Turn-offs
Some turn offs for me:
1)Lapdogs - no time for guys like that at all
2)Arrogant men with a superiority complex
3)Bitchy men
4)Men who like anime
5)Whiny submissive men/pushovers
6)guys who always objectify women, talk about "f***ing" and crude sexual things, and their boners and stuff
7) Narrow minded men
8. Intense personalities
Desperation, athough that comes under 1) 5) and 6)
Well, you just ruled out 98% of the world's manhood right there.
No kidding. That's basically asking for a normal guy who doesn't engage in normal guy behaviors. The only ones who could come close to meeting ALL of that, are either really cool and wanted by every woman who has ever lived, or happen to be really good at hiding some nasty attitudes.
I really don't think 98% of men are like that. Most of the men I've met aren't any of those. If they are crude they are discreet and tactful about it. I can deal with a superiority complex if its not out of hand. reasonably flexible I suppose, really the only things that give me the female equivilant of "going flaccid" are:
Lapdogs
Anime lovers
Pushovers
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My turn offs
1. eating with your mouth open - this is rage inducing for me.
2. smoking - females and smoking is a no go
3. lack of self confidence - it's one thing to know your limits, it's another to be negative about yourself
4. Lois Lane - I'm not super man, I can't save you. You have to save yourself
5. Possessive - I don't have many friends, please don't harass me about the few I do have.
Edit:
6. Don't be a weeaboo - japan isn't that cool.
and... that's all I can think of right now.
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that list isn't too bad. but nowadays it might be hard to find a guy who doesn't like at least a little anime. You may wanna change that to "isn't a weeaboo" which I'm actually gonna add to me list right now
Smoking, definitely. If I see a woman smoking, I lose any interest and turn my attention to anything else. Don't they know what they're doing to their bodies? And to other people around them?
I guess you mean those freaks who live and breath Japanese animation ("anime" is just the term the Japanese use for any animation, regardless of the country of origin), thinking anything that is Japanese animation is the 8th wonder of the world and anything that isn't is a POS, and not people who just ocassionally will watch some (like for example Speed Racer, which I used to watch as a kid looong ago and have watched on re-runs in Cartoon Network out of nostalgia). I've been around such people when I used to do maintenance to the PCs of a company that edited a fanzine, and they are annoying like hell with that attitude, regardless of gender.
Those two rule out a LOT of people in my country. Unemployment/underemployment is still high and it's usual for 4 generations to live in the same home. I guess it's more of a cultural thing.
that list isn't too bad. but nowadays it might be hard to find a guy who doesn't like at least a little anime. You may wanna change that to "isn't a weeaboo" which I'm actually gonna add to me list right now
There are heaps of guys who don't do anime. I mean I tend to get along with geeks well (and more of them like anime than mainstream men), comic books, video games, cartoons, but obsession with anime and watching it in Japanese with subtitles is just such a turn off. If you like Japan that much pack up your life and move there.
Acting Japanese is fine... if you're Japanese.
Also, I don't know what a weeaboo is. It depends on the person too, some geeks are just really unattractive personality wise and others aren't.
The thing that consistently turns me off is when I realize that a girl I like is a social-addicted NT. Usually this is fairly obvious, like when a girl looks like she couldn't take her hands off her phone if it were on fire, but not always. Along the same lines, I don't like the Lois Lane types. I like females that are self-sufficient. After all, relationships are supposed to be external; an extension of yourself, not something you rely on like an organ.
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Yeah I mean a Japanese animation fanboy. Doesn't watch normal cartoons. Doesn't watch Japanese animation in English. Is absoultely appalled and disgusted at the idea of not watching it in japanese. Pretty much dominates their bedroom with crap about it, is a know all about it if anyone asks questions, knows about every obscure one there is.
Yeah people can do what they want, I just find that particular trait grossly unattractive.
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that list isn't too bad. but nowadays it might be hard to find a guy who doesn't like at least a little anime. You may wanna change that to "isn't a weeaboo" which I'm actually gonna add to me list right now
There are heaps of guys who don't do anime. I mean I tend to get along with geeks well (and more of them like anime than mainstream men), comic books, video games, cartoons, but obsession with anime and watching it in Japanese with subtitles is just such a turn off. If you like Japan that much pack up your life and move there.
Acting Japanese is fine... if you're Japanese.
Also, I don't know what a weeaboo is. It depends on the person too, some geeks are just really unattractive personality wise and others aren't.
the term weeaboo was originally coined as a term for white people who are obsessed with japanese culture but I just use it for anyone who is obsessed much in the way you described with Japan. I'm not a japanophile but any anime I do watch I prefer to do so with subtitles because of the way I interpret language, I prefer literal translations... I do the same thing with spanish shows/games/etc.
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Pot+kettle much?
I'm not narrow minded. I am picky. Enormous difference.
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I'd apply pretty much that whole list of turnoffs to women (although don't know about the anime, I never watched one in my life and I guess I don't understand the issues at hand), and I'm not in a position looks wise to be quite so picky as halebopp. Certain things just do not work. You'll run into a lot less bad s**t in your life if you understand that.
Patience is a virtue?
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Some turn offs for me:
1)Lapdogs - no time for guys like that at all
2)Arrogant men with a superiority complex
3)Bitchy men
4)Men who like anime
5)Whiny submissive men/pushovers
6)guys who always objectify women, talk about "f***ing" and crude sexual things, and their boners and stuff
7) Narrow minded men
8. Intense personalities
Desperation, athough that comes under 1) 5) and 6)
Well, you just ruled out 98% of the world's manhood right there.
No kidding. That's basically asking for a normal guy who doesn't engage in normal guy behaviors. The only ones who could come close to meeting ALL of that, are either really cool and wanted by every woman who has ever lived, or happen to be really good at hiding some nasty attitudes.
BS. She's describing what most women want. She's describing a well-adjusted man. You guys should pay attention.
For me...
Doesn't like to travel/is lazy
Asexual, or low sex drive
Narrow-mindedness
Isn't affectionate/doesn't like being touched
Not goal-oriented
Doesn't want to start a family (although I admit to being undecided myself)
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