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22 Dec 2018, 3:01 am

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Oh no he's really handsome! Me likey



Then why you are not dating him????! !



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22 Dec 2018, 3:11 am

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Oh no he's really handsome! Me likey



Then why you are not dating him????! !


I'm trying. He's shy. We've been a few places together.... He's also a bit younger than me so I feel very self conscious about telling him I like him.



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22 Dec 2018, 3:14 am

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I guess that "Out in a social setting" is through outings with friends where you may meet some another group, so more than 50% is through having friends.

Classes, shared interests, and stuff that people a lot suggest in forums but in real life don't work often, are in the 'other', as you can see, it's the lowest. The thing is, even if you join a yoga class for example (even though you should expect that many women judge guys joining yoga class negatively) , no one can open up a conversation during a yoga class, and if you personally know no one there, you are not likely to be able to open up a conversation with a girl after class either because she would quickly stick to her friends (members of the class) and go out.

In my experience, people leave very quickly as soon as the gym class finishes, they don't hang around the gym/club, and groups would go together to home or to some place after class.

The only time frame where you can strike a conversation to a classmate, would be before class, so you may have to come really earlier, and wait her to come, and that would really give a desperate/creepy vibe.

That's why, I can't understand how sport/gym classes can be effective in meeting women. It helps you to develop as a person, but you will need a lot of luck to develop some friendship.

In Australia, people definitely do stick around after sports/gym and chat, and then go out for coffee and breakfast together!
I can vouch for this, it happens every time (I always get invited, anyway)

And now we finally know where you’re from lol



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22 Dec 2018, 3:16 am

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You can tell when someone has a crush on you though and that undoes the assumption someone is gay. I genuinely thought one of my friends was gay... until I realised he had a crush on me.

Anyway, the OP is looking to expand his social circle. And he seems genuinely interested in Yoga type exercise. Even if he doesn't fancy anyone in the class, they could have a friend or 2 he might meet through them.

Let him be.


Not everyone can
It’s part of our autism. Signs of attraction and flirting are non verbal cues
Not to mention they all are also just things people women Especially do to be nice, appear nice, or try to avoid conflict.
Example women will smile at guys to avoid them being Aggressive towards the woman.
Smiling is suppose to be a sign of flirting but when it’s mostly the above how can you ever be sure it’s flirting?

I thought women liked me and were flirting but they never were. Women have never flirted with me



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22 Dec 2018, 3:19 am

Would you miss someone going bright red when they talk to you ;)



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22 Dec 2018, 3:20 am

hurtloam wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
hurtloam wrote:
Oh no he's really handsome! Me likey



Then why you are not dating him????! !


I'm trying. He's shy. We've been a few places together.... He's also a bit younger than me so I feel very self conscious about telling him I like him.


I’d date an 18 year old. I like them more
They’re more similar to me in most ways.18-25.
Guess you could say I’m more 22-25 then my physical age.



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22 Dec 2018, 3:29 am

His age doesn't bother me, but I'm a fat old woman and he's a thin handsome young man. My hair is starting to go grey. No guy wants an old woman. What if I'm wrong and he's not into me. How humiliating.

Yes, I know I'm not fat, fat, but I'm heavier than I was when I was his age and there's so many pretty younger women around. Why would he really want me?



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22 Dec 2018, 3:29 am

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In my experience? Women think of guys doing yoga as gay.

Heard it countless of times as joking.

If I was doing it to genuinely better my body, I honestly wouldn't care. I don't think anyone would assume I'm gay just by looking at me anyway, and even if I was assumed to be gay, women are not averse to talking to homosexual men, and even just getting platonic female friends would be favourable at this stage. Plus, if they did think I was gay, it only takes three words to clear up that misconception.

If I was going there specifically looking for a partner this might be of a greater concern, but if I benefited from it in spite of whether or not I find a partner out of it it's still worth a try imo. Not entirely sure if I'll try yoga, but as my gym has free classes and some of them are yoga, it's something to consider.



There are many ways to better your body: dieting, weight lifting, running, and cardio in general.
Treadmills are way better for making friends than classes, in my opinion, especially if the next person is just walking, not running and with no earbuds.

But you are thinking to pick yoga because, in reality, you want to attempt to kill two birds in one stone, which is bettering your body plus also increasing your chances to meet women, am I right?

The intention is in the thread title, you can’t claim now that you have zero ulterior motif by joining a yoga class.


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Not entirely sure if I'll try yoga, but as my gym has free classes and some of them are yoga, it's something to consider
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I strongly believe that typically mixed classes would be better, go for cycling for example, classes which are often half men half women. Avoid classes like zumba and oriental dance, it is minefield, any miscommunication and you may be regarded as having an ulterior motif.

Well actually, since you brought it up I'm looking at participating in a clinical weight-loss study that tests some antioxidant found in oranges or something or other for its effects on weight loss. Even if I'm in the 50% of participants who get the placebo, I'd still be required to cut calories and go for 30 min walks 3 times a week for 6 months, which would still likely get me some results and if I can kick my sugar habits through neuro-dissociation (ie distancing myself from sugary foods for a long enough time that the urge to have them disappears) then this could bring about lasting changes. If I complement all this with the strengthening exercises Im meant to be doing for a few of the weaker areas of my body, things could be considerably different for me by the end of next year. I'm also signing up to do Uber Eats with my bicycle so that should help too and give me some extra $$$ at the same time.

Now regarding the ulterior motive, yes it's there, but if I'm doing something that I feel is going to benefit me regardless and I would do it even if there were no women there, I won't be as worried if I don't get a girlfriend or female friends out of it. If I do something I'd not otherwise be inclined to do in order to meet women like go to an art class or a museum, then yeah I'd be a bit more bummed anout it if it didn't work. That's why I think doing things where I may meet women but will definitely benefit regardless is such a good idea.

Also, when I started this thread about meeting women, I didn't just mean to get a girlfriend. That's the best case scenario, but I would like female friends too as I don't have many.



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22 Dec 2018, 3:35 am

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Raleigh wrote:
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I guess that "Out in a social setting" is through outings with friends where you may meet some another group, so more than 50% is through having friends.

Classes, shared interests, and stuff that people a lot suggest in forums but in real life don't work often, are in the 'other', as you can see, it's the lowest. The thing is, even if you join a yoga class for example (even though you should expect that many women judge guys joining yoga class negatively) , no one can open up a conversation during a yoga class, and if you personally know no one there, you are not likely to be able to open up a conversation with a girl after class either because she would quickly stick to her friends (members of the class) and go out.

In my experience, people leave very quickly as soon as the gym class finishes, they don't hang around the gym/club, and groups would go together to home or to some place after class.

The only time frame where you can strike a conversation to a classmate, would be before class, so you may have to come really earlier, and wait her to come, and that would really give a desperate/creepy vibe.

That's why, I can't understand how sport/gym classes can be effective in meeting women. It helps you to develop as a person, but you will need a lot of luck to develop some friendship.

In Australia, people definitely do stick around after sports/gym and chat, and then go out for coffee and breakfast together!
I can vouch for this, it happens every time (I always get invited, anyway)

And now we finally know where you’re from lol

Funny enough I believe Raleigh's actually from the same city as me. I saw mention of the state so I'm quite certain we're from the same state, and if he resides in the capital of that state then we are in the same city.



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22 Dec 2018, 3:38 am

Raleigh wrote:
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I guess that "Out in a social setting" is through outings with friends where you may meet some another group, so more than 50% is through having friends.

Classes, shared interests, and stuff that people a lot suggest in forums but in real life don't work often, are in the 'other', as you can see, it's the lowest. The thing is, even if you join a yoga class for example (even though you should expect that many women judge guys joining yoga class negatively) , no one can open up a conversation during a yoga class, and if you personally know no one there, you are not likely to be able to open up a conversation with a girl after class either because she would quickly stick to her friends (members of the class) and go out.

In my experience, people leave very quickly as soon as the gym class finishes, they don't hang around the gym/club, and groups would go together to home or to some place after class.

The only time frame where you can strike a conversation to a classmate, would be before class, so you may have to come really earlier, and wait her to come, and that would really give a desperate/creepy vibe.

That's why, I can't understand how sport/gym classes can be effective in meeting women. It helps you to develop as a person, but you will need a lot of luck to develop some friendship.

In Australia, people definitely do stick around after sports/gym and chat, and then go out for coffee and breakfast together!
I can vouch for this, it happens every time (I always get invited, anyway)

Yep, this is correct. I used to do group classes and personal training and we would even meet at the pub for drinks sometimes. Most of the people there were older than me though



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22 Dec 2018, 3:41 am

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Would you miss someone going bright red when they talk to you ;)

Do you mean blushing?
Never seen it. I’m not good looking.

I also try not to look at some more then it
Takes me
To look away towards the floor or somewhere else.



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22 Dec 2018, 3:43 am

Wish I had someone to walk with that’d probably help my weight, or if I could get a professional tread mill or a closer gym.



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22 Dec 2018, 3:46 am

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His age doesn't bother me, but I'm a fat old woman and he's a thin handsome young man. My hair is starting to go grey. No guy wants an old woman. What if I'm wrong and he's not into me. How humiliating.

Yes, I know I'm not fat, fat, but I'm heavier than I was when I was his age and there's so many pretty younger women around. Why would he really want me?


I can’t answer that I’m naive and young minded so I like younger women.

I won’t lie most men do prefer younger women same as most women prefer well off men.
Some will like older women though. I dont know how to find them anymore then I’d know how to find the few women who don’t care about a mans life status.



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22 Dec 2018, 3:56 am

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Wish I had someone to walk with that’d probably help my weight, or if I could get a professional tread mill or a closer gym.

Would you get a bicycle? I'm not much into walking myself, but I do enjoy bike riding. I got an electric bike recently in preparation to sign up for Uber Eats and make some extra cash and I've been riding it to and from my work most days ever since I got it and I'm quite enjoying it. I've done 75km+ on it and still not needed to charge it yet, which I find quite surprising since it said one charge would give an average person about 50km and I weigh close to the maximum weight it takes so I should by rights get even less than that.



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22 Dec 2018, 4:02 am

The Grand Inquisitor wrote:
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I guess that "Out in a social setting" is through outings with friends where you may meet some another group, so more than 50% is through having friends.

Classes, shared interests, and stuff that people a lot suggest in forums but in real life don't work often, are in the 'other', as you can see, it's the lowest. The thing is, even if you join a yoga class for example (even though you should expect that many women judge guys joining yoga class negatively) , no one can open up a conversation during a yoga class, and if you personally know no one there, you are not likely to be able to open up a conversation with a girl after class either because she would quickly stick to her friends (members of the class) and go out.

In my experience, people leave very quickly as soon as the gym class finishes, they don't hang around the gym/club, and groups would go together to home or to some place after class.

The only time frame where you can strike a conversation to a classmate, would be before class, so you may have to come really earlier, and wait her to come, and that would really give a desperate/creepy vibe.

That's why, I can't understand how sport/gym classes can be effective in meeting women. It helps you to develop as a person, but you will need a lot of luck to develop some friendship.

In Australia, people definitely do stick around after sports/gym and chat, and then go out for coffee and breakfast together!
I can vouch for this, it happens every time (I always get invited, anyway)

And now we finally know where you’re from lol

Funny enough I believe Raleigh's actually from the same city as me. I saw mention of the state so I'm quite certain we're from the same state, and if he resides in the capital of that state then we are in the same city.

I don't live in the capital, I'm from a hick town in North Queensland.


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Raleigh wrote:
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I guess that "Out in a social setting" is through outings with friends where you may meet some another group, so more than 50% is through having friends.

Classes, shared interests, and stuff that people a lot suggest in forums but in real life don't work often, are in the 'other', as you can see, it's the lowest. The thing is, even if you join a yoga class for example (even though you should expect that many women judge guys joining yoga class negatively) , no one can open up a conversation during a yoga class, and if you personally know no one there, you are not likely to be able to open up a conversation with a girl after class either because she would quickly stick to her friends (members of the class) and go out.

In my experience, people leave very quickly as soon as the gym class finishes, they don't hang around the gym/club, and groups would go together to home or to some place after class.

The only time frame where you can strike a conversation to a classmate, would be before class, so you may have to come really earlier, and wait her to come, and that would really give a desperate/creepy vibe.

That's why, I can't understand how sport/gym classes can be effective in meeting women. It helps you to develop as a person, but you will need a lot of luck to develop some friendship.

In Australia, people definitely do stick around after sports/gym and chat, and then go out for coffee and breakfast together!
I can vouch for this, it happens every time (I always get invited, anyway)

And now we finally know where you’re from lol

Funny enough I believe Raleigh's actually from the same city as me. I saw mention of the state so I'm quite certain we're from the same state, and if he resides in the capital of that state then we are in the same city.

I don't live in the capital, I'm from a hick town in North Queensland.

Ahh right, same state, different city/town.