Giving up on women?

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09 Dec 2012, 9:44 am

You are right. And that is why I want to live alone in an isolated place in the countryside (or an airship or a yacht, but those are going to be nearly impossible): my self-loathing is directly proportional to the ammount of people I interact with.

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09 Dec 2012, 6:16 pm

DialAForAwesome wrote:

Crappy personality as in mean, spiteful, will not accept me as I am, etc. Do you honestly expect me to accept people being mean to me? :lol:

That makes no sense whatsoever.

I am nowhere near the top tier of aspie men. Plenty of aspie men can and have gotten jobs in their field/special interest. I can't do that because my special interest is really obscure. On top of that I work a dead end minimum wage job. That's worse than not having a job, I figure, but that's not a discussion to get into right now. With aspie girls you run the risk of getting ones who have touch aversion, aversion to affection, etc. which is why I don't seem to go for them that much (though I am not opposed to the idea at all otherwise and generally can't really tell an aspie girl from an NT girl anyway IRL).

finally saw a pic of you. you dont look bad..afro needs to go though.

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20 Dec 2012, 8:19 am

Adam82 wrote:

EstherJ wrote:

We can't be THAT hard to understand and engage with....

Or are we?

Yes, I'm afraid you are. Rocket science would be easier than figuring women out. And that's for normal men. For aspie men, it's a nightmare

Yep -- all you have to do is use the correct equations. No arguing needed.

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20 Dec 2012, 8:28 pm

atdevel wrote:

Adam82 wrote:

EstherJ wrote:

We can't be THAT hard to understand and engage with....

Or are we?

Yes, I'm afraid you are. Rocket science would be easier than figuring women out. And that's for normal men. For aspie men, it's a nightmare

Yep -- all you have to do is use the correct equations. No arguing needed.

It's sad that I can do complex circuit analysis in my head without a hitch, but I am 20 and haven't talked to a girl ever. On the other hand, I know some NTs my age that have dated more women than I can keep track of, yet they can't rearrange a simple algebraic equation, so they come to me for help!

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20 Dec 2012, 9:23 pm

Adam82 wrote:

I don't know what else to do. I don't really want to give up on women, but I see little other option, being 30 and clueless with women; never had any kind of relationship (not for lack of wanting one). Let's be realistic, no one is going to give a guy in some of our positions here, a chance. Coping with forced celibacy in my 30s will be far worse than it ever was in my twenties. It was hard watching everyone else couple up then, but at least I had some hope I'd meet someone eventually. It's only downhill from here on in. Now everyone's going to be pairing up seriously, and getting married, and having kids around me. I am not sure how much longer I can hold it together.

I don't think you can completely give up. It's hardwired. The desire for closeness and intimacy. Even if your brain is telling you no, your heart is telling you yes. I've felt suicidal at times because of my total failure with women, and my inability to get any kind of closeness.

Anyone else flirted with the notion of giving up entirely?

I was there and I gave up, and after a while, I just made the choice of going with an available alternative, I pay even just for cuddling, and that is as far as I can get, yeah it's pathetic, but I suppose I have to give a s**t in order to enjoy it.

I'd like to get a 'real doll' doll maybe in 10 years or 20, too bad they cost too much.

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21 Dec 2012, 4:01 am

Tyri0n wrote:

3. Get real. Who doesn't drink these days?

I do not. Granted, I have never had a date either, so I do not know if there is any correlation there. :lol:

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22 Feb 2013, 1:25 pm

i'm a quarter-century old now and i have felt like that for the past couple of years, but it's tough

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