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17 Dec 2018, 6:35 pm

That doesn't make sense....why would a woman offer to cook for a man if that is seen as mooching/parasitical behavior?



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17 Dec 2018, 6:38 pm

I love to cook for people! You're both invited, and you aren't mooching anything!
(If I didn't want to cook for someone, I wouldn't).


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17 Dec 2018, 6:39 pm

Yep...we should come over to your pad! :wink:



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17 Dec 2018, 6:59 pm

kraftiekortie wrote:
That doesn't make sense....why would a woman offer to cook for a man if that is seen as mooching/parasitical behavior?


First part is about cooking the second was about gifts and rides.

I’ve nver had a woman offer to cook for me
But I could see say if they lived together and she cooked a lot she’d see him as mooching off her.



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17 Dec 2018, 7:02 pm

We can both come to Isabella's pad....and eat her great cooking....



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17 Dec 2018, 7:04 pm

If they lived together and she cooked a lot, wouldn't it mean that she either likes cooking or has agreed to cook?

Parasites are those who contribute nothing of value to the relationship, regardless of their gender. Women can be parasites to men and to other women as well. Men can be parasites to women or to other men. The key is to avoid parasites, not to stop being in relationships.

And yes, I have a fairly large house. You're both welcome as well as anyone else from WP who would like to break some bread and share some good times. I'll even do the dishes, because I'm hosting.


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17 Dec 2018, 7:07 pm

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My son is in his early forties and does not drive. He learned how, failed his practical test and never tried again. He lived in a large city and took the bus or subway. His long term girlfriend didn’t drive either. He’s married now and his wife has a car and drives them both when they go out. They have no issue with it.

I failed my first test, I could only take it two more times, luckily second test the lady gave me break on some things so I barely passed.

She doesn’t resent him for it?
I’m sure they get comments from people at the least
I do when my sister drives me places, everyone expects the man to drive. I’ve been told I’m not a man because of it few times.



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17 Dec 2018, 7:09 pm

I always do the driving when my wife and I go places.

She's a real pain in the butt Backseat Driver!



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17 Dec 2018, 7:10 pm

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If they lived together and she cooked a lot, wouldn't it mean that she either likes cooking or has agreed to cook?

Parasites are those who contribute nothing of value to the relationship, regardless of their gender. Women can be parasites to men and to other women as well. Men can be parasites to women or to other men. The key is to avoid parasites, not to stop being in relationships.

And yes, I have a fairly large house. You're both welcome as well as anyone else from WP who would like to break some bread and share some good times. I'll even do the dishes, because I'm hosting.


I don’t offer anything of value.
I’m poor and lack any talents.



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17 Dec 2018, 7:13 pm

sly279 wrote:
IsabellaLinton wrote:
If they lived together and she cooked a lot, wouldn't it mean that she either likes cooking or has agreed to cook?

Parasites are those who contribute nothing of value to the relationship, regardless of their gender. Women can be parasites to men and to other women as well. Men can be parasites to women or to other men. The key is to avoid parasites, not to stop being in relationships.

And yes, I have a fairly large house. You're both welcome as well as anyone else from WP who would like to break some bread and share some good times. I'll even do the dishes, because I'm hosting.


I don’t offer anything of value.
I’m poor and lack any talents.


It's not about money or talents , it's about the little things , helping out etc , offer to do Isabella's dishes even though she'd refuse.


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17 Dec 2018, 7:15 pm

By value I don't necessarily mean financial. Value means that you do things to make your partner happy (cooking, offering emotional support, helping in ways that each needs). I'm sure you buy your own groceries now so you could continue to pay for part of the food.


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17 Dec 2018, 7:23 pm

Ferris is welcome to join and he's right, offering to wash up is sweet but I'd refuse. :D

I absolutely love to drive, btw, and I've driven since I was 17 years old. I'd rather drive a man than be his passenger because most men in my life (stereotype I know, sorry) are crazy vindictive drivers who like to tailgate and curse. I'm restricted from driving now because of my stroke but I can tell you with certainty that I hate being a passenger.


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17 Dec 2018, 7:26 pm

You don't want to be with the woman who calls men trash. If she thinks men are trash, she'll treat them like trash.


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17 Dec 2018, 7:28 pm

sly279 wrote:
IsabellaLinton wrote:
If they lived together and she cooked a lot, wouldn't it mean that she either likes cooking or has agreed to cook?

Parasites are those who contribute nothing of value to the relationship, regardless of their gender. Women can be parasites to men and to other women as well. Men can be parasites to women or to other men. The key is to avoid parasites, not to stop being in relationships.

And yes, I have a fairly large house. You're both welcome as well as anyone else from WP who would like to break some bread and share some good times. I'll even do the dishes, because I'm hosting.


I don’t offer anything of value.
I’m poor and lack any talents.

Some women just want someone to hold them at night. I assume you can do that.


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17 Dec 2018, 7:29 pm

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You don't want to be with the woman who calls men trash. If she thinks men are trash, she'll treat them like trash.


Agreed!

Sly, when I first saw this thread I simply answered the question without reading your original post. I thought you were just asking in a general sense and I didn't realise someone had said this to you. I agree with Retro and others who say -- dodge that woman immediately. She isn't worth pursuing, but others are.


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17 Dec 2018, 7:35 pm

The woman in the OP wasn't calling Sly "trash." She was saying she didn't want any "trash."