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02 Aug 2010, 11:06 pm

I think NT-ism is just as broad of spectrum as AS. I do wonder though. So far the only people (even the ones I disagree with) I get along with are on the spectrum or have some severe disorder like BP. What's funny is BP "Bipolar Disorder" and AS are polar opposites yet it seems they're the two extremes I've been able to socialize better with.


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07 Aug 2010, 11:11 pm

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I think NT-ism is just as broad of spectrum as AS. I do wonder though. So far the only people (even the ones I disagree with) I get along with are on the spectrum or have some severe disorder like BP. What's funny is BP "Bipolar Disorder" and AS are polar opposites yet it seems they're the two extremes I've been able to socialize better with.


I thought BP stood for British Petroleum...


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07 Aug 2010, 11:22 pm

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MissConstrue wrote:
I think NT-ism is just as broad of spectrum as AS. I do wonder though. So far the only people (even the ones I disagree with) I get along with are on the spectrum or have some severe disorder like BP. What's funny is BP "Bipolar Disorder" and AS are polar opposites yet it seems they're the two extremes I've been able to socialize better with.


I thought BP stood for British Petroleum...


It also stands for Borderline Personality witch shares some similarity to bipolar disorder. I never thought bipolar & AS wer opposites. I known a few Aspies online who wer also bipolar & I've had bipolar symptoms years ago cuz of problems dealing with my AS & other issues. I was in a bipolar support group in my area for a while. I think I get along better with bipolars than typical NTs but maybe it's cuz bipolar people are judged unfairly by society because of a disorder they cant help & us Aspies are as well.


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07 Aug 2010, 11:27 pm

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Roxas_XIII wrote:
MissConstrue wrote:
I think NT-ism is just as broad of spectrum as AS. I do wonder though. So far the only people (even the ones I disagree with) I get along with are on the spectrum or have some severe disorder like BP. What's funny is BP "Bipolar Disorder" and AS are polar opposites yet it seems they're the two extremes I've been able to socialize better with.


I thought BP stood for British Petroleum...


It also stands for Borderline Personality witch shares some similarity to bipolar disorder. I never thought bipolar & AS wer opposites. I known a few Aspies online who wer also bipolar & I've had bipolar symptoms years ago cuz of problems dealing with my AS & other issues. I was in a bipolar support group in my area for a while. I think I get along better with bipolars than typical NTs but maybe it's cuz bipolar people are judged unfairly by society because of a disorder they cant help & us Aspies are as well.


That was a joke, but thanks for the info anyways.


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07 Aug 2010, 11:34 pm

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That was a joke, but thanks for the info anyways.


I figured it was but I wanted to be smart :lol: Borderline does have some similarities to bipolar thou & I was diagnosed with that. There was some post here a couple months ago about how Borderline could maybe be related to the AS problems/issues so I don't think that bipolar is opposite extreme of AS


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07 Aug 2010, 11:39 pm

They certainly can. Even though there is a possibility of certain issues arising, they can certainly be successful.


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08 Aug 2010, 5:15 am

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I would have really liked to try. But I've never had a female aspie be attracted to me. It seems like it would be nice to try a relationship with someone that can at least relate to me some.


Also, female aspies are sort of a rarity.


Not as rare as you think.



AS is supposedly to be a part of Autism. That's what YOU believe people ,no??!

In Classic Autism (LFA) , doctors are confident enough to diagnose the LFA girls as AUTISTICS, not as shy , not as other condition, but as AUTISTIC.

So the 4:1 m/f ratio for the classic autism is mostly accurate and true , there are much more male severe autistics than female autistics.

So the "Autistic girls are less identified and more misdiagnosed than boys" theory is proven false for the classic autism case.

And the "Autistic girls can grow unnoticed" is also wrong in case of classic autism, no LFA girl would grow unnoticed by sane parents.

if AS is really a part of Autism , then it would be scientifically illogical that the gender ratio would be 1:1 for AS while it is 3 to 4 :1 for classic autism.



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08 Aug 2010, 9:29 am

It could work, I guess. :)

I've only dated NTs so I wouldn't know. I know more girls on the spectrum than guys. *shrug*



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08 Aug 2010, 10:19 am

Roxas_XIII wrote:
MissConstrue wrote:
I think NT-ism is just as broad of spectrum as AS. I do wonder though. So far the only people (even the ones I disagree with) I get along with are on the spectrum or have some severe disorder like BP. What's funny is BP "Bipolar Disorder" and AS are polar opposites yet it seems they're the two extremes I've been able to socialize better with.


I thought BP stood for British Petroleum...


No, it's Beyond Petroleum. It hasen't been British for years.



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11 Aug 2010, 7:30 am

Yes, my man and I are both Aspies and we are very happy!
Although that said however sometimes it doesn't as I have a girlfriend (we hang out togerher lot's) who had an AS boyfriend who just used her for sex.

Me? Well we both love sex, however I still get used in another way....

To cook his meals!! !!

Ah well you can't have everything

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11 Aug 2010, 7:43 am

Yes. I'm an example.



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11 Aug 2010, 7:52 am

maxisunnygirl wrote:
Me? Well we both love sex, however I still get used in another way....

To cook his meals!! !!


Somehow, reading this brightened my mood a bit :)



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11 Aug 2010, 12:04 pm

Asp-Z wrote:
Roxas_XIII wrote:
MissConstrue wrote:
I think NT-ism is just as broad of spectrum as AS. I do wonder though. So far the only people (even the ones I disagree with) I get along with are on the spectrum or have some severe disorder like BP. What's funny is BP "Bipolar Disorder" and AS are polar opposites yet it seems they're the two extremes I've been able to socialize better with.


I thought BP stood for British Petroleum...


No, it's Beyond Petroleum. It hasen't been British for years.


It could also mean Bad Petroleum or Bull$#!+ Petroleum, those were a couple of acronyms I heard during the oil spill...

Sorry, I'll stop hijacking this thread.


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12 Aug 2010, 5:39 am

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I've had a NT girlfriend before, and it was pure hell...i thought i fell in love, then she says "I don't know what love is", "[removed - M.]", and all these mean things, and in the back of my mind i'm sayin' "WOW, are you serious?", and she kept asking if i loved her....she screwed me up bigtime, plus i hated hugging her...well to my point, can 2 Autistic's be lovers?...cuz that'd be quite awesome


Even people who are in love don't know what love is. She sounds rather insecure since she constantly needed reminders she was loved. The boyfriend/girlfriend status screwed me up big time. Broke my heart/expectations. The tittle isn't so much what you might think it is.

My solution was to never ask a girl out.. ever. And it's worked good. I'd hang out with different girls and when something felt more right it would get more serious, naturally. I just left it up to her to figure out if it was serious or not. Guaranteed some people just don't follow or think you don't like them. Looking back It's kinda nice it didn't work out with those ones. Anyways I ended up in a very nice relationship with a girl I never asked out. Been going on 4 or 5 years and we're getting married next year.

Oh I could add this method lead to less messy breakups and some long term acquaintances.

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15 Aug 2010, 4:49 pm

Definetely! The best relationship I ever had was with a boy with AS, I was so happy to finally find someone as dedicated and obsessive as I was. Our parents forbid us to date, so sadly I can't be with him but we had an amazing time together when we did. It's really nice towhen you meet them because you feel you have met someone who finally understands...