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01 Jun 2024, 10:37 am

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ND women aren’t as attractive as NT women.

Nah nah nah we aren't going to go on a whole other tangent here.

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01 Jun 2024, 10:39 am

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I strongly insist that you seek out therapy, because I don't think any normal "strong" person will consider killing themselves over something that can be easily managed instead of lying to yourself and others around you.

Everyone lies to an extent. Do you think rich people got rich by being honest?

Yes, but I am not talking about rich people lying. I am talking about how you feel the extreme need to lie or kill yourself.

It was an example. I will not accept my autism. I do not want anyone to know I have it. I do not want support. I have two choices, succeed at life by NT passing. Or die.

When it comes to employment you may have to fake and lie some, like capitalism sucks and that is the way the game is played. But do you really want your personal life to be a lie to? Like wouldn't you rather be able to de-stress when you come home rather than also having to put on some act for your partner....and just never have the chance to be yourself even at home?

It would be better to accept the autism, and just learn and do research on social interaction to improve in that area. Or dare I say fake your way through some situations, but you can't really fake NT behavior if you don't understand it...

yeah, that's the thing. You can learn how to mimic but when you cannot understand it that's where you fail. There are so many subtle things in social interaction that it's impossible to keep up the mask and be able to be successful every single time. Even NTs struggle with it.

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01 Jun 2024, 10:43 am

honeytoast wrote:

FrostBender wrote:

ND women aren’t as attractive as NT women.

Nah nah nah we aren't going to go on a whole other tangent here.

That's interesting

Do you find yourself less attractive than NT men

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01 Jun 2024, 10:43 am

honeytoast wrote:

Even NTs struggle with it.

NTs do not struggle with social interaction. It’s built-in. Just like a spider automatically knows how to build a web.

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01 Jun 2024, 10:43 am

babybird wrote:

honeytoast wrote:

FrostBender wrote:

ND women aren’t as attractive as NT women.

Nah nah nah we aren't going to go on a whole other tangent here.

That's interesting

Do you find yourself less attractive than NT men

Yes. My ears and nose are too big.

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01 Jun 2024, 10:44 am

FrostBender wrote:

honeytoast wrote:

Even NTs struggle with it.

NTs do not struggle with social interaction. It’s built-in. Just like a spider automatically knows how to build a web.

That’s not true. NTs can be shy, anxious, and socially awkward sometimes too. Social skills are learned.

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01 Jun 2024, 10:45 am

TwilightPrincess wrote:

FrostBender wrote:

honeytoast wrote:

Even NTs struggle with it.

NTs do not struggle with social interaction. It’s built-in. Just like a spider automatically knows how to build a web.

That’s not true. NTs can be shy, anxious, and socially awkward too. Social skills are learned.

It doesn’t matter because society accepts them for being NT

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01 Jun 2024, 10:45 am

FrostBender wrote:

babybird wrote:

honeytoast wrote:

FrostBender wrote:

ND women aren’t as attractive as NT women.

Nah nah nah we aren't going to go on a whole other tangent here.

That's interesting

Do you find yourself less attractive than NT men

Yes. My ears and nose are too big.

I love ears and noses me

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01 Jun 2024, 10:46 am

FrostBender wrote:

honeytoast wrote:

Even NTs struggle with it.

NTs do not struggle with social interaction. It’s built-in. Just like a spider automatically knows how to build a web.

Yeah they do. They embarrass themselves and have awkward moments like we do. Put anyone in an unfamiliar situation where they automatically know how to respond with 1000% perfection.

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01 Jun 2024, 10:46 am

FrostBender wrote:

TwilightPrincess wrote:

FrostBender wrote:

honeytoast wrote:

Even NTs struggle with it.

NTs do not struggle with social interaction. It’s built-in. Just like a spider automatically knows how to build a web.

That’s not true. NTs can be shy, anxious, and socially awkward too. Social skills are learned.

It doesn’t matter because society accepts them for being NT

That’s not true either. People can be rejected by others for any number of reasons.

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01 Jun 2024, 10:46 am

FrostBender wrote:

TwilightPrincess wrote:

FrostBender wrote:

honeytoast wrote:

Even NTs struggle with it.

NTs do not struggle with social interaction. It’s built-in. Just like a spider automatically knows how to build a web.

That’s not true. NTs can be shy, anxious, and socially awkward too. Social skills are learned.

It doesn’t matter because society accepts them for being NT

Aw man where I come from anyone's fair game

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01 Jun 2024, 10:47 am

FrostBender wrote:

NTs do not struggle with social interaction. It’s built-in.

This is incorrect - social interaction is learned behavior.

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01 Jun 2024, 10:48 am

I just want to make myself attractive and hang out with other attractive people. Like what you see on MTV Spring Break

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01 Jun 2024, 10:49 am

MaxE wrote:

Interestingly, I believe having an autistic girlfriend (if such was the case) was probably the best introduction to relationships for me, although in the long run I think I'm better off being with an NT woman.

Autistic women aren’t necessarily that different from other women in the sense that we are all unique individuals.

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01 Jun 2024, 10:50 am

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I just want to make myself attractive and hang out with other attractive people. Like what you see on MTV Spring Break

That's a nice dream to have

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01 Jun 2024, 10:51 am

Nothing is more attractive than accepting who you are.

MTV Spring Break is a reality show that is edited. If you saw the actual true footage that isn't shown you'd probably change your mind.

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