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29 Aug 2023, 9:46 am

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I have often wanted women to sit on my lap in social settings but they very rarely if ever flirt with me in that way.

Most women don’t engage in this behavior unless they are already in a relationship with the man.



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29 Aug 2023, 9:55 am

Jamesy wrote:
I have often wanted women to sit on my lap in social settings but they very rarely if ever flirt with me in that way

Yes creepy I know buy everyone has there own fetishes.


For one, sitting in laps is generally something i've only seen done when already in a relationship, not as a means of flirting.

For another, having a fetish is all well and good, but expecting others to participate in said fetish is a different matter altogether. Despite your desire to have it happen, as well as your friend's attempts at making it happen for himself, going around asking women you barely know to sit in your lap is creepy, full stop.

"But this one guy once got this one girl to sit in HIS lap..."

That just means a guy with deep pockets who tries to be popular with women by buying them free drinks got lucky and met a woman who's willing to flirt to those limits for free drinks. Even if they did form a relationship, it would be based on commerce and transaction, not mutual interest or love.

And that only represents two people, not the entirety of society. Just cos you once saw something one time doesn't mean it's the norm.



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29 Aug 2023, 9:56 am

TwilightPrincess wrote:
Jamesy wrote:
I have often wanted women to sit on my lap in social settings but they very rarely if ever flirt with me in that way.

Most women don’t engage in this behavior unless they are already in a relationship with the man.


Oh good, I'm not the only one that noticed this.



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29 Aug 2023, 9:58 am

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29 Aug 2023, 9:59 am

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Jamesy wrote:
I have often wanted women to sit on my lap in social settings but they very rarely if ever flirt with me in that way

Yes creepy I know buy everyone has there own fetishes.


For one, sitting in laps is generally something i've only seen done when already in a relationship, not as a means of flirting.

For another, having a fetish is all well and good, but expecting others to participate in said fetish is a different matter altogether. Despite your desire to have it happen, as well as your friend's attempts at making it happen for himself, going around asking women you barely know to sit in your lap is creepy, full stop.

"But this one guy once got this one girl to sit in HIS lap..."

That just means a guy with deep pockets who tries to be popular with women by buying them free drinks got lucky and met a woman who's willing to flirt for free drinks. Even if they did form a relationship, it would be based on commerce and transaction, not mutual interest or love.



10 years this girl (she looked like a dude/tomboy) sat on my lap at a house party. Apparently it was just a joke but still she was not in a relationship with me when she did it.



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29 Aug 2023, 10:00 am

^ One person is one person. Most women do not engage in this behavior.



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29 Aug 2023, 10:00 am

Jamesy wrote:
uncommondenominator wrote:
Jamesy wrote:
I have often wanted women to sit on my lap in social settings but they very rarely if ever flirt with me in that way

Yes creepy I know buy everyone has there own fetishes.


For one, sitting in laps is generally something i've only seen done when already in a relationship, not as a means of flirting.

For another, having a fetish is all well and good, but expecting others to participate in said fetish is a different matter altogether. Despite your desire to have it happen, as well as your friend's attempts at making it happen for himself, going around asking women you barely know to sit in your lap is creepy, full stop.

"But this one guy once got this one girl to sit in HIS lap..."

That just means a guy with deep pockets who tries to be popular with women by buying them free drinks got lucky and met a woman who's willing to flirt for free drinks. Even if they did form a relationship, it would be based on commerce and transaction, not mutual interest or love.



10 years this girl (she looked like a dude/tomboy) sat on my lap at a house party. Apparently it was just a joke but still she was not in a relationship with me when she did it.


And by your own admission, it was a joke, probably at your expense, at a house party, not a bar. I mean, yeah, sure, whatever, fair point I guess? She was not in a relationship with you, true. But she sure wasn't flirting with you either, so... Maybe bad example still...

And again, one person, once, long ago, does not make a pattern.



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29 Aug 2023, 10:02 am

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^ One person is one person. Most women do not engage in this behavior.



She even gave me her number but I was not interested at the time. Eh my loss :?



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29 Aug 2023, 10:04 am

uncommondenominator wrote:
Jamesy wrote:
uncommondenominator wrote:
Jamesy wrote:
I have often wanted women to sit on my lap in social settings but they very rarely if ever flirt with me in that way

Yes creepy I know buy everyone has there own fetishes.


For one, sitting in laps is generally something i've only seen done when already in a relationship, not as a means of flirting.

For another, having a fetish is all well and good, but expecting others to participate in said fetish is a different matter altogether. Despite your desire to have it happen, as well as your friend's attempts at making it happen for himself, going around asking women you barely know to sit in your lap is creepy, full stop.

"But this one guy once got this one girl to sit in HIS lap..."

That just means a guy with deep pockets who tries to be popular with women by buying them free drinks got lucky and met a woman who's willing to flirt for free drinks. Even if they did form a relationship, it would be based on commerce and transaction, not mutual interest or love.



10 years this girl (she looked like a dude/tomboy) sat on my lap at a house party. Apparently it was just a joke but still she was not in a relationship with me when she did it.


And by your own admission, it was a joke, probably at your expense, at a house party, not a bar. I mean, yeah, sure, whatever, fair point I guess? She was not in a relationship with you, true. But she sure wasn't flirting with you either, so... Maybe bad example still...

And again, one person, once, long ago, does not make a pattern.



When I was 20 this random girl at a house party sat on my knee. It was a crowded sofa though so maybe she had nowhere to sit.



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29 Aug 2023, 10:06 am

How much had she been drinking?

In such a scenario, I’d rather sit on the floor. I think that’d be typical.



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29 Aug 2023, 10:09 am

It is more common for women to sit on men's knees after they have become socially uninhibited, usually when there is alcohol involved.

Maybe this is more of a British thing, Jamesy. British women are often more 'friendlier' than women from the United States.



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29 Aug 2023, 10:10 am

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How much had she been drinking?

In such a scenario, I’d rather sit on the floor. I think that’d be typical.



2 years ago at the pub I gave this woman I knew (she had a boyfriend at the time) I gave her a compliment and she sat on my lap for a few mins. She sits on a lot of guys laps though.

23 years ago my aunt sat on my dad's knee at her husbands (my dad's brother) 40th birthday.



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29 Aug 2023, 10:10 am

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It is more common for women to sit on men's knees after they have become socially uninhibited, usually when there is alcohol involved.

Maybe this is more of a British thing, Jamesy. British women are often more 'friendlier' than women from the United States.



Hundred percent agree that British ladies are nicer than American girls.



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29 Aug 2023, 10:13 am

Jamesy wrote:
TwilightPrincess wrote:
How much had she been drinking?

In such a scenario, I’d rather sit on the floor. I think that’d be typical.



2 years ago at the pub I gave this woman I knew a compliment and she sat on my lap for a few mins. She sits on a lot of guys laps though.

23 years ago my aunt sat on my dad's knee at her husbands (my dad's brother) 40th birthday.


You got lucky and met ONE woman who likes to sit on laps. ONE.

Your aunt and your dad are related. That's a relationship, even if a familial one.

Congratulations. You can cherry-pick some examples that simultaneously argue the point, as well as miss it entirely.

While they do wonders to try to validate your position, they don't seem to actually change your situation any.

Basically, in what way do these counter-examples of yours change where you find yourself today, other than to argue?



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29 Aug 2023, 10:14 am

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Maybe this is more of a British thing, Jamesy. British women are often more 'friendlier' than women from the United States.

I can’t say that I’ve ever heard that before. :?



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29 Aug 2023, 10:15 am

TwilightPrincess wrote:
blitzkrieg wrote:
Maybe this is more of a British thing, Jamesy. British women are often more 'friendlier' than women from the United States.

I can’t say that I’ve ever heard that before. :?


Hmm, how shall I put this without sounding offensive to your feminist sensibilities?

British women are often perceived as 'easier' for men to sleep with, and women from the United States less so, from a British perspective.

I'm not saying that is necessarily correct in any way. But it is one of those cultural things you get to know living in a country.