Gold Diggers
22 Aug 2022, 7:11 am
Where_am_I wrote:
Noamx wrote:
To be honest, I disagree with the "women make less money than men" concept. Maybe in your country things can be different, but its not a fair situation where the man makes more and that automatically means the woman can sit at home all day and enjoy being the gold digger who only does some basic home chores and thats it. I dont like that, its not a fair situation to be in for a man. There are probably couples who are fine with that but its probably rare. Its not desirable and is a bad habit, women need to work and earn money, not wait for the man to get back home every evening and bring the food to the table, thats great of course, but the woman needs to work too, she doesnt HAVE to be making the same amount as the man does but she still needs to go to work anyways. Say whatever you want in this thread everyone, but I think, a relationship in which the man goes to work and the woman remains unemployed is a terrible relationship, its unfair for the man and the only men who are okay with being in this type of relationship/situation are just idiots who fail to understand the unfairness of the situation they are in. Women need to work too, end of story.
BS. I know of many controlling men who are in this type of relationship because they want a slave.
Are you really that oblivious?
No, not really. I have awareness of quite a few things in relationships, but mostly awareness of what the type of woman I'm dating is like, understanding her type of personality and personal traits, the way she reacts to things, and so on. If she reacts very happily about financial issues or asks alot of financial questions, its very likely she's a gold digger, even if she doesnt explicitly say so, and thats not someone I'd want to continue dating with. Furthermore, discussions on forums, as you might know(or not know), must be done with respect, even minimal respect. To say "BS" about something someone else have said is quite disrespectful. I'm not offended, but just saying. About the "oblivious" accusation, I disagree. I have alot of awareness, I'm concered about many things and I also am the one who created this thread, just to remind you that, so I'm the last person to be considered oblivious here. Our opinions vary and that's predictable and understandable, but the basic principle of respecting each other in a discussion is very important. If you fail to do that, dont be surprised if people dont want to discuss anything with you, or talk to you altogether(although I havent decided yet if thats what I'll do, or something else).
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I wouldn't call myself a gold digger as such but I see nothing wrong with allowing a man to take me out and pay for everything as part of a casual arrangement. Its fun and if it makes us both happy for a short while then why not.
In a long term relationship I like to earn my own money and contribute more equally but it is important to me that my partner is financially sound. But that's because I see it as a strength, not necessarily because I want a meal ticket.
In a long term relationship I like to earn my own money and contribute more equally but it is important to me that my partner is financially sound. But that's because I see it as a strength, not necessarily because I want a meal ticket.
Women who are gold diggers almost never admit to being a gold digger, just like people who steal wouldnt ever admit being a thief, and so on. Allowing the man to pay for you on a date at some point is fine if its only occassionally. If he's the one paying all the time and you arent ever paying and you always expect him to pay, you have a big problem, and yes, you are a gold digger if you behave that way(not saying you do, but thats a typical gold digger behavior). I dont know you personally but I have a feeling you tend to hide your gold digger tendencies and mask them under a fake identity of some innocent woman. There's a big, HUGE difference between being a gold digger and simply being a person who generally appreciates a man with a high income/good financial condition. Besides, if the financial issues are at the top priority of yours when it comes to choosing a man, obviously you have gold digger tendencies, and it doesnt matter what you think about yourself, what matters is the way you think and behave about the money of a man and his financial situation and the impact it has, or doesnt have, on you/relationship itself.
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23 Aug 2022, 1:30 am
Noamx wrote:
Where_am_I wrote:
Noamx wrote:
To be honest, I disagree with the "women make less money than men" concept. Maybe in your country things can be different, but its not a fair situation where the man makes more and that automatically means the woman can sit at home all day and enjoy being the gold digger who only does some basic home chores and thats it. I dont like that, its not a fair situation to be in for a man. There are probably couples who are fine with that but its probably rare. Its not desirable and is a bad habit, women need to work and earn money, not wait for the man to get back home every evening and bring the food to the table, thats great of course, but the woman needs to work too, she doesnt HAVE to be making the same amount as the man does but she still needs to go to work anyways. Say whatever you want in this thread everyone, but I think, a relationship in which the man goes to work and the woman remains unemployed is a terrible relationship, its unfair for the man and the only men who are okay with being in this type of relationship/situation are just idiots who fail to understand the unfairness of the situation they are in. Women need to work too, end of story.
BS. I know of many controlling men who are in this type of relationship because they want a slave.
Are you really that oblivious?
No, not really. I have awareness of quite a few things in relationships, but mostly awareness of what the type of woman I'm dating is like, understanding her type of personality and personal traits, the way she reacts to things, and so on. If she reacts very happily about financial issues or asks alot of financial questions, its very likely she's a gold digger, even if she doesnt explicitly say so, and thats not someone I'd want to continue dating with. Furthermore, discussions on forums, as you might know(or not know), must be done with respect, even minimal respect. To say "BS" about something someone else have said is quite disrespectful. I'm not offended, but just saying. About the "oblivious" accusation, I disagree. I have alot of awareness, I'm concered about many things and I also am the one who created this thread, just to remind you that, so I'm the last person to be considered oblivious here. Our opinions vary and that's predictable and understandable, but the basic principle of respecting each other in a discussion is very important. If you fail to do that, dont be surprised if people dont want to discuss anything with you, or talk to you altogether(although I havent decided yet if thats what I'll do, or something else).
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I wouldn't call myself a gold digger as such but I see nothing wrong with allowing a man to take me out and pay for everything as part of a casual arrangement. Its fun and if it makes us both happy for a short while then why not.
In a long term relationship I like to earn my own money and contribute more equally but it is important to me that my partner is financially sound. But that's because I see it as a strength, not necessarily because I want a meal ticket.
In a long term relationship I like to earn my own money and contribute more equally but it is important to me that my partner is financially sound. But that's because I see it as a strength, not necessarily because I want a meal ticket.
Women who are gold diggers almost never admit to being a gold digger, just like people who steal wouldnt ever admit being a thief, and so on. Allowing the man to pay for you on a date at some point is fine if its only occassionally. If he's the one paying all the time and you arent ever paying and you always expect him to pay, you have a big problem, and yes, you are a gold digger if you behave that way(not saying you do, but thats a typical gold digger behavior). I dont know you personally but I have a feeling you tend to hide your gold digger tendencies and mask them under a fake identity of some innocent woman. There's a big, HUGE difference between being a gold digger and simply being a person who generally appreciates a man with a high income/good financial condition. Besides, if the financial issues are at the top priority of yours when it comes to choosing a man, obviously you have gold digger tendencies, and it doesnt matter what you think about yourself, what matters is the way you think and behave about the money of a man and his financial situation and the impact it has, or doesnt have, on you/relationship itself.
I was stating a fact - not an opinion.
I'm fully aware of what is and isn't disrespectful, thanks. I shall express myself whichever way I see fit.
You know where the report button is.
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25 Aug 2022, 5:41 pm
r00tb33r wrote:
I honestly don't care about partner's net worth as long as they're responsible with what they're given and are not wasteful.
It usually comes from first-hand experience with how much effort it takes to earn. Partners who have never worked or live with their parents don't have a good appreciation of how much work something takes.
Some people who never worked due to disabilities are used to living very frugally due to various benefits & assistance being very limited. Some disableds who live with parents feel guilty about it, especially if their parents were very poor or put them down a lot for not being independent. Also in some poor areas that have hard-core traditional values, the women may grow up believing that taking care of their husband & kids should be their job & are very appreciative of their working husband even if he is dirt poor. I think lots of financially independent working women expect their guy to be just as financially independent as they are if not more so & are offended at the idea of living frugally since they worked so hard to become independent. Those women are a horrible match for me & part of the reason why I still woulda sought out someone poor if I had suddenly came into a lot of money when I was single.
It usually comes from first-hand experience with how much effort it takes to earn. Partners who have never worked or live with their parents don't have a good appreciation of how much work something takes.
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