Anyone here afraid they will never get a girlfriend?

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21 Apr 2010, 9:12 am

i sleep better on my own and i do have a girlfriend and i love her but i like to sleep alone more than i like to sleep with her.
she snores and that is somehow soothing to me when i am asleep and she likes to hug me which is okay as long as she does not not suffocate me.
she is medium functioning autistic and that is fine because i know she judges me from a very pure point of view and i love her very much but i can not be romantic. it is not in me.

she is living a very bland life and i want to make her life better and more interesting, but i myself am also rather severely affected by autism and i have no romantic element in me.

if she finds someone better than me then it will be good for her, but for now i will do all i can to leave her in a safe position with security for life if i happen to die.

i do not mention her much but she is my love and i am sad that i am retarded to the extent that i only want to be with her once per week.

she wants to live with me and be in every aspect of my life, but i am sick in my personality and i need to be alone most of the time.

if ever i left life, then i would be extremely concerned as to her welfare and i have made my will out to leave her everything i own which is a lot.

i have been asleep for a while and i am writing this in the fog of my early wakefulness but i am going back to sleep now.



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21 Apr 2010, 4:00 pm

b9 wrote:
how could it be scary not to have a girl friend?


Because after time, people can begin to doubt whether or not they have the capacity to have one - let alone have a good relationship. They may start to question themselves more in other areas as a result.



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21 Apr 2010, 8:06 pm

I am trying....


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22 Apr 2010, 8:05 pm

theres always a match if you really cant find someone you could try dating sites but im sure someone right for you will come along



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22 Apr 2010, 8:12 pm

Sucks the way dating sites are so bad.

Your best bet is to participate in a forum that relates to your interests, and if possible, become a moderator, or a well respected member.

I know this works because i've been an active forum user for 10 years.



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22 Apr 2010, 10:10 pm

I'm not afraid that I'll never get a girlfriend, I just don't expect or realistically hope that I'll ever get one.



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23 Apr 2010, 1:32 am

Yes...

Girls think I am boring.



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23 Apr 2010, 3:49 am

I'm just so scared that I will spend the rest of my life being inhumanly sexy in the eyes of so many women that I will live out my remaining years as a mere sex toy employed by horny women in their most lustful moments. :(



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23 Apr 2010, 5:25 am

I have had to wait until the blessed age of 44 before I finally found someone as worthy of my love as I was of hers.

Yes, she does have her issues. But the best metal is always forged in the hottest fire.

And now I am prizing myself lucky that I have always been such a social moron. The thought that anyone else but her had found me first makes me shudder. Thank God that did not happen.

It even makes me scared to believe in chance, which my penchant for logic should tell me to do. Because the odds against the two of us ever meeting(she lives in London, 250 miles away from me) were so overwhelming.


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23 Apr 2010, 8:03 am

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23 Apr 2010, 8:34 am

sarek wrote:
I have had to wait until the blessed age of 44 before I finally found someone as worthy of my love as I was of hers.

Yes, she does have her issues. But the best metal is always forged in the hottest fire.


Just remember, on the flip side, the hottest fires burn out much more quickly.



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26 Apr 2010, 9:46 pm

I haven't dated anyone since 11th grade, and yes, I do fear I'll never get a girlfriend. (At the very least, I need sex.)

I've always hidden my Aspie-ness and associated with as many "normies" or "neurotypicals" or whatever you want to call them as possible, distancing myself from other Aspies and autistics. I'm scared to death that if a woman were to ever find out that I was among the ranks of Aspergians, she'd hate me for it. (You know how politicians always fear that a scandal might destroy their political lives? It's kinda the same thing with me.)



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28 Apr 2010, 10:53 pm

Einschmidt wrote:
I am :cry:



Yes, I am 40 and I have never had a girlfriend but I still hope for the best. An inspiring article I read a couple of years ago online but can't find now, was an Aspie guy from Ohio who wrote about love and being in an Asperger Support Group. He finally had his first girlfriend in his mid 40s.

Maybe it is not over yet but I am still worried as well.



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29 Apr 2010, 5:24 pm

Sirius wrote:
Einschmidt wrote:
I am :cry:



Yes, I am 40 and I have never had a girlfriend but I still hope for the best. An inspiring article I read a couple of years ago online but can't find now, was an Aspie guy from Ohio who wrote about love and being in an Asperger Support Group. He finally had his first girlfriend in his mid 40s.

Maybe it is not over yet but I am still worried as well.


Just hire an escort who looks like someone you once had a crush on.

Love is the delusion that one woman differs from the other.



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29 Apr 2010, 9:35 pm

RICKY5 wrote:
Sirius wrote:
Einschmidt wrote:
I am :cry:



Yes, I am 40 and I have never had a girlfriend but I still hope for the best. An inspiring article I read a couple of years ago online but can't find now, was an Aspie guy from Ohio who wrote about love and being in an Asperger Support Group. He finally had his first girlfriend in his mid 40s.

Maybe it is not over yet but I am still worried as well.


Just hire an escort who looks like someone you once had a crush on.

Love is the delusion that one woman differs from the other.

The downside to that is that it could be very expensive.



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29 Apr 2010, 11:44 pm

Bataar wrote:
RICKY5 wrote:
Sirius wrote:
Einschmidt wrote:
I am :cry:



Yes, I am 40 and I have never had a girlfriend but I still hope for the best. An inspiring article I read a couple of years ago online but can't find now, was an Aspie guy from Ohio who wrote about love and being in an Asperger Support Group. He finally had his first girlfriend in his mid 40s.

Maybe it is not over yet but I am still worried as well.


Just hire an escort who looks like someone you once had a crush on.

Love is the delusion that one woman differs from the other.

The downside to that is that it could be very expensive.


The average rate is usually around 250 for the hour which is reasonable.