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In other words, you're talking about the male version of Miss Hannah Minx (from YouTube).

Then you are not a match, and you should find someone that you are sexually compatible with.

Number 6 on you list, is also a turn off for me

One I forgot to mention: Adult men who live with their parents.

>_>

This is a rare instance where I disagree with you, HopeGrows!
I don't think it's about compatibility so much as it is dependent on experience.

Were I to apply to a new job, and list my 'desired position' a Chief Executive Officer, I probably wont get it. I have very little experience to establish me as CEO material.

Similarly, if you, Tim_Tex, attempt to assert a more advanced stage of a sexual relationship, despite your relatively small amount of sexual experience and variety, you'll have a difficult time attaining your desired outcome. You have very little experience with-which to maneuver into that situation.

The guys that are able to move quickly into a sexual relationship, or are able to go quickly into 'less classic' sexual situations are able to do it because:
1) They are very experienced with interacting with women, and have more situational/empirical knowledge to base their actions on,
2) they're very empathetic toward them, and able to read into their desires easier, allowing them to know when to advance, and when to halt, and
3) building on the prior two points, they know how adeptly illicit a feeling of trust and comfort. Sex requires a big feeling of comfort and trust, and alternative sex requires even more trust. There are few people who are able to easily let go of the trust requirement.

You can look all day for someone with-whom you can skip right over all that, but you'll be looking a very long time. A shorter route would be to get together with whomever, and progress towards more trust and adventurism by following the progression step by step, and not trying to jump-forward prematurely. As a secondary bonus, it gives a basis of experience that can be utilized if you move on to another relationship.

Most people don't wear their minor sexual preferences nor hard inhibitions, on their sleeves. Most people need to walk slowly toward something different, if they've never done it before, even if they're actually interested in it, or would enjoy it. Those who can move fast do so because the interaction between themselves and their partner is so 'in-tune' and empathetic, because at least one of the two people is very very good at guiding the other.

If you have only been with one or two women in your life, then you will probably not be able to move that fast until you have been with more women and understand them better.

In other words, your requirements are too high, and you don't generally meet the qualifications yet. You might get lucky, but that's a bad gamble.

That wasn't what I was referring to. I was referring to those people, usually religious fundamentalists, who refuse to try certain sexual things because "their religion forbids it", or thinking it will bring shame to their family, etc.

Are you just basing everyone on one person you had a bad experience with?

Oh no you di'int, @Sound! Actually, I think we're giving advice for different situations. Your approach seems to relate to how to approach compromise when it comes to sex/sexual preferences. I totally agree with your advice.

I read Tim_Tex's question as asking what to do when attempts at compromise have failed - I do think it's best to move on when that happens.

Well, you have two choices: stay in the relationship knowing your sexual needs will not be met; find another partner who is willing to meet your sexual needs.

As I said, that's possibly more a cultural thing, around here it's not unusual for four generations (grandparents, parents, children and grandchildren) to live together in the same home...

What about adult men who live with their in-laws?

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Yeah, true. That would be fine, in Western European countries, US, UK, Aus, NZ, it's considered strange to be living with your parents when you're working/finished being a student.

I like a woman who is nice and placid and feminine and loves masculinity so much that she doesn't feel the need to discuss what kind of men she likes with other men. She just goes with what she feels is right; she likes to be swept off her feet and passionately embraced. Yes, indeed; this is what I like.

Liberal girls turn me way off. Girls with short hair, and I mean short enough to pass as a boy.

I didn't realize smoking was a turn off for so many people! I'm an on again off again smoker, so I don't know what to call myself. I guess my biggest turn offs would be guys who don't like animals and people who are really judgmental/close minded. The sort of people/guys who have really strong opinions and aren't open to hearing others, while theirs are very poorly based. Physical turn offs...really long hair on guys, and guys who pants are so low you can see their crack

Ah! I see now. My bad.

Though, I personally doubt you have to worry much about this... My impression(possibly wrong?) is that most people don't let their faith intrude in their sex life.


Ooh, Good point. Misunderstood, then. Yep, agreed again, as usual.