attorney, or a joint bank account with the beneficiary is not the same as being a payee. These arrangements do not give legal authority to negotiate and manage a beneficiary's Social Security and/or SSI benefits. In order to be a payee, you must apply for and be appointed by Social Security.

There you have it. Not only is your mom required to use YOUR money for YOUR present and future benefit, she must also save what she doesn't use AND keep accurate records.

Further...

The law requires most minor children and all legally incompetent adults to have payees. We presume an adult is capable to manage his or her own benefits. If it appears this may not be true, we gather evidence to decide if we need to appoint a representative payee.

If you can obtain the services of a lawyer (one who is willing to work pro-bono), you may have a case against your mother, especially if she has been spending your money on anything other than you, if she has not been saving the excess for you, or if she has not been keeping records that would hold up under a court-ordered audit.

Good luck. Keep us informed as to how it goes.

Yep. Hiring a lawyer “pro bono,” meaning “for free,” would be the best idea for you.

There are expensive lawyers who sometimes also work “pro bono,” too.

I would Google something like “disability advocacy for (your state)” or something of that nature.

You can call 1-800-252-9108, and tell them you want to be your own payee for SSI. That’s the number for a disability advocacy organization in your state.

As for saving we can only save $2,000 which is not helpful at all:/

It would be useful to avoid needing to make a case against your mother, if possible. This is why I advised talking to your mother first about what you would need to do to become independent. A lawyer could be the next step, but I wouldn't recommend having a lawyer as the first step.

You've done one thing, which is you found out if your mother is your representative payee. (She is.) I think it's okay to just take a break and come back to this task when you feel ready - assuming that doesn't take a very long time. I think your therapist would support you in this effort.

Yep. It’s hard for a person on SSI.

But I’ve known people who have done well on it.

With other aid one can do ok, but the recommended 6 months savings is impossible as are buying car or house(never allowed, unless car is under $2,000 value)
Anything that would get one ahead in life is seen as bad.