are wp women a bad sample size

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I've never seen a woman here claim to have 75 partners in 2 years so I think that's a bit of an exaggeration. And I don't think the women here have had as much success with dating as you seem to selectively perceive; you're only using the anecdotes of girls on the extreme end of the bell curve to form your opinion. If such girl with that much success exists here they're a statistical anomaly and not representative of the average aspie female.

I think WP women are a good sample size, it's just that nobody has done an analysis of our relationship status and how many partner's we've had, WP women specifically have never used as a sample. At the moment saying that aspie women are more successful at dating and have had lots of partners can't be said with 100% surety (all the articles out there with %'s in them are conflicting IMO, one says guys have more success and the next says girls do and so forth and so forth). Y'know, we're right here. Why don't you start a new thread and collect data instead of making assumptions? I'll start one for the men and we can compare. We'll get someone unbiased and objective to do the math.

I'm not arguing here that women on average don't have more success, just that it's not as much success as you make it out to be, and I'd be interested in finding out the stats for myself. I don't care who's favour they end up in.

First numbers for the pool; 3 boyfriends in 10 years, haven't had sex in 6.

Bill: Does this thread actually have a purpose beyond having a go at me? Or is this another attempt to find an excuse for your lack of success in dating while still managing to find an excuse at the same time to not do anything or not change your current methods?

Regardless - rule number one is not to treat anything like a monolithic entity - you have broken that rule on a number of occasions in women's discussion and L&D, mostly particularly whenever you talk to women or about women, and frankly, it's getting ridiculous now.



He was talking about me when I went through my "attempting to be NT" stage when I was undiagnosed, I didn't know what was wrong with me and therefore was determined to be as capable as an NT or better - I was very determined to learn social skills and burned myself out doing it.

I went on 75 first dates over a 2 year period.
Only about 20 of those ended up with a second date.

So yes - to say 75 "partners" is a clear over exaggeration.
I've had 3 boyfriends before - 2 of them came from those 2 years and 75 first dates.
One of them turned out to be an abusive a**hole and the other was lovely but we shouldn't have dated.
In summary - both were mistakes and I shouldn't have dated them.

As you can see it is not an accurate translation when it comes to relationships - the ASD still clearly interferes with the ablity to connect, as show by the terrible translation rate.
Essentially I can attract men via looks, but actually creating and sustaining a connection is terribly difficult.
Even if I manage to get a relationship - the AS interferes with it quite badly. In both of those relationships my AS caused massive issues, or made issues already existing worse.
I have only had one boyfriend where it was a viable and decent relationship, and that was when I was extremely young and basically from luck.

It was a useful learning experience but needlesss to say I don't do the traditional "dating" thing anymore because it simply doesn't work for me.
I have been on dates with 2 different guys this year (from Sept 2012 - now). Last year I went on no dates (Sept 2011-Sept 2012).

75 dates is a huge amount though especially since a lot of them were people she first met via online. I've only met one person in real life that I first met online, and it was just somebody that I was buying an electronic device from which they were selling in a craigslist-ad. lol

Meeting people in real life that were first met online is extremely difficult. Probably due to the "tons of creeps on the internet" stereotype which I think isn't actually true for the most part.

75 dates is a huge amount though especially since a lot of them were people she first met via online. I've only met one person in real life that I first met online, and it was just somebody that I was buying an electronic device from which they were selling in a craigslist-ad. lol

Meeting people in real life that were first met online is extremely difficult. Probably due to the "tons of creeps on the internet" stereotype which I think isn't actually true for the most part.

Only about half or maybe slightly less online. Others where from mutual acquaintances, random luck, or shared interests.
Didn't use OkCupid or whatnot - there is a local site here that is well used in my country.
I wouldn't say low standards. I had a general idea of what I was compatible with and provided they were roughly 75% of it I gave them a chance.
Actually I distinctly remember two dates with guys who were both HFA themselves - both who I met out through acquaintances.

Only about half or maybe slightly less online. Others where from mutual acquaintances, random luck, or shared interests.
Didn't use OkCupid or whatnot - there is a local site here that is well used in my country.
I wouldn't say low standards. I had a general idea of what I was compatible with and provided they were roughly 75% of it I gave them a chance.
Actually I distinctly remember two dates with guys who were both HFA themselves - both who I met out through acquaintances.

Meeting 35-40 people via online over a couple years still sounds absolutely amazing to me though. But then again that "tons of creeps on the internet" stereotype is directed mainly at guys. lol

Bill: Does this thread actually have a purpose beyond having a go at me? Or is this another attempt to find an excuse for your lack of success in dating while still managing to find an excuse at the same time to not do anything or not change your current methods?

Regardless - rule number one is not to treat anything like a monolithic entity - you have broken that rule on a number of occasions in women's discussion and L&D, mostly particularly whenever you talk to women or about women, and frankly, it's getting ridiculous now.

I'm wondering exactly how the the OP hopes to find a woman in real life. He can't even make a thread without antagonizing the women on here.

well, in real life. I don't talk to women about ''how dating is not equal among people with asperger'' and I don't think many people even
know what asperger is anyways.

......which comes back to the question many people have asked which you've neglected to really answer........What's the point of this thread?

Why does it matter if Aspie woman have an easier time dating? Unless you have the power to grow a vagina, this benefits you and your situation zilch. It really only serves to annoy the women (and more enlightened men) on here.

While you may not talk about this stuff specifically in real life, the bitter and antagonistic attitude towards woman you've expressed on this board is extreamly unattractive. If it is in anyway reflective of how you react to woman IRL (and judging from a few of your threads, that's possible), I'm not surprised you are having issues.

Yeah.
The ex who was an abusive a**hole was from online. He turned out to have NPD.
I won't go into the things he did but sufficient to say I am not surprised that stereotype exists.

I told you, the point of this thread. should wp users be use for a national average for people with aspergers or does wp not represent the norm
for people with asperger when it comes to dating.

Im actual trying to prove myself wrong here. I saying ''well, maybe Im looking at this the wrong way, maybe I shouldn't take wp poster and use their succes in relationship as a national average''

since wp, is not a random sample and anyone can post here. so you may get ''bias'' results.

hope I explain myself better here.